Meeting up with a guy online

Keep in mind that I am very responsible and I make sure to stay safe.

I met this guy online. I'm 17 and he is 31. I know that's a large age difference, 14 years. But my parents were 12 years apart. He seems like a good man and I trust him. (He used to...

be a cop until he was wounded. His eye still looks rough.) All he knows is my name, age, birthday, and that I live in TN. He is from Texas by the way. I don't know if that's very relevant. For my birthday in March, he wants to meet up at Graceland. I would be fine with doing it. But it's my mom I'm worried about. I want her to know where I am. I would feel terrible for lying to her. But I honestly doubt she will let me meet him alone. And I really don't want her to go. I know I'll only be 18, but having your mom tag along on a date isn't really all that fun. Especially the part that happens after you get back to the room. I have a good relationship with my mom, but we've never really talked about things like this. So I have no idea how to bring this up with her. I would really like for her to know where I am and to be okay with me going and meeting this guy friend I met online. So does anyone have any ideas of how I could talk to her and persuade her to be okay with this? And if you believe it is safe?

Thanks.

don't do it its all a trap...girls get killed because they trust pervs. like that

You need to be careful with that. I think you should make him come all the way to you. If a guy really likes you he will come to you. If you do decide to go meet him make sure it's a a public place with lots of people and don't be alone with him until you know he is a good guy. Be careful and if you need more help fun mail me =)
~Erika

Yes, occasionally they do. But that's only what you hear on the news. There are other occurrences where the outcome has been good. And those are just girls who can be easily influenced and persuaded to give out all of their information within the first few moments of the conversation. But that's not me. I don't just meet up with random guys all the time. I'm actually taking time to get to know him and find out what he's like before I decide anything. Thanks for your help though.

dont do it. trust me, I know how you feel, your 100% sure that this guy is being honest, but in reality a 31 year old guy who is talking to a 17 year old online is VERY suspicious...but I understand where your coming from because I went through this too. my advice to you is to not meet him. I mean, why does he want to meet you THERE. if he really wants to see you, he can come to your house, or a closer place to where you live.
and if you MUST see him, let your mom know where your going, and dont go on your own. PLEASE dont go on your own. take a friend, a cousin, somebody older than you! and dont leave their sight...
but I dont think its safe at all...dont do it...please...

Dude call the cops... that's like against the law... your 17 he's 31... your still a minor... he knows your underage and he's sayin this stuff to you... he should get thrown in jail asap... and you... go out and meeting people in town... I'm sure your a really nice girl... do better than this guy

The reason we were going to meet there is because I've never been and I would enjoy going. And he has been before when he was a child and he would like to go back. So we just thought it would be a fun day.

misspastry, I'm not sure what state you're from. But the legal age is different in some states than in others. In this case, it's 17. And either way, I'd be 18 by the time we actually met up. Thanks, though.

!!WARNING!! stay away!

No don't do it come on I know you think he great and trustworthy but If he asks you to come he appantly hiding something come on I'm 13 and I can see that please your 17. He 37 he almost 40 no don't do it he more experiance and might, will go farther

No, he isn't asking me to come. He would be coming to where I am. Well, not my house. But a couple of hours away. And he is 31, not 37. And meeting people online is just as dangerous as meeting someone local. You never know who's going to be psycho by the first date. But thanks.

But it's actually more risky and my mistake ibthought he was 37 lol but since I know ubprobably gonna c him anyway choose where you meet him wisely and may god be with u

Thanks. I don't know if I will. Everyone on here seems to think it's a bad idea. And I might as well listen since I took the time to post this in the first place. lol

It seems like you already have your mind made up about meeting this guy, so instead of warning you off I'm gonna give you some advice;

DON'T GO ALONE. Take a galpal. Prefferably one who has a boyfriend, so it'll be more like a doubledate than Spare gooseberry.

DON'T LIE TO YOUR MOM. I know you're not planning on it, but be honest with her. Literally tell her you're meeting a friend from the internet with so-and-so and her boyfriend. If you have a trusted friend with you, your mom's less likely to be worried.

and if the guy seems creepy; GET THE HELL OUT. I know you have enough common sense to do this anyway, but it never hurts to say the obvious.

I wouldnt do it. I had a problem about a month ago with a guy who was 35 . I was 18 im 19 now but he kept begging to meet me calling me his princess always wanting pictures I finally got my boyfriend to get him to leave me alone you should try meeting someone close to you. But you should go out and meet someone dont do it off the internet for all you know he could be a 50 year old serial rapist and your his next vicitim you might think hes telling the truth but he could be just straight up lying to you

isn't it ironic that he wants to meet you right when you turn 18? it's cause he wants to do sh*t with you and not get in trouble.. your gonna get hurt and something really bad could end up happening