My husband is a liar!

I have been married for four years now. Throughout the marriage my husband has lied to me time and time again. Sometimes not lies but just not telling me things that he has done. Like taking out a home equity loan for $70,000 in my name. He lost his job last year and never told me until a month had past. Then he didn't tell me I heard about it from a friend. I left for four months and told him if he didn't stop lying that I would leave. He is so good to me other than the lies. He says he can't tell me anything because I get upset. But I have never had the chance to be told first hand of information from him. This past week I found out that he is not working at location that he has worked at since November. Same company but now works across town. He didn't want to tell me because he wasn't sure if he was going to stay at that location. I had to hear it again through family and friends which is extremely upsetting. I told him I would leave last time. He wants another chance. He said that if I promise not to get mad he would tell me the next time and not lie! Why am I getting the blame for him lying? Is this another way to make me feel back and not go through the divorce. I just don't want to go back on what I said... because I am afraid he will continue and I don't want to live this way. Keep me... living with Liar!

Maybe he should go see someone seriously. There is seriously something wrong with him! I dont know how I would be able to handle it. I dont really know what advice to give you as I have never expreinced or heard of a situation like this before but I think your on the right track by telling him you will leave if he doesnt stop it.

First of all, I am sorry you are going through this and you have done nothing wrong. You husband has a problem. Bottom line is, he is not respecting you, you did not sign up for a marriage without integrity. Clearly he can not stop lying on his own. If he wont go get help, you need to decide if you can live with it (no) or leave. He has no integrity and there is no love without integrity. I just left my livin boyfriend of 2.5 years (we are 37 & 41) b/c I was sick of second guessing if he was lying or not. He was stealing my joy. It was not easy but it was the right thing to save myself. Good Luck!!!