my mom has been acting like a crazed lunatic lately.. HELP!

t sounds like your mum is clinically stressed.

she seems to be relying so heavily on you because she seems unable to cope with the respoinsibility and demands of having children and working. it’s totally unfar for her to expect you to do everything when your brother isn’t helping.

I’m all for children pitching in, and helping, after all, a family is about helping each other, but it has to be an equal setup…yes your mum works, but your brother needs to help too. I understand your mum working may mean she needs extra help aroun the house, but you can all pull your weight and it shouldn’t be done at the cost of your life… after all, you didn’t have 5 children, it was her choice - not yours…

I won’t have anymore children and I only have two, because I think anymore than that with working would mean too much work and I would become stressed, although this doesn’t help you, what I am saying is, maybe your mum hasn’t thought about how much time her children need in addition to her work.

how about you take matters into your own hands? how aboout getting all your siblings together and explaining to them that there needs to be a new system -people don’t like change, so be prepared for some resistance!

make a rota, write down all the things that need doing, literally make a list. put a name by each job, like the 10year old is capable of wasing up, even the 3 year old can have a duster (they love plating ‘house’ at that age anyway!) and explain that everyone has to help. point out to them that they woulnd’t like to have to do EVERYTHING, and neither do you, it’s not unfair…

and literally make a full week rota…include everyting! bath time, play time, homewaork time, chore time, sleep time - the lot! it will take a lot of respoinsibility of your shoulders and make everyone else pull their weight. I know you shoulnd’t have to do thins, but when your mum comes in mad, you will have more control over the situation, you can say…yes, thats being done tomorrow, or I know mum, but we did these things today, and it was ‘play time’

your just going to have to be assertive with her, she sounds very unstable at the moment, so sit down with your siblings, draw the chart up, and catch mum in a good’ish mood, and show her. there must be some resonable bone in her body that will realise how much you and your siblings are doing…

I’m not sure what the situation is, but us teenagers aways make things out to be worse than they actually are. I’m 17, and I thought that way for a long time. But then I realized that it’s not going to do me any better to rag on her, if you’re ask to do something you should just do it, bc I regret not doing things or loving my parents like I should for quite sometime. I took them for granted. Sit down and have a talk with her, but remember she does each thing for a reason.

Umm I don’t know ask your bro if he cud help

Maybe she’s stressed from work or something… have you tried to sit down and talk with her?