Should I try to call my mother on Thanksgiving?

Should I try to call my mother on Thanksgiving? Some of you might remember that I had to place a PPO which is a personal protection order against my father for doing innappropriate behavior back in 2005 when I moved into my own place. I haven’t been getting along with my family at all since they think that I’m mentally challenged and so forth. Since I have a visual impairment and been blind since birth, they have a tendency to treat me differently then my siblings. I don’t know why that is though. Anyway, my mother and I seem to be nice to each other when I call her but then things start getting out of hand. If I end up calling her, would she appreciate me wishing her a happy Thanksgiving? or no? I don’t want her not to turn down my call since she did adopt me from China when I was 5 turning 6. Now that I’m 23 and living on my own, I’m dealing with certain situations the best I know how. My mother and I tried getting along while I lived with her but, she seems to favor one of my sisters over me. She doesn’t believe my father did any kind of behavior to me. I don’t blame her in a way since I’d feel that way if that were my husband. Which I’m not married right now. I miss my mother and would love to talk to her, then, I’m afraid her and I are going to yell at each other over the phone. She has been abbusive towards me when I was a child and also when I was a teenager. Should I tell this to my counselor as well? Or, should I just go ahead and call? I’m trying not to cause problems for myself. I just want to hear my mother’s voice. I know she treated me cruely but, I love her. Let me know your thoughts and opinions on this. Thanks

Answer #1

that is a terrible story. I hope the best for you two. I think you should talk to your councler about it yes and also do try and call her and tell her how you feel now and how you felt as a child. see if she can handle the truth

Answer #2

I se why you feel the way you do. I believe you should call her, and wish her happy thanksgiving, if things start to get out of hand, then just tell her bye and hang up and not let it blow up to something bigger than what it really is. I also think if you are willing to, you should talk to your counselor, after all thats what they are here for, is to help you with these kinds of things. they are professional in it, we at funadvice isn. like I said I think you should talk to your counselor, and call, it may not turn out as badly as you think. hope it all goes well :)

Answer #3

sure,why not,if you want to then its ok..I mean after all shes still your mom and nothing can change that

Answer #4

If you love her and want to hear her voice then go ahead and call! My mother left my side when I was 3 and nver came back! We have a great relationship now that I am 22. Don’t let bad things that happened in the past keep you from good things that can happen in the future. Maybe she has changed and regreted things that may have happened. You should tell her how you feel now that she is alive and well you never know when it will be too late!!! I know it is hard to forgive and forget… but for thanksgiving we should forget all the bad that has happened and sit and be thankful for what we do have now. It will be a good idea to tell your conselor about your feelings to this subject as he/she can help you think of ways to cope with this!

Best luck to you and have a very wonderful thanksgiving!

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