My wife and I have "couple friends" typically, lol. In California, it was other parents of kids that our children became friends with, and then their "friend circle" so to speak, sort of started to include us as well at that point.
Living here now, we have an odd mix of friends, with me being a foreigner and her used to living outside the country, most of our good friends that we hang out with as a couple are foreigners...and because she has a ton of family, we spend a lot of time with them.
If you want to make more friends, I'd recommend doing things where you meet people, eg, dancing, etc, my wife and I met a few couples that were fun to hang out with before we had kids that way.
I know what you mean. That's a pretty easy place to find yourself in. I have like 4 or 5 friends that I talk to on a regular basis that I have known as long or longer than my husband, and other than that everyone else is 'our' friends. I became friends with his friends' wives/girlfriends and he became friends with my friends' husbands/boyfriends. We hang out with our families alot, especially my sister and his cousins. It works for us, as long as your situation works for you and your husband, I wouldn't worry about it. Making friends is hard, finding friends is easier. If you want other friends in your life, the best thing to do is to wait for the right person to come into your life.
I think it is healthier to have women friends too. You and your husband will always have a very, very special bond that is more than friendship. But it's important to have girl friends to have drinks with and gossip. Maybe you and your husband could go to a couples bar to meet new couples. You could have dinner all together and that way your husband and the guy could talk about guy things, and you and the woman could talk about girl things. It will be awkward at first, and you may have to spend time with people you don't like for a while, but you will find a couple that you both like. The process is good socialization too.
Well I mean now a days you cant trust anyone what so ever. Theyll back stab you in a heart beat. I trust no girl around my husband. I get really defensive when a girl is around or even looks at him. I know he looks good, and its nice that other girls want him. But they try anything and i'll break em from doing that to anyone else lol.
The only problem is I trust no one. He is only person I trust. I have been used and back stabbed way too many times. Im not the wild type like all the others. I would much rather stay at home and play games on the 360 or laptop. I know its unhealthy, but its also extremely hard for me to make friends and trust them.
If it is, I'm guilty as well :) I work online and go to school here, so making friends isn't exactly easy. Aside from the occasional chat outside with my neighbors, it's all husband all day long. We also share friends. There's no his friends, my friends. We like it better that way. No jealousy or torn emotions.
it think its a bit unhealthey becuse your always around one anther how can you have a balenced opion if you know every single move the outher is makeing? part of a good friend ship is seeing things from the out side looking in giveing complitly difrent view points and banter that keep the outher engrossed
i think it would be better to have other friends. Otherwise if he has to go away or something you wont really have anyone else to spend time with. Also, its healthy to have time apart sometimes or may drive each other crazy after a while!
Note: I spend maybe an hour away from my husband a day...MAYBE. We work together, sleep together, go out together, eat together...everything. It can be a bit much sometimes, but for the most part, it's not as bad as you would think :)
All the girls I know have the hots for my husband and their very untrustworthy to be around him. There is no girl I know I would let come too close to him. Thats bad to say but its true.
Why...so I can worry whether or not they gonna start drama, or talk bad about me behind my back. All the friends I thought I had did that to me. So why would others be any different?
Hah if any girl tried to steal him I would stomp her. Im not worried abt him leaving me ^-^. But another girl is in trouble if she tries to mess with him or talk him into leaving me.
After hanging out with mostly couples for four plus years, well, you get used to it :) Besides, guy's like to talk about stuff other than what style shoes go with what dress, etc :)
Trust...agreed. My husband screens everyone who comes into our life and weeds out the bad seeds. He's like my trustometer..haha.
Also this way you don't have to worry about the girl 'stealing' your husband because she is already married.
Couple friends... does that make you feel old? I feel old just spending time with my married friends...
My husband is my one and only true friend; he is my soul mate, and has stood by me through everything
It would be healthier for both you to have friends other than each other.
My fiance is my only friend really. The only one I actually trust.
yea that sucks go get sum friends