Long lost dad

Okay, here's the deal.
I never really had a dad, he took off when he found out my mom was pregnant with me,
When she was 17.
Then I had an adopted dad who beat the crap out of me for 11 years of my life.
Finally, my mom and my adopted dad got a divorce.
So,...

I have pretty much always done okay with the whole dad figure thing.
Then about two weeks ago, one of my family members found my actual dads myspace, and sent it to me in a message.
Stupid me, opened up the link and looked, because I have never seen him before and was really curious. Then when I opened it, his about me, general, who I would like to meet, and heroes, and even pictures were all about his two kids, (who are like around the ages 5-8) and how he loves them.

My cousin thinks I should talk to him;
But I talked to my mom and she
Doesn't want me talking to him
Or even thinking about talking to him at all.
What do you think I should do?

ohh wow to second story but I think you should write to him on myspace! Hes your dad and hes probaly changed and its better to start your relationship now! go for it! good luck!

I have pretty much the same problem.. My dad left my mom when I wasn't born yet.
I have never spoken to him.. He's never seen me. I am now 18..

He threatend my mother that he would take me away in court if she ever told me about him so now that I am 18 I can know things about him.

salenalovenick is right!! your dad already knew that your mum was expecting you long time ago!! it's just that he wasn't ready for the commitment... now that' he's older and has his own kids...im sure he has changed!! but before you do decide to talk to him...you really should talk to your mom...lay it straight out...if you really do want to meet your dad, tell her how it's important to you to meet the guy that has made you (srry...I duno how to rephase that...lol) but yeaaa...I wish you luck!!

wow that sucks a lot im sry I think you need to msg him once and tell him who you are and see if he want a part of you and then go from ther because if he dose than hell say something

I think you need to do what feels right for you. Your mum would be worried he will reject you but its been a long time and he might be waiting for you to contact him. Talk to your mum again and tell her that you have a right to comunicate with him and are willing to take the chance of him saying no. You can only try cant you. You might be suprised how he is. GOOD LUCK XX

do what you think is right its not her choise its yooures but you just need to be sneaky

he is your father! if you feel good talking to him then do it! you said he adores his kids, right? so maybe he has gotten better about being a father and would appreciate you contacting him. follow your heart and good luck.