Is it considered rape.. ??

this happened a while back, but I wanted to know the opinions of others since the incident. [I haven't told a soul this before].

me and friends were hanging out with some guys on 4th pf July weekend, pourin up, you know, lol. only one out of the three...

of us chicks knew the guys, and of course it was the girl who's house we were staying at for the weekend. I was already half-gone by the time they got there, b/c they said they weren't coming so we decided to buzz without em, but they ended up showing up anyway. so already being tipsy, a little bit more time went by with the guys juss gettn there and I was certified drunk..haha. we were playing spades when they got there, and the one guy that was interested in me shared small talk with me before I buzzed out. an hour into it, all of us girls were drunk, but the guys were only slightly tipsy. they had us taking our clothes off..but we didn't have proper judgement, so we did it. I remember being in a daze, and the guy kissing me and ending up having sex with me in my friend's bathroom, where she herself was already in, gettn RAPED by another guy. the next thing I knew they left and I started bursting into TEARS..so did my other friend who got taken advantage of. I was involved with a guy at the time, and I kept calling his phone HYSTERICALLY, but it was 4 in the morn, and he was dead sleep. I was so devastated over the whole thing after that wknd..I dn't even remember the guy's NAME. I told the guy I was seeing what happened when he hung out, and he said I was raped b/c I was under the influence..but I feel like it was ALL MY FAULT putting myself in a vulnerable situation like that. I wanna know the opinions of other people, was it rape or my stupidity ??

[btw, I DON'T have casual sex..EVER. and I decided not to make this anonymous so people can take this seriously and give me their take on it]

thanks !!

I myself would consider this rape b/c you were under the influence and for all you know he coulda slipped somethin in your drink or nythin and thats why you dont remember. So yeah I deff dont think you did ANYTHING WRONG at all so dont beat yourself up over it hun. it was not your fault.

awh, thnk you so much. both of you guys equally. @ty;;this happened so many months ago, that I've gotten over the initial pain I felt, and I've come to terms with it. me and the other friend that this happened to that night haven't talked about it, tho. it's like..when me and her are around eachother we avoid the topic completely.

Yes it is considered rape. If you were that intoxicated then you could not consent. As for putting yourself into a situation like that, I dont care if you were running around naked, if you did not consent then you did not consent. End of story. I'd consider talking to someone about it?

This site has an online chat as well as phone hotlines. Please consider talking to someone. Guilt and a lot of the emotions you are experiencing are pretty common emotions. And sometimes people deal with it on their own. But sometimes they dont really deal with it, they just repress it.

www.rainn.org

I concider this rape...and I am so sorry the incident happened to you...
( you should contact the police because rape is illegal!!! )

Personally I take side with your boyfriend. I say its rape because the guy took advantage of you while you were under the influence...

I worry because you're still feeling like it was your fault. Which is really hard to deal with on your own.