Cant get over her...

Love is tricky because when you fall in love, you open your heart and soul to a person. Your connection is deeper then anything else and all you see are the beautiful sides to that person. With time you even learn to love the sides that get on your nerves and even they are comforting when you’ve missed the person.

Personally, I think a year is the minimum to start getting over someone you were really serious about. It’s the right amount of time to be able to breathe and live again without thinking of the person 24/7. It’s the right amount of time that you start rebuilding your life and can look at your past relationship with some distance.

Should you have gotten over her? Not really. This was the most important person in your life for four years! You might have gotten over the break up but she was still an important part of your life and the good memories (and bad) that you have will be around for the rest of your life.

As for moving one, you’ve already started doing that. Just because you felt that little reminiscent spark that once was it doesn’t mean it’s the same one you had once. You felt a bit of what you felt a long time ago. This is normal but if you think about it some more, you’d realize it took a (helluva) lot of time and work to be able to see her, talk to her and feel more love then hate for all that happened. You’ll most probably always care for her but you guys broke up for a reason(s) and that reason(s) still exists. Though it might be nice to see her for a chat and reminisce it has nothing to do with building a solid relationship and working out all the past problems.

You’ve got to try to have perspective on the whole thing and remember why you broke up and why you thought it couldn’t work out any more. This is what will help you understand what went wrong and what type of new relationship you want to build. Once you start concentrating on what you really want to share with someone it will be much easier to let her go and open your heart to someone else.