My own father

My dad works a lottt, he has his own company in the city we live in greenwich, he is gone so much and okay well don't take this as me being a brat because I am not I promise you, but he has TONS of money he got a lot of inheritance from his dad and now his own company, he can buy whatever he wants, he jets of to paris for lunch , sometimes with me or not.
but mostly not I have older brothers who act more like dads then he does.
My mom lives in california with a movie producer, and she talks to us but I mean she is more out of the picture.
When I go to school in the morning either my nanny takes me or someone who works for my dad. they pick me up he is usually home at 11 and I am finishing homework or something then he leaves early in the morning. and hes really tired he tries SO hard to be a good father, but his idea is like buyig us kids whatever we want. I mean it's nice and all but I mean my brothers play football and I dance and he never comes. I mean he likes to move we just moved from beverly hills cali. but he said that it was to close to our mom because they had just gotton a settlement, and have lived EVERYWERE. cause he doesnt have to like go to work everyday, but like the otherday he left at like 8 to go to our florida house and play golf with a friend. I mean he tries and all but its more like money is his family more then his kids, like hes not here right now, oh and this is one thing that makes me so mad about him like on my birthday last year when I was like somwere he went and bought a rolls royce for HIMSLEF. I am sorry if I sound like such a brat, I am trying not to be because iam not but I cant really talk to my brothers about this. two of my brothers are over 18, and over the summer my dad has like them take us to cap jeluca, and st. tropez, and china and stuff so that we have a good summer
but I just want my dad more than anything.
sorry if this was such a drag I just really need some help " thanks
xoxo

He's so busy, he might not realize it - just write him a note and explain what you really need is 'his time / attention'...Take care !!

Why don't you try talking to your father about this? Because there's not a lot that WE can do, other then to tell you to do just that - from what you said, correct me if I'm wrong, but you didn't say you've tried, did you?

A lot of different factors influence how people act growing up. Maybe when he was younger, he was poor, and didn't get to have a lot of things growing up and is now compensating for that by doing what he wants. Or he had a LOT of money growing up and he never broke out of the trend of doing whatever he wants.

When he was growing up, again, maybe his own father was never in the picture, and that made him think that in order to be a good father you need to never be home, but instead working to provide for your family.

The list could go on and on with tiny little variations here or there - the point remains the same, that he acts how he acts now more than likely because of how he was when he was little, or how his own father treated him when he was younger. Either way, you need to express how you feel to your father - not your brothers, not your mother, and certainly not us - but to him. Trust me, when you get older and you're a working mother and you have a husband, I'm sure you two will have a hard time trying to find that middle-ground for your children. What I mean is, providing all you can for them, but at the same time being there for them. I don't have kids yet, but I know it won't be easy.

You're welcome to funmail me if you need further assistance with this issue.

wow, how can you be so fortunate and unfortunate at the same time? You seem to everything any teen could wish for except for thing most take for granted.
It appears to me your dad has been caught up in "corporate america" and has been extremely successful. It also appears that he loves you and your brothers.
I am sure to get where he is, he has made several sacrifices and family time has been one of the biggest. In order to compensate for this sacrifice, he has tried to provide the best home "money could buy".
He probably realizes he does not fit the perfect father mold but justifies it by providing more than "the perfect father" is able to. The pattern is set and probably will not change. It's not so much a question of love as it is of past priorities.
My advice is to accentuate the positives. How can you use your financial position to make a better life for yourself? Educate yourself and remember your family goals as you succeed in life. Give your children what you cannot receive.
on a more personal note, I also am a father and have a business to run. I am away from home right now on business. I know I fall short in the father/grandfather role. But Love is not the issue, I would die for any of my kids. I am a victim of my own success, and I count on the unconditional love of my family.
Have you tried taking an interest in your Dad's business and interest? Maybe he could teach you golf??
GOOD LUCK , always look long term and find the positives, everything happens for a reason