My boyfriend in jail

Okay my bofriend Edward is in jail and he won't be getting out until June 3rd and he's been in there since January six months.But I have a huge problem that I can't get off my mind .He's really scared that I'll cheat on him while he's in there (which I haven't) but I told him that I liked someone else ,his name is DJ I found out that he's a total creep and I don't like him anymore and wish I never told Edward that I liked him in the first place.And because I told my boyfriend that I liked DJ he broke up with ,me .I love him soo much I can't picture myself with anybody else.I've wrote him 3 times since all this happened and he hasn't wrote back yet...HE called but I was asleep and this was all happened not even to weeks ago.I don't know what to do,if any ya'll have boyfriends in jail can give some advice.I know he loves me and I love him and don't want to give on this that easily.I AIN'T GIVEN UP WITHOUT A FIGHT.Please any advice is welcome.Please and Thank yous.

Hey Girl! I feel what your going threw. My boyfirend Chris has been in there from Janruary and his sentencing is on Aug. 3rd. Well find out if he gets 16 months to 3 years or released that day. I kinda liked his friend Leo for a week and didnt say anthing because whatever you tell them..they deal with it in jail, not on the outs so you dont know what their thinking or the way their acting in there. if he tried calling..THATS A GOOD SIGN! hes trying 2 communicate with you and that is the key to relationships. Turned out Leo was a weirdo, too. I would put $ on his books and visit him when you can. If you say something like..im lonely and its harder 4u than him because having a b.f. that you cant touch is very difficult. you love him and you were mistaken with your feelings because you were just lonely and mixed up on what you really want in life,and he's the best 4 u. Even if he doesnt write, keep writing. he's mad and doesnt want 2 send you mean letters he'll regret. that is why hes not writing back, but keep telling him how you feel so it is clear 2 him about why u said what you said. I swear on this! -Chrisitina Fun mail me if you wanta talk more

Hey hun. I know how you feel, my boyfriend is not in jail (thank god) but I know what your feeling....like loss of communication is gunna hurt your relationship. CAn you call him? Maybe visit him? I dont know a whole lot bout jail lol but if you cant, just wait. It will be hard, but you know he loves you. Why di du tell him you like this other guy you cray person!?(haha) YOU NEVER DO THAT!!!! Well, you already did, o well, but your boyfriend is probaboly just hurt, and thats why he isnt writing you back. It sucks that he called while you were asleep. Maybe call back that number? Good luck hun and I wish you all the best!!xooxx

Yeah I understand, my boyfriend just went to jail a couple days ago and hes going to be in there for 6 months too, until March of next year, and we have been together for 7 months and it really sucks. I'm falling for one of my best friends, Brian, but I dont think hes the right one for me at the same time. Before my boyfriend left to go to jail he said that if he ever ended up in jail to forget about him, but I cant, and its too hard to let go. Everyone tells me hes a bad influence on me and everything, but im too attached to him, and I love him more than anything. He called me a few days ago around 6pm but I wasnt home! I was out with some friends and I was really sad that I hadnt been there to get his call. I understand what your going through, and its nice that someone knows that.

I just hope you can stay loyal to your boyfriend because I'm sure he is counting on that. I know because I have to go to jail in a few days and I'll be in there for 18 months...and I'm hoping my girl friend stays loyal to me. you got to realize it's hard on the guy because you're behind bars with no way of knowing what your girlfriend is doing. my girl's friends all think I'm bad and keep tellin her to break up with me and her parents don't like me either because I'm black...she's white. so the whole time I'm in jail they going to be tellin her to cut me loose and there ain't nothing I can do about it.

bottom line is, don't waste time with this other guy if you don't love him. tough it out for your boyfriend because I know he's thinking bout you.

Hiya love. I know how you feel. My boyfriend has been in and out of jail, after been released on tag been together everyday has been the best even thought he has a curfew for 9.30! But the otherday while I was at college he texted me saying he has been locked up luckily he got out later that night. But we have been talking and its very likly he will go back he has court this upcomign wednesday I dont even want to this about him going back because I know its going to be so hard. But I luv him and decided I am going to wait for him and be faithful, he says I dont have to if I dont want to but I am we luv each other thats what matters. It is going to be one of the hardest things I have to do but I am going to wait however long (hopefully noy too long!) I wish you all the luck in the world and let him know excatly how you feel and whats going on. good luck babe! x

Hey...I know what you're going through. Kinda..my boyfriends, well pretty much boyfriends in jail and he gets out may 4th and hes been in there since Septemember 12th...And he gets out may 4th which is a forever time away it feels like. He tells me to get a boyfriend till he gets out but I deffently can't do that. I was in a serious relationship before I met him..and I have known him since july & we hung out ever since...but then he went to jail. Umm me and my ex. hang out somtimes..but he doesn't care bc hes in jail..like I feel bad because I know he says he loves me..but its weird, bc I say I love him....but yet I just got out of a serious realationship..but I dont know....Its hard to date someone thats in jail..and he made me really happy but then he went to jail...its so hard..--let me know if you have aim.

My boyfriend has never been in trouble before but he did something so retarded and he is know in jail. I don't know what to think. I love him. He is my whole world and I definately want to wait on him. I am scared though. He tried to rob someone. He didn't get anything and he didn't have a weapon but he is charged with robbery. Robbery is an F-2, does anybody have an educated guess on how long he may be going away for. I kind of think they will give him a lesser charge since he didn't hurt the person or actually get any money. This not knowing is killing me. Advice is welcome. As I said, he has never been in trouble before. He has an addiction to oxies which is a lot of the reason he did what he did. Maybe he will just get rehab, which he needs. My mind is racing, I'm so worried about our future. I can't imagine being with anyone else but if he goes to prison for a year... that would be the hardest thing. It's really not fair that he left me like this, now both of our lives are on hold. I am pissed, upset, lonely, and so worried.

hi my boyfriend is also in jail his second time sice we've been together. theres always teh possibity that he doesnt have envolopes or paper, it cost money. so maybe he called to talk and work things out. try to look on the bright side and not p*ss him off because then he'll never forgive you. also even if your rigth dont fight w/ him.

yeah I broke up with my boyfriend after he got in jail again, the second time while we were going out, and days before our 1 year anniversary. Now, he wont stop calling me almost every second he can, and its really annoying and I want him out of my life. I'm so glad I broke it off and that im single now it feels good :]

I dont know exactly but my boyfriend may go to jail and I am only 16 so I know its hard to go though but just keep tring and you will get thouhg I promise oyu that okay!

hey girl,
I know your hurtin, right now, but you're right, you shouldn't give up that easily. my boyfriend is in jail, and is facing two years prison time. he's always afraid that im going to cheat on him, and he always ask me to stay true. now, I dont know what you were thinking telling him you liked another guy, because he's isolated. anything and everything you tell him is going to sit in his mind and he's only going to think the worse. so go back to him, write him endless letters, and tell him that you love him, and that you are not giving up. -always helpful

well I do have a man who's locked up and I know its hard because I've been with my man for 5 years and he's always thought I cheated on him truth be told he left me a month ago because he felt since I didn't have my own place and I still live my mom and I just started going back too school and I finally have a good job its too late for him and everything is always about him,him,him instead of being about us he tells me love is not going too put food in our stomach or pay our bill this that and the third I feel as though that he played this whole time and I'm hurt and sad because I love him very much but I know I need too let him go because I deserve better ,but what you need too do is calm down and explain too him whats going on and when he comes home you really need to communicate together as one trust me don't wait too the last minute if you really care for this man and you are willing too make this relationship work then do the best you can do and if he can't see that then you need too let it go I know it hurts but if you ain't got nothing to give yourself then how are you going to offer and give too him ???

so he's in jail if he loved you he wouldnt have went to jail so id recemdem you leave him

hey babe, my man went to jail in nov. I did a search on the net for other girlfriend like me. It's good to know there are other people out there going through the same stuff. My advise to you would be if you love him just keep writing and he will soon see that you love him. He is probably just protecting him self but if you really love him just keep it up. and if he loves you like he says he does then he'll come back to ya! Patience is a good lesson I heave learned from this! all the best x

I have a boyfreind who has been in jail waiting on a federal case for over a year. It is very difficult to eplain how I had delt with this becuase I have not been all together stable in my decisions about him. I can only tell you that I too have missed the phone when he reached out and called back. its tough because we cant call them the second we see the missed call on the phone. What you should do is write him again, don't make up any story just write him that you missed the call and you would have loved to talk to him. if he does not call back or write just keep on writing to him. tell him all the things you would normaly say and just be open and honest. If he loves you too then you will eventualy get back on the same page and then who knows what could happen.good luck

my boyfriend has been in jail multiple times, and hes about to get 2 years..and I dont know how im going to get through it. hes always scared ima cheat on him - which I dont. I know how you feel. hopefully everything will work out with you and him. goodluck!

I am almost done going threw the same thing, my fiance has been in prison since July 07, he will be out in a couple of weeks, dude, these poor guys are locked up, of course they are going to worry if you will cheat, mine did also, but he trusts me, what we have is real and strong, our love for each other got us threw this, if you love your man then you would not even think about cheating while he is in jail,and reassure him of that, if what you have is real then you wouldn't cheat or think about it, I could not imagine cheating on mine while he has been helplessy locked up, our love is strong and real, keep the letters going and teh phone calls and visit when ya can, you will both get threw it, trust me

Hi! Looking at the date you're probably done. Anyhow I want to say something too cause I have the same problem. Actually its not a problem for me. I've met a guy and I saw him once. It was 15 December 2006 and in march 2007 he've been locked up. Since that day we are in touch. We have been writting to each other for almost 7 months plus he has been calling me all this time. He calls me every day actually. I just want to say that I have never been happier. He is the person number one in my life. so silly how life can surprises you. Sometimes is's hard, sucks...specially that I can not meet him there. I am from europe and he's from canada. But I'm telling you guys, I havent been so happy with any of my ex boyfriends. We both agreed that if it wasnt for this we would probably have never met! And so at this point we are happy. We spend life together. I hope it will never change. Good luck everyone!

Hi! Looking at the date you're probably done. Anyhow I want to say something too cause I have the same problem. Actually its not a problem for me. I've met a guy and I saw him once. It was 15 December 2006 and in march 2007 he've been locked up. Since that day we are in touch. We have been writting to each other for almost 7 months plus he has been calling me all this time. He calls me every day actually. I just want to say that I have never been happier. He is the person number one in my life. so silly how life can surprises you. Sometimes is's hard, sucks...specially that I can not meet him there. I am from europe and he's from canada. But I'm telling you guys, I havent been so happy with any of my ex boyfriends. We both agreed that if it wasnt for this we would probably have never met! And so at this point we are happy. We spend life together. I hope it will never change. Good luck everyone!

My fiance is in jail and has been for a few months now and wont get out till june 6th, babe you just need to understand were he is coming from. We know were they are at but they dont know were we are, what were doing, or who were seing. Its hard on them sitting everyday and only thinking about us and you telling him that made him proabably go crazy cause there is nothing that he can do while he is in jail. He probably is really hurt and mad at him self for putting him self there. Just give it sometime and he will come back, hes just hurt. He will write when the pain goes away I promise. Untill then just throw yourself into your job or something cause thats the only way that time will pass by faster believe me I know how you feel! Good Luck and take care!

I say you keep trying. If you really do love him and cant see your life w/ out him then keep on trying. My boyfriend is in jail an I know what your going thru. Its hard to deal with but you just got to stick with it. Yea I do get attracted to other guys but I know who the right one is for me. If I have to wait I will wait the whole 3 years so just think of ways to prove to him that you love him and he is the one for you. and if he really is the one then he will understand.

good luck
lissa