My dad wants me to have an abortion

im 16 years old I have a boyfriend that I love very much... theres a chance of me being pregnant I want it very much I've always wanted to be a young mother my boyfriend also wants it. But there is a problem my father who I live with told me that if I was pregnant that there wouldnt be a baby that I would have to have an abortion and he would kill the father (the person who got me pregnant) 1 I dont beleive in abortions and 2 I want to have the baby so does my boyfriend what should I do please help me thank you

ok you need first work out whether or not you are pregnant or not. if you are then you need to sit your father down and gently explain to him that you are pregnant and you are keeping the baby, your body your choice he cannot force and abortion on you, and also that its not your bfs fault, you are just as much responsible and explain that you both want the baby and the father is going to support you no matter what. Now he is going to be mad, very mad for a while but you need to be understanding in that respect and give him time to accept it. He may ask you to move you so hopefully you have some where to go.

Contract the rights to live organization...they will be able to help you. Good Luck!

I am really sad to say that you do it much better if you will not have this baby. That is so rare when a 16 yo mother, like you now, wants to keep the baby, and that could be so nice; but 99% of this type of mothership will bring a very bitter life for the mother, and sometimes for the baby, too.

If your dad threatend to kill your boyfriend, you need to let boyfriend know and maybe he could go to the police. Try and calm it down before it goes crazy. You both are going to have to address the father. You could run away but thats not the answer either.
If he won't let you live there with your baby start now to find a place. You could go to your local family services and explain your situation..Tell them you made a mistake but you want to keep the child and you need help in finding a place to live and tell them why. You also want to ask the boyfriend how he is going to provide for you and your baby.
Familycoach

ok youu needd too tell yourr dadd howw youu feel. andd iff youu guyss want too keep itt itss yourr guyss choice. nott yourr dadss. whaat your dad is tellingg youu iss soo stupid. hess just trying too scaree youu into nott gettingg pregnent. plus you are 16 so you dont even havee too bee livingg at home any more. if your dad reaaly didnt want you too keep thee baby that bad then you could move out. im 15 andd imm moved outt and pregnant. soo youu knoww what hunn doo whaatss in yourr heartt!. <3 xoxo

Sit down and talk with your Dad. If his support with a pregnancy is completely out of the question then perhaps you could get emancipated and start a life with the father of your baby.

'... The word 'emancipation' literally means to become free from the control or restraint of another. In the context of emancipated minors, emancipation is essentially a legal procedure whereby children become legally responsible for themselves and their parents are no longer responsible (financially or otherwise) for their children. Thus, emancipated children are freed from parental custody and control and essentially become 'adults' in many ways.

Parents generally have the legal right to custody and control of their unemancipated minor children. Parents can decide where their children will live, what school they will attend, what medical treatment they will receive, and what religion their children will practice. An emancipated minor, on the other hand, is free from such custody and control.

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As soon as an individual turns 18 he or she legally becomes an adult and is automatically emancipated from such parental custody and control. Likewise, when a minor marries or joins the armed forces (with parental consent and permission from the court), he or she becomes emancipated from his or her parents.

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well you should find out if you are pregnant and you should talk with your father about it, calmly. if you can. I personally dont believe in abortions either but you should make your own decision, its your life and your baby. then you should also have a talk with your boyfriend, and discuss with him your plans for parenthood, financial issues about having a baby, and planning everything there is to have one. you should do what you feel is right, and I know you probably already made your decision cause this post it old, but I hope yourhappy,

please dont kill your baby your dad will grow to love and accept it!

if you want it your father has no say my dear. You do what you feel is right. if anything give it up for adoption. talk to your boyfriend see how his parents react. your fatehr cant kill your boyfriend.

F** YA FATHER ITS YA BODY AND HE WOULD HAVE TA DEAL WIT IT SOON OR LATER IF HE THROW you OUT GO 2 DA POLICE because HE CAN GET IN TROUBLE 4 THROWIN OUT A UNDERAGE GIRL AND THEN HE HAVE NO CHOICE BUT REMEMBER THIS YA PARENTS COULD B ANNOYIN BUT HE CAN B TELLIN you WATS BEST 4 you SOMETIMES I WISHED I LISTENED TA MY BOYFRIEND AND MY MOTHER NOW IM 7 MONTHS PREGNANT AND 16 AND DA BABYS NOT HERE AND ITS ALREADY HARD

this happened to my cousin. her dad said he would hunt down any man that got her pregnant and he was quite violent at times so she really was scared about what he'd do. but like you she was against abortion. in the end she went ahead and had the baby and had a beautiful baby boy whos just turned 2 years old. during her pregnancy her dad ignored her until she was 8 and a half months pregnant when he was delivered. now hes the best grandfather he could wish for. go for it you'll be suprised in the end.
good luck hun.x

well you should find out if you having a baby and if you are having a baby then you need to tell him if mom had me at a young age would you tell her to get rid of to me and just plan what you are going to tell him so it wont be that hard make sure you and youre boyfriend have a job that why he wont think you are not responsible just make sure you plan every thing

You could have the baby...Just remember all that will go with it...Forever.
It's not like a pet or a toy. Parenting is not something you can choose when you want to do it...It's not something you can put on hold. People try and do this and their kids turn into an absolute train wreck.

Parenting is 24 hours... forever...24/7. If you and your boyfriend don't want to sit down and except this...(without kidding yourself) then have the kid and put it up for adoption.

You may really be ready for this. Are you and your boyfriend willing to marry and give the kid a secure homelife...(together)? Is he ready to give this kid his name?
If he is not already working..Is he ready to work hard everyday to support you and your child..(Without Government assistance)?
So many kids are born into this world where the mom and father get googly eyed. They tell all their friends and family and when the novelty wears off so does the parenting.
These kids are then basically left alone to grow up themselves (ALL THE WHILE THE PARENT GLOATS HOW GOOD OF A PARENT THEY ARE) It can really be discusting.
Maybe this is where your dad is coming from...You still don't have to abort it. If after you read this and choose to have it you can always put it up for adoption.
Familycoach

ok gurly heres my point of view... this is you body is your responsability and is your and your boyfriends baby.. to have an abortion you r the 1 who has to sign the papers to have it without sighing the papers you dont have to have an abortion.. so dont worry.. just sit down and tell your dad that you want the baby and their is nothing and no 1 that could stop you from that... you have to know what big of a responsability it is to have a baby and your boyfriends has to know 2.. the only 1 that has to agree of having that baby is u... and if your dad is so vilent and tell you that hes going to kill the father tel him that that will cause your baby not to have a father and that that is going to be worse on the baby and u.. good luck girl take care and go get checked.

dont do it as is you know doping abortion is an crime, dont obey your dad than how you can obey GOD .IF YOU are pregnant just be read to be the nice mom of your kid . my dear imangine if you oborted by your mom ,wher coud you be to day .good luck

yes I dont believ in abortion either I might be expecting to but reguardless of what my mother or anyone in mmy family thnksz or says im not getting ridd of thisz baby if to turn out pregnet have your kidd your dad just saying that but you no all fathers would be mad to no there baby girl is pregnant ya feeel me but ohhh well your at age were you can get an immancipation but I dunno just have the kidd your dad wont do dhit thatsz what they all say time will pass by and you regret everythng at first but after a while yearsz will pass by and regrets wont be regrets like they say nvr regrt somrthn that once made you smile you no you didnt really care for consequences while conciving the baby I didnt but I new I might turn out prenant but still tho im pretty sure if you have the baby it'll be the reason you smile reson you live for you never have to feeel lonely again!
your dad was part of what made you and hey he dint make your mom abort you obviously not because your here but still tho how'd you like if you 2 an aborted babie you wudnt no because you ot to see light and your living your life as we speak!

tell your dad you have legal rights and he cant make you and if he tries to kil your boyfriend that would be assult and he'd be only hurting himself

your 16...its up to you, not your dad!

I could never have an abortion...if you want the baby then go for it!
but make sure the father of you son/daughter is going to support you

xx good luck xx

this happend to one of my best friends and she sborted!!!
my opinion that was the worst desision ever I am totaly against abortions
and if you are to haveing one will ruin your life youll be emotionally crushed
and as far as your father he will deff bevery upset for maybe a long time but hell get over it eventually your his little girl and im sure after a while hell respect your wishes and
support you but befor you tell him you should deff make sure your pregnant!!! =]
hop this helps
good luck

You have to do what you think is right, not your dad. it is not his decision to make. I'm a guy so I don't understand what you are going through, but I had to deal with my controlling father for years, until eventually I stopped talking to him. Your dad is probably just so shocked that this happened and needs time to cool off. if he persists, just take a stand and tell him how you want to take care of the situation. If he makes things so difficult, try to live with your boyfriends parents or even a friend's if you have to. But in the end, don't let someone make a decision that is so important in your life control what you do. It will affect you much more than it will him.

dude honestly most dads. they say they are guna kill your boyfriends but when the baby comes out they are all happy

DONT get an abortion, not only are they wrong, but its like murder.
you're killing another human being whether it be alive and kicking or not.
it's not up to your dad what you do with your child.
its up to you.

did you have your baby?

firstly find out if your pregnant or not. most likely, your father will not change his opinion about him wanting you to get an abortion. I know if I were to get pregnant right now I'de either be forced to get an abortion or I'de be out on the streets. if your absolutely positive you want to have the baby and you know your boyfriend will be there and your dad is still pushing the whole abortion thing, get legal about it. he really cant force you to get an abortion legally. or you could get amancipated. then he really couldnt do a thing about it. good luck (:

If you dont want to abort it, dont. Tell your dad that both you and your boyfriend want to have the baby. If you do that, your boyfriend will have to take full responsibility, that way your dad doesnt have that weight in his shoulders. after the baby is born, youll see he will be very affectionate with you and the baby.

tell your dad that abortion is AGAINST THE CHRISTAIN (INCLUDING CATHOLICS, LUTHERANS, ORTHODOX, ECT.) AND JEWISH RELIGON!!!