My girlfriends parents

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now we got a 15 month baby and another one on the way which is great but its just her parents. We bought a house in her town which I didnt mind but since our son was born her panents come down the whole time the...

call up at least once a day if not twice and wold call up at about 6pm and leave then after 10pm, they also give our son bad habbits like sitting on the table while eating while we eat letting him play with the food on the plates, wneh they up he doesnt go to bed till about 12 and be over tired then they also let him do anything he wants and he wants to do it on us then and when we dont let him he gets mad and would scratch us in the face that is her fathers fault as he lets him hit him in the face so he thinks it is ok but when my girl says anything they say he doing no harm how we ment to raise him right with them in our face the whole time and we had a number of fights about it and she said that she cant tell her parents to not come up so much. When I say that if you dont tell them I will she says that if I do she will leave me and I dont want that she knows how much it bothers me its getting to the stage that when they come up I now go upstairs to get away from them I cant get to spend time with my family and when the new baby is born I have the feeling that we will see them even more is there anything that I can do about this as it is driving me crazy also any idea how to stop my son hitting everyone thanks I know its a long one.

perhaps you could talk to her parents and ask them to change there habbits a bit
tell them that what they do affects the baby
because little kids imitate what they see
so while hes growing up everyone around him needs to set an example
they can still come over but tell them to try and set a good example for the baby
because its not only the parents that need to watch what they do
babies are influenced by anyone around them
ask them to maybe spend a bit more time with him or while there over to be...kind of on there best behaviour (for the kid)
...kind of like how you would be expected to be on your best behaviour when visting them for the first time...making a good impression...like that

I agree with jazlovestoskate,

Talk to her parents ... tell them how you feel. Make sure you let them know that you will take there opinions into consideration but you are the father and it is your job and responsibility to raise them as well as educate them. Yes he may only be 15 months, but you have to start early! Talk to your girlfriend also ... she should be the one to talk to her parents and tell them in the nicest way to butt out!!!

GOOD LUCK

Ok now this is a topic that I like ! I have a 2 1/2 year old and we LIVE with my husbands mom so feel my pain. She does they same thing sets her on the table while she eats... ahhh I hate that cause my daughter thinks she can do it when we go out to eat. She has been putting her on her potty to use the restroom so now I have to take her to the bathroom every time. Before she used her own potty. She lets her do whatever she want. Her great grandmother thinks its funny by letting her slap her in the face (same as you) then she thinks is ok to hit. Well I could only take so much so I put my foot down.
You are the father that is your child you are the one that is with her the most same as the childs mother. When they do these things it falls back on you and that not cool. You need to talk to the parents and tell them look I know you might think these things are fun at the time but we have to deal with it later. Please stop doing it. Don't hold back that is you child not theirs and you have the say with what goes on. If they don't stop when the parents do something that you don't like SIMPLE walk up to the CHILD pick him up and talk to him about something like about a toy that is laying on the floor sit down and play with the toy. Say nothing else to the parent (because you have already talked to them) keep doing this every time they do something you don't like. They will get the hint sooner or later. Remember that is your child and no one elses !!!
Also I am sure they will say at one point or time we are just paying you guys back with what all ya'll did to us when ya'll were children... Thats what my Parents do but I just tell them well sorry you didn't have better rules than what I hope to have. I hope I help stand your ground or you will have a child that doesn't mind in the future.. good luck !!!