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Am I blind or are they just horribly mean?

All my male friends totally rip on my fiancee. I’ve cut a lot of friendships because I just cant deal with all the negativity anymore. He is an amazing man. Hes the sweetest little thing and hed never hurt a soul, but the people who claim to be my friends refuse to listen to anything positive about him. Mainly they get down on him because of his appearance. Id say a lot of it is due to racism except that even people where he is tear into him. I dont understand why everyone is so hung up on looks. His smile is hilarious, but his personality is amazing and it makes him the sexiest man in the world to me. So why does it seem to me that people only care whats on the outside? Is everyone so naive as to think that beauty is eternal? Looks fade, people age, skin sags (as well as other things.) how did everyone I know suddenly become so shallow?

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Answer #1

Society has everyone thinking that you have to date in your race, and people still won’t accept the fact that there is no race that is better than another, we’re all equal. Really, if you love the guy, don’t worry about something as unimportant as skin. It’s only 2 centimeters thick.

But maybe you should try to listen to them on why they’re being so negative. Are you sure it’s because of his appearance and not his personality? If it’s really just appearence, try to tell them that looks are NOT everything, and keep trying to convince them. If they still believe that something is wrong with him just forget it. But it could also be because they don’t want you to get hurt due to the hardships you may come face-to-face with due to dating a guy of another race. Whatever it is, talk about it with them..

I wish you luck!!

Answer #2

Its strange that all your friends say the same things and feel the same way. Its really disrespectful and if they had any respect for u, then they wouldnt say anything and just keep their personal comments to themselves. you can always find new friends and if this man is so great and makes you smile and is really everything to u, then nothing and no one can take that away or get in the way. Sometimes its jealousy or envy. Maybe your moving up in your life and all your friends are in the same place. Common interests fade out. But seriously, I cant believe that not one friends is a supporter and true to u. Thats strange. Is it really just race? or looks? must be something else. you can speak your mind and ask for respect or you can move on w/your new man and get out of this crazy environment and go be happy and live your life around new people. Its a sad situation, but you cant really do anything. I mean, I wouldnt want to be friends w/someone who was so rude and disrespectful towards my husband. Thats disrespecting you and your choices in your life. Not OK!!!

Answer #3

mm sorry, I thought I had made it clear, when I said “male” friends. my female friends are huge supporters of the relationship and my family loves him

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