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Should i stay for my kids if i'm not happy?

Me surfing in Oahu Asked by oceanh3ro about 1 year ago, 8 answers.

I am married, and have 2 kids, I'm not happy. Theres no abuse, or anything like, just plain and simple, I'm not happy. Is it better for the kids for me to stay, or for me to be happy and leave?

Clearing the Gene Pool Answered by bimjob (Online now) on Feb 15, 2008, 05:50PM
3277 answers

You owe it to your kids to try and repair this marriage. Go to a marriage counsellor with your husband. If he refuses to go, go by your self.
If you didn't have kids I would say that it's OK to split, but with kids, you MUST save the marriage if you can. Again, for the kids sake, just quitting is not an option.

Good Luck!!!

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This is Me Answered by darkwolfgirl240 on Feb 18, 2008, 11:57AM
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Dear mommylove03,

I am not happy all the time, but that does not mean that I drastically change my life all the time, I just deal with it. I find things that make me happy and I do them, or I do things I would not normally do.

What I do not do it up and change everything it is ...Destructive...and normally does not result in anything good.

I understand that you are in a LONG term relationship...did you ever thing that may be he is not the issue? Maybe it is something in you? I do not know jsut saying.

I suggest that you talk to some one about this and your spouse as well.

You leave him, an it changes four peoples live remember that.

Dark Wolf

me Answered by darkrose on Feb 16, 2008, 11:13PM
178 answers

if your not happy I say do whats right for you and if staying in this relationship makes you unhappy then yeah leave him but first look way deep inside of your heart and see if you really love him or not do what your heart tells u. also having kids doesnt force you to stay with the person who created them with u.

well hope I helped a lil!! happy

Sue90 Answered by sue90 on Feb 16, 2008, 05:46AM
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Dear mommylove03,
Yes, you need to go to counselling. It appears that you have placed a happiness responsibility on your partner instead of where it belongs on you. You are responsible for your own happiness. Saying that you may be suffering from a form of depression and with counselling and seeing a doctor you may find you will be back to your happy self. If the marriage isn't exciting again take some responsibility to spice it up. Perhaps your partner isn't happy either? Time for a good long chat with him. Leaving should be your last resort.
Sue...good luck

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YES! my boobs are!!! real! Answered by sophie_lea07 on Feb 15, 2008, 02:24PM
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if your not happy, you should leave if you have kids or not, staying in a relatinship just because you have kids with that person is no reason for staying together hope its helped abit hun an hope you make the right decsion xx

Answered by jd251 on Jun 12, 2009, 07:08AM

SAME PROBLEM, SORRY I HAVE NO ANSWER LOOKING FOR ONE MYSELF

purple Answered by ash23 on Feb 15, 2008, 09:54PM
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Yes I agree! See a marriage counsler! Dont give up without trying! Thats what you owe to your kids- an attempt to fix any problems!

me Answered by caw on Feb 15, 2008, 11:34PM
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ummm...well if your going to leave take your kids with you because you dont want to abandon them you can divorce I=him or do whatever you want but dont leave your kids and if you do love them and visit them dont forget bt them..

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