How to get my dad to back off?

my parents have split up. my dad is 48 and we argue a lot. He has a disease called multiple sclerocis (sorry bout spelling) and he keeps telling me that its all my mums fault. he seems to think I love my mum more than him , sometimess I feel like I want to forget about him but hes my dad I dont feel as if its right. he treats me as if im 3 years old even though im nearly 16. he has too call me everyday and because hes an alcoholic he shouts down the phone to me bout how its my mums fault about his ilness and his drink problem but the next day forgets about what he said. I dont know what to do... shall I tell him to stuff his fatherhood or shall I just bare with it?

you need to stick with your dad, you will regret it later if you dont. He needs help and its not anything that you can fix. Does your dad have brothers or sisters that you can talk to? Maybe you can tell them what is going on and they can get help for him.

my dad has 2 sisters and 1 brother but unfortunately one of his sister had multiple sclerosis and died about 10 years ago. I spose I can try and talk to my uncle, thank you for answering my question its bin a gd help x

hi I am new here but I would like to help if I can.. maybe if you can get in touch with a group of people that deal with people that deal with people that drink to much . they can talk to him when hes not drunk . if you try and talk to him about it when hes drunk he wont remember try and talk to him when hes hung over .. do you know what I mean???

hey girl,
I think you need to talk to him and tell him what his situation is really doing to you. tell him he is hurting you and what you really feel. Also, I don't want to sound mean cause im not intending to but maybe if he saw somebody for the drinking problem and about the divorce things would clear over. Because I don't think you deserve anything he says to you like that because its not your fault him and your mum slip, you know? so he shouldn't be taking things out on you.
hope I could help.
good luck

thankies all these help =]

Baby doll, I'm really, really sorry that you have these problems. First, know that NONE are your fault. Second, your father is in pain and is confused. He is striking out at your mom, but she didn't cause either MS nor alcoholism. Both have a genetic part.

Before you do anything, Find and go to Al-Anon (or Ala-teen) meeting. You will find people just like you who have been through what you are going through right now.

He brought you into the world, but he shouldn't act that way trust me I had similar promblems with my mom she would blab on about my dad and claim he did so many things to her and was like that you know? but I talked to her in a way she understood and said to her things have to change and she listened and now things are fine whether you like it or not TALK TO YOUR DAD he's your father and should listen to anything you say but make sure what you say is convincing either hurt his feelings and tell him off, bear it, or talk to him like a daughter and tell him how you feel.

it's hard for your dad cause he's constantly agrivated about being unwell.
I have a similar syndrome as your Dad. I often get upset with my family, but I can say I've never blamed it on them. I think when he's not drunk or angry, you should tell him how you feel. Show him this forum to show him that you are serious that it upsets you. If that doesn't work or your too scared to talk to him, talk to your mum about it. She'll understand and make the right desicion thats best for you guys

Good Luck

thank you x