Should I keep waiting for her?

We were together for 14 months. We went through some hard times and good times as I believe happens in all relationships. I cheated on her for 4 months and she knew for 2 months when we were together for 5 months and she as forgave me for it but never forgot about it and my I remind you that I am NOT the person I once was. She changed me for the better. I was into a lot of drugs but I’m straight now. She cheated on me too but only kissed guy. I had slept with the girl I cheat on her with numerous times. After that was over I made it up to her a dedicated my life to her. Trying to make everything up. I feel back in love with her and she feel back in love with me or so I thought. Last week we went to her friends birthday party and this guy was flirting with her “but that’s just the way he is” she says. The whole time I was all about them. I wasn’t with her at that party. It pissed me off because this guy could do things that I couldn’t with her. For one, I couldn’t poke her or tickle her or just mess around with her because she would get annoyed by it but this guy was doin’ it so I pulled her aside to talk with her and tell her it was uncombable to see that and he put a balloon in her face to get her attention when I’m trying to talk with her. So I popped the balloon (not in her face) and told him to f* off. Then I wanted to leave because she felt that she wasnt doin anything wrong. Then she tell me that we need a break and now she wants to see if what we had was real or not. So I’m waiting for her. The QUESTION in SHOULD I KEEP WAITING FOR HER??

Answer #1

Dear izdizzy, First thing is that at the party you mention there was things you couldn’t do or she would get upset with you like tickling or just messing around. Stop and think carefully…what are some of the other things you do that she gets annoyed at?? If you’re writing the list and it’s starting to get long you may want to stop. You cheated on her and you may feel obligated to stay with her to make amends for what you did. You may be overlooking the fact that the relationship had broken down but really did not get back to where it was after you cheated. This is common behaviours after a cheat but not a good one. It takes a lot of therapy after a partner cheats to get the relationship back on track. Sorry to say a lot of the times it never happens. I would give her, her space and go for some counselling. Sometimes after a mistake like cheating there is just no way to salvage the relationship no matter how much you want too. Sue…good luck

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