21 and pregnant

im 21 and im pregnant. I don’t believe in abortion’s but may have to get one. I want to keep it so bad. I know its wrong but honestly I don’t want the baby to struggle growing up b/c I don’t have a good job yet im still in college getting my degree in teaching. any ideas

Answer #1

Listen to your heart; that’s my true answer. If you want it bad enough, you will do it. It’s certainly isn’t the impossible. There are many women who get pregnant too young that do end up finishing college. If teaching is your passion and that baby is your life, you will NEVER give up on either no matter what. You will succeed in both.

I heard that it’s harder, but it’s all worth it when that baby smiles back at you. When my sister told me that she aborted a baby years ago and told me that it might have been a girl, it sickened me to my stomach. I felt like I had been robbed. I felt that she murdered my baby niece. I think that if it was my own, I wouldn’t be able to KILL it. I hope you make the right decision because once that baby is gone, it’s gone for good. And that might be your only child, EVER.

Answer #2

DONT HAVE AN BORTION IF YOU DONT WANT TO KEEP IT GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTIN THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT WANT TO HAVE A BABY BUT CANT ITS BETTER IF YOU GIVE IT UP IF YOU DONT WANT IT. BUT IS BETTER IF THE BABY STAY WITH YOU BUT ITZ YOUR CHOICE.ASK THE BABY FATHER TO HELP YOU. HE IS RESPONSIBLE TOO

Answer #3

I truly don’t know is there anyone in your family that might want the child for a few years untill you have enough money to care for the child on your own???

Answer #4

dont have an abortion, my mum had me when she was 16.

she went to college, and finished,

she said it was hard and money was tight but now were ok.

it wil be hard

but you can put it in day care, or maybe a friend or family member could look after it.

dont put it up for adoption, imagine how you would feel if ure mum gave you away.

Answer #5

Trust in God and it will all be ok. He will work out a way where there seems to be none, but you have to trust him completely. He loves you and he will help you. I believe you can do it! I am sure you will be a great mother!

Answer #6

As I’ve said before this is your choice… And a lot of pro lifers dont get that it is choice we fight for, not abortions… If you feel the best decision for you is abortion then go ahead (it’s cells feeding off your body for now…) If you decide you should have a baby then go ahead… if you want to keep it, then it’s your choice, if you decide for adoption it is also your choice… Abortion and adoption are difficult choices… either choice is difficult… But keeping it is even more complicated because it’s an every day for the rest of your life decision… Decide what is best for you, because no one on this site can tell you what is right to, nor do they have any right to

Answer #7

I think if you want to keep it you’re really going to need to get your priorities straight and focus solely on that baby(if you are not giving it up for adoption). There are many programs within colleges/universities that assist women with children. Many women have children and are still able to finish school, it’s not easy but it is attainable. Abortion is the easy way out, and if you werent raped or mislead in some way than I dont advise that option. Abortion can cause many health problems that you can read about throguh google if you are interested. Hope you make the right choice for yourself!!

Answer #8

Ok so I know how you feel about abortions.. But you say you dont want to make the child struggle through life? which I also understand.. But why not give it up for adoption.. Im an adopted Child! and I feel it was the best thing that could have happend to me.. if you feel like you cant do this because you will feel guilty for never seeing the child you can always set up an open adoption where you can still it. But please I beg you do not have an abortion. because alls I can feel is. what if I was teh baby that was just aborted I wouldnt be here today telling you this..

Answer #9

I am absolutely pro-choice (as is Ty) so if, after concideration, it is your choice to continue the pregnancy, then that is what you need to do. There is the possibility of adoption. You may find that your drive to keep the baby allows you to succeed. Maybe your church or family will be able to give you the support, esp. encouragement that you will need. There is no doubt that staying on course for your career is going to be in jeopardy without people to aid you. I send you the very best wishes in whatever you decide for this pregnancy. Good Luck!!

Answer #10

You also have the option of putting it up for adoption after birth if you’re not comfortable with the idea of abortion. However, there are a lot of babies and kids up for adoption already, and doing so will not guarantee that the child will have a good life, or that a family will adopt him/her. But if you’re pro-life, at least it has a chance at life. It’s up to you.

Answer #11

I would get an abortion

Answer #12

I’d choose adoption.

Answer #13

keep it…I am 20 4 months pregnant and refused to get a abortion. Just beacuse you made a bad decision dosnt mean you can just throw away a life…developed or not thats your baby you brought into the world and deserves a chance either with you or parents who will adopt.

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