Should i tell my mom we're thinking of having sex?

well.....my boyfriend and I have implied that we are going ALL the way this weekend. I have no problem with it because weve been dating a while. He told me that when it happens itll be really special and it wont be because everyone else is doing it but...

because he loves me. and he sed its all up to me when it happens. and i think im ready but........my mom told me that i have to let her know when im thinking of going ALL the way. and i dont want her to think of me differently. and im not even 100 percent sure itll happen yet, but i even got condoms just in case because you never know. i wanna be extra safe and stuff but im just not sure if i should tell my mom. i want to be really responsible because its a really big deal and i understand that. will not telling my mom be irresponsible of me?

You should tell her. What if something should happen like a condom break? Mom will make sure you have a back up plan. If she finds out later and you didn't tell her how do you think she'll feel?

Tell her, she deserves to know. It would be a responsible thing to do by telling her. She wants to know when you go all the way if you think it's going to happen you should let her know, I mean, as Sikashimmer had said, what if the condom breaks? Your mom will have a backup plan. Dont keep secrets from her now then let her find out a different way later it'll kill her.

Tell her, she'll be real proud her daughter (a minor or not) has chosen have sex outside of marriage - Bonus, you might even break her heart / hopes / dreams for you - right/wrong, who cares right ?

I think because your mother asked you to tell her, she'll support your decision. She just wants to make sure you are protected and safe. No harm in telling her.

You mentioned that you don't want her to think of you differently. But, she will. There is nothing wrong with that. We all grow up and start having sex. I'm just glad it's with a boy you're comfortable with who isn't pressuring you. Thinking of you differently is not a bad thing. She said she wants to know, it's not a big deal really. You all sound like logical people so it's just a matter of getting over feeling weird about it.

agree

LOOK IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HELL WAIT I THINK YOUR MOVING TO FAST SHORTY. Are you eveno n any birth controle. How do you know if hes clean, he could be born with the killer. THATS YOU. i JUST THINK YOU NEED TO WAIT. i HAD A FRIEND HER FIRST TIME SHE HAD SEX, SHE CAUGHT AIDS.

Condoms are good but they can break so have a back up plan maybe go on birth control tell your mother though better to be honest and it is your body she has no right to tell you who you can and can't sleep with..if she freaks out and says know and you do it behind her back well at least you had told her in the first place..and i think she'll be glad you told her and she wont freak out.