The pill

I want to go on the pill. but am to scared to ask my mum as I am only 11 years old but have a boyfriend that is 17. whom I know wants sex now.
what shall I do?

Dear kt

Your eleven and he's seventeen, and at such a young age you cannot go on the pill without your parents consent because your not of age to make these choices yourself. In all reality if your parents find out that a seventeen year old has sex with an elevn year old that person could get into trouble. I'm not sure what the age of consent is in your country but here in Canada a person can be charged with having sex with minor whether you consent or not.
If you take a chance to have sex because he's wanting it, your looking to find yourself and very difficult situation and all sorts of problems emotionally down the road. Enjoy being an 11 year old you shouldn't be worrying about having sex.

Good Luck

Dear KT,
I want you to listen to me!!
You are ONLY 11!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe that you (at this age) have to even worry about something like this. You are suppose to be doing kid things,playing etc....
NUMBER ONE Tell your boyfriend that if he wants sex that bad with you to e-mail me. I want to talk to him and find out how much he loves you....What exactly he feels he has in common with you....If he has been checked for any diseases. Tell him your other dad is familycoach and that I go on this site to help people through little problems in their life. Tell him that we (you and I) use it for a fun way to communicate with eachother!!You can tell him that I live in Ohio but I can be anywhere in the United States within 6 hours!!!!
Listen!! You are getting ready to get USED UP sexually. You let your 17 year old boyfriend know that you have thought about it, and you have decided to not have sex right now at this point in your life. If he really cares for you he will be very happy to just hang out with you...spend time talking....get something to eat...play video games etc....The reason he wants to have sex is because thats all he wants to do with you EVEN though he is telling you it's because he loves you etc............................
I could go on and on!! But I won't. Thats all for now. If you have other questions e-mail me.
Familycoach

The reason a 17 yr old boy would have any kind of an attraction for an 11 yr old girl is to get sex. Girls that age are easily persuaded into doing anything, and they are very naive. He is only USING you. He doesnt love you!!! He doesnt even care about you. If he did, he wouldnt be talking about having sex with a child!! Guys will do and say whatever it takes to get what they want from a girl! You arent old enough or mature enough to be making such a grown up decision as to having sex. You dont have a clue about the consequences and emotional trauma that comes from it!!
Sex is NOT...
a way to make somebody love you or make a commitment to you.
a test of your love for or devotion to your partner.
a measure of how mature or grown up you are.
a good way to get back at your parents or assert your independence.
a leisure activity.
always fun or enjoyable; there will be time when you will wonder if it was really worth it.

There are laws surrounding how old you have to be in order to have sex (age of consent laws), and what constitutes consensual sex (statutory rape laws, date rape laws, and laws surrounding ones ability to give consent to sex).

Here are some facts that you should consider!!!> *The more partners a girl has the higher her risk of cervical cancer, especially if she started early*
*the earlier you start having sex, the greater likelihood of multiple partners. The younger a girl starts having sex, the less responsible she is in who she has sex with*.
11 year olds ,13 yr olds don't understand that in order for sex to be a good thing, you need two people who are mature enough to really love and trust each other. When you don't have that, sex is bad and leaves the girl feeling like she's been used.
A girls virginity is a very precious thing. Treasure it!!! And keep it for as long as you can. You need to start acting like an 11 yr old, and doing what 11 yr olds do. AND THAT IS NOT THINKING ABOUT HAVING SEX!!! I promise you......YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DO!!!

I agree with everyone else here, it is crazy that you at 11 years old are thinking about having sex with a boy that is 17, that is the worst thing you can do, you are still a child!!! im surprised you even have your periods yet! I didnt get them till 13. you need to wake up and take a long hard look at what you are doing becos you are just a lil girl, going on the pill and messing with your body is so bad for you at such a young age! there is no way you can go on the pill without your parents knowledge, and if your parents suspect you having sex right now they will prob lock you in your room and never let you out, and believe me they will have every right to!
Please, do not grow up to fast! you have your entire life to have sex, you are still a baby yourself please dont risk giving up your virginity at such a young age, you will only regret it later on. and please rethink if this boy is good to you, you are only 11 and he already wants to have sex with you! thats sick, maybe you should consider leaving him and growing up a lil yourself before your next boyfriend.

hey kt,
you should def. not be worrying about sex at this age. besides this boy is way too old for you. If he really cares about you then he will wait until you are ready to have sex. Honestly what does a seventeen boy do with an eleven year old...honey he is just going to use you so becareful...

DONT HAVE SEX YOU COMPLETE IDIOT...HE IS USING YOU FOR SEX...NOT BECUASE HE LOVES YOU!

You don't look 11 in your picture.

1st of all..all of the answers are exactly right!!

2nd..WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD you GO OUT WITH A 17 YEAR OLD WHEN your ONLY ELEVEN!!

3rd..im also 11..but im dating someone 14(NOT 17)..and I know what the pressure feels like..but you r like way 2 young!!..so am I..and if hes ever asked you 2 or pressured u..he doesnt really love u..hes trying 2 get in your pants..I know thats really hard 2 hear..but its true..DOES HE KNOW your 11??..please..DONT DO IT!!

...r you reatrded???

omg .. if your going to have a boyfriend. like he should be like your age or maybe 1 or 2 years older ! like I'm ll and my boyfriend's 12. we're only a few months apart. and honey, if your thinkin about having s*x at this age, your just... I dont even want to say it.

u shouldnt even be having intercorse at 11...especially with a damn 17 year old..obviously you are not mature enough to be dating...u wait till your older and till you meet the right guy and trust me you wont regret that you waited! if he wants to leave you because you wont give it up to him ditch his azz he aint worth it!! think before you act..take care and hope you do that rgh thing I'll pray for u..

HELL NO, STOP RIGHT THERE, NO 11 YEAR OLD SHOULD BE HAVING ANY KINDA OF SEX!!! WITH ANYONE!!! SPECIALLY NOT A 17 YEAR OLD!!!

I think we should get a 'chat session' going once in awhile (like once a week) where we can come in here and chat about these things... and I'm volunteering FamilyCoach to lead the first one... lol

I can see it now, FamilyCoach would NOT be the person you want going against you... make sure you have him on your side.

Now, with the question... You're 11!!! At 11 I still though guys had cooties! I didn't even know what sex was! That's the way it should be. Tell your 17 yr old friend to get lost and start hanging out with friends your own age honey before you get used sexually, physically, and emotionally!

LDSMous

Serouisly listen to me...im am 14 and I know about this(It happened to my friend) She had a boyfriend that was in high school and she was in 7th grade...she lost her virginity to him then he started sexually abusing her. 1st off your are 11 and that is WAY to young to have sex. Second what your doing is illegal and would be considered sexual rape...if anyone found out he would be sent to jail. you need to tell somone about this now before it gets out of hand. Enjoy your younger years while you can...and please don't make a disision that you'll regret.

OK!!! KT!!! LISTEN!!!

I had the same prob when I was 11 to. when your hot, guys can't resist you (no matter how young you are) and ah-bviously your hot, because some 17 year old wants to have sex with you. now I want you to reply as soon as you can, 'kay? I have questions. 1: do you have your period? 2: whats your cup size? and 3: are u making this up?! reply!
But! under any circumstances (Sorry about the language.) do not have sex with him!!

Your boyfriend needs a kick in the head.. hes 17 and going out with an eleven year old thats gross. It seems that he is taking advantage of you, you may be beautiful but being young = dumb in this situation, have you thought about the sexually transmitted infections that you could get when having sex like herpes, chlamydia, HIV ... its all horrible and in some cases deadly, do you think you can deal with all of that at this age, those who are infected at 20 and older struggle with this sort of stuff but what about when you are only 11 how will you deal with this?..Friends can usually help in this situation but your friends who I assume are 11 to... what will they know?

Look I have a huge opinion in this situation because of the morals and beliefs that I have grown up with, I don't think your a bad person but if you decide to have sex now it will have a huge impact on your life emotionally and physically and thats what bothers me the most you being so young and in a relationship that is already thinking about having sex. Talk to your mum about what you atre going through so she can help you.

I hope you take my advice and decide to wait till your older and more able to cope with a sexual relationship.

x

Erm 17?
Pedophile.
Seriously, honey.
Get a new guy.
The oldest guy id even consider (im 15) is 17
And even thats a stretch.
Wise up.

um. three words...what the hell? O_O kid, get real youre only 11 and this just in...you're not even close to being a teen yet and youre dating a guy 1 year away from being an adult. I think you get what im saying. sex? come on, have you even ever watched an 14 + movie in your life? O_O listen, try hoping for 'the first kiss' not 'the pill'

okay trust me.. dont do it.. my mom got used when she was young and she said it ruined her life.. save it for someone special that you know loves u... im not trying to be mean, but they are right, a guy dating a 11 year old girl is probably just using you because its easier to persuade u... I say wait till your older about 15 or older and you actually know for a fact that you are in love with a guy who loves you too.. dont do like other young girls do.. they get hurt, and you dont need to go through it. do what you think is best for u, not a guy who is begging you to have sex with him.. if he loved u, then he would want what you wanted and wouldnt be begging u.. he would be asking if you wanted to or if you wanted to wait.. test him.. say that you want to wait till your older.. about 15 years old or older.. and see if he leaves u.. if he says 'okay im fine with waiting for u' (or something like that) then you know he loves u, if he dumps u, you know he was just an a** hole and was trying to use u.. thats what I did at your age, and im glad I never did it with them, they were trying to use me and I stormed on them when they dumped me and I found out they were using me and later on I was so used to guys trying to use me, when a guy asked me out, haha I could look straight in their eyes and tell that thats all they wanted.. but I found my true love so no more worries for me.. im glad I waited for him. I hope you do too for urs.. so try it.. next time he begs say 'I really want to wait till im older.. is that okay?' make good choices.. good luck. =)

don't do it

listen hun,
I personaly feel that an 11 yr old should not be even thinking about having sex
wether or not the boy is 17
your only 11
I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I regret it.
so please listen to me so you dont regret it to.

holy f*cking sh*t get a f*cking boyfriend your own f*cking age you little slut! what the f*ck you wh*re! are you f*cking crazy?! what the f*ck are retarded!??!!? enjoy your f*cking childhood god dammit!! wait till your at least 16!

yea that's sick.17 year old guys expect sex sex sex so tell him no goodbye and he's cut.u shud be chillin with friends not freakin worrying about wut gawd dayumn positions yur going to f*k him in tonight! wuts wrong with u?

girl you are way to young to be having sex I made that mistacke already trust me dont do it specially if your boyfreind IS WAY OLDER THAN YOU I think your mom would also freek because if you abotu ti ahve sex with a guy just because he wants to you shouldnt really shouldnt wait till your older and really want to and actually be a bit older
chose the right thing and well if you are ganan have sex jsut to be extra safe have him or you were a condam good luck
(if you need to talk more bout it email me or post a comment)

no afence but your kinda dumb!!!your 11 and he's 17 girl your mom knows your dating him...my parents would kill me and you are to young to date plus he's 17 of course he wants sex but you dont give it to him

Damn girl you're only 11?...Whoa!

girl listen to me.. im 11 too. ok do not trust this guy... he is 17!! you are only 11... ok this might be hard but this kid does NOT love you love is a strong thing... you need to know this guy is a... pedafile or however you spell it. he is not here to love you he is here to have sex with you. make sure you have an adult take care of this situation you are in and have him stay away from you. DONT try to handle it your self I dont care how well you think you know him you would get hurt... please you dont want to end up on one of those billboards that say 'have you seen this child?'because as soon as you say ok to the sex thing hes probably going to rape you... not like you wanted it to be.please make the right descision. please im begging you im about to cry... please.your whole future is in your hands.

DO NOT HAVE SEX!! IF YU GOT PREGNANT you CUD RUIN your LIFE and HE CUD BE CHARGED WIT RAPE!!

Well I can kind of seein where you are coming from becasue I once liked his guy who was 16 or 17 when I was 11 however he never asked me to have sex. I really dont think that you should even consider birth control right nowa and try to break up with the boy. However if you are worried about him forcing you to in some way like holding you down or something and doing so then. 1 tell you parents. 2 maybe tell police and 3 if you absolutly think you need to go ont he pill.

well I wish you all the luck and dont do it jsut because he wants to do it im sorry but that is kinda stupid when you do that and like wel yah and honestly he can be charged with rape if anythign happens to you because he is over the age limate for you in the USA SO YAH IM JSUT WORNIGN YOU BUT GOOD LUCK be safe!!! and if you relaly ready and you know it tell youor mom get birth control and make sure you know everything you can know about staying safe well maybe not everything btu you know like enough so you can be safe

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You know, it's flattering that an older guy is into you, but you have to realize. In a year? He'll be 18 and you'll be twelve, and even if the sex is consensual, it's still WAY ILLEGAL. You have to realize that even if he says he loves you, he just wants a Lolita, and you do not have demean yourself for him. It's good that you are concerned about birth control and it shows that you are actually thinking and have a brain. Please use it KT and try giving two months, just two months to being completely single, no fooling around, just you. Get to know who you are, and figure out what you want to do with your life. Do you really want to look back on your childhood and see yourself like this? Make some new friends, have a girls only sleepover, watch chick flicks. Save the sex for high school AT LEAST. I'm serious, it might be hard to imagine right now, but you really don't need a guy to be complete. Get a hobby, join sports, do other stuff! Wait. Please.

OMG IM 13 AND I DO NOT WANT SEX
GIRL YOU ARE WAY TO YOUNG GOSH THAT MAKES SAD YOU SHOULD BE HAVING SEX WHEN YOUR AT LEAST 16
you should be playing with barbies not way way way older men

Stop having sex so young!

dont go on the pil!!! it made gain weight like crazy and gave me stretch markS!!! use condoms!!

what the f*ck!?
your fcking 11
and your going out with a 17 year old?
what is your problem!
doy uo even have boobss!
do you even have your period!
wow wow wow.
sure im 14
but golly gee willikers missy why would you have sex at 11 fcking wow.

I'm 11 too but I find that just sick. Haveing sex at such a young age? You need to know that who ever this guy is he is totally useing you. Plus how do you know??? Are you just saying this or did he tell you? If your just guessing this your sick... I have no problem with an 11 year old going out with a 17 year old but for a 17 year old to like go out with you and want to *** you is horrible.
Right now at this age a boyfriend is just supposed to be a guy that you can kiss on the lips, hold hands with, and hug nothing more! Does he even truly love you? Whatever choice you make will stay with you for the rest of your life.
This is just seriously disgusting.
(plus I'm going into 7th grade my B-day is late in the year)