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How can I get some control back in my relationship?

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Soi got married about a year ago, and when we moved in together he basically claimed all my stuff as his own. he took my external hard drive and modified my wii without telling me (which i didnt want him to do) and now i don't know how to use it and he never plays it. he started getting really pissed off when i tried to get it back to store all of my pictures on (I have over 25G of pics that need a home away from my 250G hard drive on my laptop) He also tends to push me out of the way when im trying to use something (like my .22) or do something he wants to do. I cook and clean and take care of the dog 100% unless i sit there and nag at him for hours to do it. the most hes ever done is unload the dishwasher and take the dog out to do her business. Right now im in between jobs so i can see myself doing most of the cleaning but i still feel as if i shouldn't be totally picking up after him like this. When he is home all he does is play video games on the 1200 computer he just bought (against my advice) and put on our credit card, or telling me hes hungry. its gotten to the point where its affecting our sexual life as well. he pays absolutely no attention to me unless he wants sex or food, and he seems to think its my duty to give it to him every night, even if i'm not in the mood. Hes totally inconsiderate to my feelings and covers up his mistakes with jokes and laughter and short bursts of affection which piss me off more than calm me down. occasionally he finds it necessary to cuddle for a few minutes, but most of the time when this happens hes absorbed into the tv, so its not like i can try to talk to him. I would like to see him be more involved with home, because until he can show some responsibility i don't want to have kids with him, i mean all a kid would be is another burden on me. I might as well be raising the kid by myself. I am into video gaming as well, but he doesnt play two player games, and the one that we both got into he doesnt play anymore because he has about 100 other games to play. i feel neglected. ive tried everything i can think of to get him to a)help out even a little bit and b) actually pay actual attention to me at night, not just sex. nothing works.