Son ignored to talk when found i am having affair

My 12 years old son used to be very close to me. I have problem with my wife in the past 3 years and I found my real partner and getting into very serious and deep relationship. Half a year ago, I have made very clear statement to my wife and we...

separated but live in the same house as to show the good example of parent in front of kids. I was suffering as unable to leave my son and unable to live with real partner. I have been struggling for years in this situation. My partner sacrificed her life as to left her husband and fully responsible on her kid while waiting for me. One month ago, I have trip with my partner and my wife cannot accept and get my son involved in this issue. Ever from that day, my son was very upset and ignored to talk to me. I felt very sad everyday. In another hand, I can't let go my partner. I feel the needs are very strong with her. I want my son and my love partner. I have been suffering lived with the woman I don't love just to please my son. I need someone can tell me what to do now.

Living in the same house even though your seperated - is sending the wrong message to your children. If you continue to live in the house - your sending them the message that their is a chance their parents are going to get back together. If your seperated - you need to be fully seperated. It's not good for your children to be living in the same house with both of you - when you are obviously not together. It's time to move on and move out. After that - then you can work on mending your relationship with your son. You must give him time though, you can't force him to forgive you.

Okay well I have obviously not gone threw what your going through, however I have gone threw somthing like what your son is. I was 11 I think and my parents were doing the same thing, I was getting so frustrated with both of them, my mom for always yelling at him over things I didnt yet understand, and my dad for taking it. Sooner after I learnt that the reason she was yelling at him was being he wanted to leave but she wanted him living at our house for me. Finally they agreed to put me into the picture and talk to me about it. They got what I was thinking and acually let me have make the decision with them, instead of them making the desision for me. I was so angry at my dad so before we all talked about it he brought me out for lunch and talked to me about it. He told me what he felt and gave me options to think about. If he hadnt of tried to gain that trust or that closeness or understanding of what was going on, when we had that conversation with me, my mom, and my dad I think all I would of said was I didnt know. I still would have cared, but I wouldnt have let it show. We all desided that it wasnt fair for him to be trapped in that household with the daughter he loved and the ex-wife that he loved...just not as a partner. He moved in with his new girlfriend, and let me meet her first. I like her a lot, he comes over regulary to make dinner for the 3 of us and on christmas and stuff like that he brings his girlfriend along as well. Somtimes, if I feel like it I go to his house every second week, or more often if I want, but its always my decision. I hope that helped, let me know how things work out.
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