Why is he avoiding me???

heres the story, Then:I met him two years ago and he is a grade lower than me. The school we used to go to was a private school with a very small number of students so everyone was very close with each other. Well I started to like him in 9th grade up till now, and I really like him. During the summer we would see each other at parties and we would text each other everyday. I totally thought he liked me. Then when school started again, we are both in public high school now with like a million more kids, whenever he saw me he would smile and wave like he was happy to see me. We didn’t text as much as we used to.

I had told my other friend that I liked him, and she was trying to get him and me to hang out with her and her boyfriend, like a double date. and Uggh, I stupidly let her ask him if he wanted to hang out with us. A girl he hasn’t even seen before just asked him to hang out with us!! So then next day when my friend wasn’t there, I was walking home with him and he asked me “where is your friend?” me ,”oh she left already.” and then he says “she is weird.” and I am thinking, yeah no kidding! he said it like he meant it.

Now: he never replies when I text him unless I ask like a question.(like, I will say hi! and he won’t reply)Oo, that rhymes(and I don’t just text hi all the time, I say other things)(and this has been going on for like 3 weeks) He doesn’t smile when I am with my friend. He barely smiles at me at all when we pass each other in the hallways. And He never looks me in the eye when I talk to him or should I say ‘if’ I talk to him. We barely talk

Why is he being like this?? Why is this happening? What do I do? no rude answers please, thank you!!! :]

Answer #1

I know you didn’t mean anything by it by, but you may have violated your friendship with him by talking about him with her. Now there’s no problem with you doing that, the problem is that you LET HIM KNOW you were talking about HIM with her when she a complete stranger asked him out of the blue to hang out. You see, he might feel that you violated the one on one friendship he had with by bringing your friend into the picture. Might seem a little moronic, but if you think about it, how would your feel if you found out someone was talking about you behind your back and you didnt know what they were saying. I mean did you tell him stuff about your girl friend? Suddenly he may not even know where he stands as even a friend, if you are confiding in her as opposed to him.

It will get better with time I predict. What may help is being straight up honest with him by telling him that you told her that he was the type of guy that would be easy to have a relationship and then she took that and wanted to play match maker. At least that begins to include him in what is going on. One other option is all three hanging together somewhere as friends so he sees her as your friend and not as someone wierd. Otherwise just bide your time and keep being friendly and he will eventually come around.

Answer #2

Well, I wasn’t talking about him behind his back, well not mean things, I just wanted to hang out with him cause I have a crush on him, but I was too shy to ask so mistakably let my friend ask him. yeah, I told him about her, he knows who she is now. I knew my friend a lot longer than I have known him, and he knows that.

Answer #3

Ask him straight up why he is ijnoring u. Then if he says he isn’t then say is a simple invitation from a stranger going to ruin our friendship?! I kind of think that I could be he just started looking at you as the opposite sex, it could be because his new friend have commented on your body or something, and now he is like ohhh what do I do?! I could be wrongs so don’t get your hopes up.

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