Toddlers seeing parents without clothes

My mom says that our daughter should never see us without clothes (naked). Do you think this is healthy? If she sees us naked around (esp father) will it give her hangups in life?

How many of you have ever seen your parents without clothes when you were small?

Seems pretty much unavoidable to me.

When I take my daugher to the YMCA to swim and we change and shower together she is going ot see me. When I'm home alone watching my toddler there are times when I need to bath or such; what am I supposed to do, tie her up?

I think the biggest thing is to not make a big deal of it. If kids think that seeing a parent naked is a big deal they will make a big deal if it. If they just think it is ordinary they won't give it a second thought.

I personally think it's better not to...besides, might scare 'em to death !! :-)

It seems to me that most people tend to be prudish about it more than any real psychological reasons for not seeing nude parents.

I saw my mother nude all my life, but for some reason she said that I should never make my children see me nude? What gives? I don't think I was harmed at all. In fact it made me understand there was no biggie with seeing breasts or other private parts?

Obviously beyond a certain age (understanding of sexual issues) its not a good idea because of the possibility of other people misunderstanding what's going on. (Imagine your daughter going to day care and telling others about your pen*s).

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Dear drogger,
This is probably one of the biggest dilemmas that parents must address. When a child is young we tend not to be too uptight about them seeing us nude. As a child gets older we tend to cover up and feel more uncomfortable with them seeing us. In Europe they feel freer about being natural in front of others than we do in North America.
If you choose to be nude in front of your children and someone...like said, daycare, school etc. hears about it and reports it you will be investigated. Teaching children about privacy and not to be comfortable around others naked is also a good practice. Our society is changing like it or not and keeping your robes on maybe the safest approach to take.
Sue....good luck

Well I remember taking a shower with my mom for many years. I never spoke about it because it wasnt a big deal. But when it came to seeing my father naked , that was a totally different story. Boys bathed with boys girls bathed with girls.

well if she was a new born it would be ok becuse a lot of mothers take showers with there babys its bonding time with the baby not if shes a lil older like 2 and up I wouldnt do that becuse honestly she will find it ok to do it any wear. and honestly sounds kinda strang becuse she shouldnt find out things till shes older.

I never saw my parents naked but I don't think that it is that big of a deal. Just don't do it when they get to a certain age otherwise it will just be gross.

u shouldnt be naked around her because that will tell her that its ok when she goes to school and she can take off her clothes and say its ok because my dad does it

As a parent we too have faced this problem. We have taught our kids about sexuality the best we could. They know the differences between the sexes. My oldest is 6 now and when he was growing up yes I was naked around him. Now that he is older I make a point to cover up more in a way to teach him that there are moments that we must be private. Our kids also know that only us and grandparents and doctor's should see them naked. I think that it is important not to make them paranoid about nakedness but to know that they can't run out of the house without clothes on. They should know that bodies naked are normal and for them to even walk in on us naked in the bath is not bad. I hope this helps

I think it is totally fine. The natural human body is beautiful, and I dont think it is that big of a deal haveing a child see you naked. I TOTALLY agee with jvincent, I beleive he/she stole the words from me.

My sister, is two, and she see's me naked. Once she commented about my Breasts, I made no big deal and said that she will get some two as she grows. Just make no big deal out of it, I'm older and I still see my woman relatives naked. We all have the same parts, just show them to who is allowed. Doctors, Parents, Grandparents...

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I'd have to disagree with you amblessed.

Scared by any human form is, well, funny. Since, no one should be scared of Nakedness nor of the human body. Of course, this is call comeing from a Artist. The point is, the human body is beautiful, it is only when you make a large deal of it that a child would...well...mention it to anyone. I dont know anyone who does not take, or has, taken a shower with their child at some point. I was raised in a country when parents (mother with daughter, rather with son) were doing this till their child was 8 or 9 years of age.

I've seen my parents naked before but that was only in the shower but when I got old enough they taught me it was ok and that it was normal to see people naked but not to do it in front of just anyone like strangers but it is ok in front of: Grandparents,Docters,and your parents.... Its completley normal so dont worry!!!!!

my dads wife was moving naked at home many times,takes her shower and the bath door was open,change her clothes infront me,asking me always to massage her body,,and im ok no complicated spirit,and I saw dad too with his private part in the shower,no harm in that.

It's actually ok. It is perfectly normal. After all, one point in their life they are going to have to learn about it (well not exactly have to..) but what im saying is don't mislead your child into thinking its ok to just rip off your clothes just anywhere. Teach them the wrongs and right about it so its ok to be nude in front of your child(ren). Although it might scar them for life like it happened to me. o.o

I have and I am 11 and I never ended up weird!!My sister is 5 and takes a shower with my mom is that a good or bad thing??

If the family is dysfunctional with little love, respect or awareness of themselves and each other, if the family has a lot of shame and guilt issues- then covering up for the sake of it will be a reflection of this.

I personally feel that once children commence puberty, only breast and buttox and the closed legs of the female should be seen, but we shouldn't worry if genitals are seen by accident. Some may feel that its ok to be completely naked in front of their teenagers and I can respect that, so long as the teenagers are comfortable.

I do believe that bodies in a state of s*xual arousal are to be seen by their partner only, and that measures should be taken to ensure that such things are never seen by children.

As for being investigated by social services !? I never heard of such a thing!
Is it illegal to be naked at home??...but that's social services for you, messing with families that don't need it instead of using their limited resources for those that do.

I've seen my mum naked lots of times, her favourite phrase is 'well I'm no prude' although sometimes it feels a little like she's getting at me for being a prude, although a word of advice from me would be to never flash your bum at their birthday parties, they would be very annoyed; this would probably go withought saying for everyone except my mum.

as for a father I don't really know as mine died when I was young

I've seen my mom naked a lot when I was little it doesn't bother me
but NEVER my dad I don't plan to dads=nono esp if you're toddler is a girl.

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the way I see it my girls see me naked and my son can see his dad naked but don't to switch and my girls see daddy and my son see me especially if they are older like mine. when my son was about 2 2 1\2 he pointed to my boobs and said what them I just busted out laughing.

I think it is absolutely natural and healthy for a child to see it's parents without clothes. For goodness sake, you birthed that child! There is no more intimate bond than that between a mother and child. Nakedness is nothing to be ashamed of - the human body is beautiful, and should be something to be proud of, not ashamed.
I regularly took baths with my mother when I was younger - about up to the age of six or seven, and I can remember feeling nothing more than safety, comfort and love.
So many prudish people today do not educate their children in even the most basic human anatomy, resulting in confusion and even fear in the child, when he or she is confronted with a situation concerning the human body.

This is kinda more of a personal choice than anything, but there shouldn't be anything wrong at all with it. It's probably a good thing! They can see and be comfortable. They may even have a few questions (What's that? Why don't I have one? etc). I mean, having sex or something might be a problem, but naked...nothing wrong at all.

I don't think that toddlers should see their parents naked because we could be unawarely teaching them that their bodies are not private. We should be careful about what we let kids see because they are still learning and you never know what they may learn from a situation.

Interesting question! I think other people had a lot of good answers here. It's nice to see that people aren't total prudes on here, but are smart about this sort of thing.

When I was growing up, I saw my mom naked all the time, but never my dad. I didn't have any brothers, either, so I was really curious about what boys looked like naked! It wasn't an unhealthy thing, just a normal childish curiosity, but I wonder if I'd seen naked male family members if I would have cared at all. I don't think it was bad that I never saw my dad naked, but I don't think it would have been bad if I had, either. I definitely think children should at least see the parent of their same sex (if they're around) naked, so they grow up knowing what adult bodies look like. It was good that I knew my mom's body was normal, too, and you didn't have to have a movie-star body to be loved by your husband. It gave me an idea of what I might grow up to look like, too. There's nothing scandalous about nudity- it's just a human body, and it'll help the kid not have hang-ups about theirself. I don't know about the parent of the opposite sex, but apparently a lot of families do it without any harmful effects, so I think it's fine.

I agree that no one should see their parents in a state of sexual arousal, though- that's something extremely personal that should only be seen by consenting adults. Basically, as long as the kid knows which situations they can be naked and when they shouldn't, and they know that only parents, doctors, etc. should see them naked, it's fine, I think!

People get so carried away with someone seeing their body.
Well God gave it to you so don't be ashamed of it.
We did not make a point of being nude in front of the kids but we did not make a big deal out of it either.
They are well rounded successful people in their 30s.
Nude in front of kids that are not yours is a little different. We were more careful when they had stay over company. Enjoy life, don't get so hung up on minor things.

Well...I bathed with my father and mother for very long time, specially with my dad being daddy's girl.Up to 10 years maybe...and never been ashamed of them. Even now I don't have any problems if they see me naked or if I see them naked...I mean..they're my parents and they gave me birth.

I think it'll give them more hang-ups not seeing you naked. They need to grow up feeling comfortable about their bodies, not ashamed of them.

Its wrong. It can lead to peadophelic activity.

I tihnk its normal cause they need to know what the opposite sex looks like

ok if its a girl its ok to see her mom naked but I dont think the dad if shes older than 3 and with a boy vive versa