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Am I Too Close?

Okay well my mom babysits these too little boys one is 2years old(JoeRamon)& the other one is 1Year old(Jacob)

My question is about Jacob Well lets see I’ve known this baby since the moment he was born I was the second person to carry him his mom is a close family friend. My mom babysits him from 6am-10pm & sometimes they stay over night His mom works & well shes a bit irresponible so hes practacally always here I adore him his my life theres noone on this earth more important to me than him.Me and him are EXTREMELY close when he comes here I take care of him I feed him I shower him I take naps with him he just loves me.He even calls me mommy at times.He crys when I carry other babies & he senses when I dont like people.he walks so he follows me around everywhere.he is actually asleep on my lap right now.

Well a couple of weeks ago he was outside & so was I & my mom & somehow he ran inot the street & a car was coming I saw & immedatley ran after him without thinking I grabed him & put him infront of me & the car hit me(not hard).When the car stopped I Turned him around & I saw he was crying & shaking but he gave me a hug like no other he looked into my eyes & I’ve I could feel him saying thank you. He wouldnt let go of me.& after that day I realized how much I truely adore this baby I literally gave my life for him without thinking & well I’ve realized he is the only boy that would never hurt me I talk 2 him when im sad he wipes my tears away when im cryin & he says “no cry mami” everytime I look at him or hold im in my arms I feel such love like no other & I know that he will always be here for me hes only one year old but he knows me like no one does he feels my pain & my happiness im just scared to lose him & well my question is Do yall think im getting to close to him?even though hes not a relative or anyting? Do you think hes to attached to me?He’s Actually been havin to sleep over a lot because he doesnt want to leave me so do you think this is normal?

(hes the one in the picture!)

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Answer #1

Well, I think it is a little to late to ask if you are too close to him and if he’s too attached. If he calls you mom and wants to stay with you then he thinks that you are his mom and that, my friend, is both a blessing and a curse.

1st off- where is his mother? Yes,she works and everything but does she EVER see them when they are not sleeping? this is not good- you cannot expect to be close to your children if you are never around them.

2nd- a child will get attached and trust the person that cares for him or her. You are this person and he loves you wholeheartedly as you love him. If you, are as you say, willing to give your life for him then you both share a bond that is very very strong.

now the question becomes do you want this to continue? this is a child life here and he needs all the love and joy one can give him. this is a stuff situation but you maybe you should keep your relationship the same- but ask him to call you by your name and no mom-continue to dote on him but always remember that he needs to still learn the life skills of sharing and being around others. As he gets older you can speak more directly to him, explain things nicely. dont get him all confused as of now. I would ask you mom for help and dont forget to talk to the childs mother about this; if she is reasonable she will see that her boys are receiving amazing care and love if she does not like the situation then talk to your mom about what can be done without causing major damage. let him be loved and let yourself be loved.

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