can't do with it, can't do without it...

alright here it goes… my fren who I date off and on, I get annoyed with him soon, because’ actually I think I need more time, I wanna c him at coffee, meal or just hang out fr him but he is mostly busy with his meetings and so do deny me and when he does I m busy so cant make out. but I miss him dearly. The other day he ws talking abt a gal whom he found very pretty and said v are just frends , though she proposed me but I dunn wanna marry her so now avoiding her. I was jealous hearing it, still I told him go ahead so that he feels that I am not stopping him for anything but this made me think that may be she is the reason why he ignores me and doesnt care to spend his time with me, so I did msg him that dont you think we shud quit our relation, because you are unhappy and so he did reply yes, better for boh of us, now we nt gonna talk… I cried but then I think its ok because I dunn want him to ignore me like that..but later he confessed that he does luv me as alws and I shud trust him…I said yes ok… But still hes busy and dont meet me and because this thing happened, I think I need more attention and wanna meet him but in vain I cant seem to take him out of my mind, I alws think abt him as I do not date anyone else. What you think will be best for me…what I think that in order to save this relation, we need to help it , by meetin and covering up these many gaps, or otehr time I think I shud let it go, but yeh I alws miss him…??

Answer #1

You obviously have feelings for him that for some reason you aren’t ready to admit. I think it would really help if you could figure out how you feel for the guy. Maybe what you really want is a serious relationship? I think you should take some time to think about your relationship and what you really need and want form it. When this is clear to you then you can make it clear for him. Until then you should respect his choices and responsibilities. This isn’t easy for him because he says he cares about you but at the same time your relationship isn’t clear…juts friends or more? I think the best thing to do is clear that up then you can move on either with him or without him. You have to make a choice.

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