Should I stay for my kids if I'm not happy?

I am married, and have 2 kids, I'm not happy. Theres no abuse, or anything like, just plain and simple, I'm not happy. Is it better for the kids for me to stay, or for me to be happy and leave?

Dear mommylove03,
Yes, you need to go to counselling. It appears that you have placed a happiness responsibility on your partner instead of where it belongs on you. You are responsible for your own happiness. Saying that you may be suffering from a form of depression and with counselling and seeing a doctor you may find you will be back to your happy self. If the marriage isn't exciting again take some responsibility to spice it up. Perhaps your partner isn't happy either? Time for a good long chat with him. Leaving should be your last resort.
Sue...good luck

if your not happy, you should leave if you have kids or not, staying in a relatinship just because you have kids with that person is no reason for staying together hope its helped abit hun an hope you make the right decsion xx

You owe it to your kids to try and repair this marriage. Go to a marriage counsellor with your husband. If he refuses to go, go by your self.
If you didn't have kids I would say that it's OK to split, but with kids, you MUST save the marriage if you can. Again, for the kids sake, just quitting is not an option.

Good Luck!!!

Yes I agree! See a marriage counsler! Dont give up without trying! Thats what you owe to your kids- an attempt to fix any problems!

ummm...well if your going to leave take your kids with you because you dont want to abandon them you can divorce I=him or do whatever you want but dont leave your kids and if you do love them and visit them dont forget bt them..

if your not happy I say do whats right for you and if staying in this relationship makes you unhappy then yeah leave him but first look way deep inside of your heart and see if you really love him or not do what your heart tells u. also having kids doesnt force you to stay with the person who created them with u.

well hope I helped a lil!!

Dear mommylove03,

I am not happy all the time, but that does not mean that I drastically change my life all the time, I just deal with it. I find things that make me happy and I do them, or I do things I would not normally do.

What I do not do it up and change everything it is ...Destructive...and normally does not result in anything good.

I understand that you are in a LONG term relationship...did you ever thing that may be he is not the issue? Maybe it is something in you? I do not know jsut saying.

I suggest that you talk to some one about this and your spouse as well.

You leave him, an it changes four peoples live remember that.

Dark Wolf

More to the Question
I have tried marraige counseling, I have tried changing myself. I can't seem to find why I am so unhappy. I love my kids. I love my husband but I am not IN love with him anymore!?! I understand that I can't just up and walk out. There has been many problems within the relationship, and I know that I am to blame for as many as he is. He is a great daddy, he is always been there for me and my kids, but is that enough? My heart is torn. I never wanted to be 'Divorced', but I also never wanted to be unhappy. I have tried taking depression pills, nothing seems to help the way I feel. I just know that I want what is best for my kids and it is hard to find that happy-medium. I guess I am just at a loss. But thanks to everyone who is trying to help.

mommy_love03