Is it possible to have a baby at 14 when I'm so small?

Ok, soo, im 14 and I want to have a baby...I weigh like around 90 pounds so is that possible? And I want a baby because I LOVE kids I love everything about them and I think this will be right for me I know im to young I know I shouldnt but I want this more than anything right now. Im mature and I know what I want and this is it. Soo should I? And is 90 pounds enough to have one?

While we live in this great country the USA where you have the freedom to bear a child if you wish - it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you, the father or the baby.

There are a lot of things to consider.
Are you getting a job to support the baby?
Are you financially secure?
do you have health insurance?
Is your job secure?
Do you have your own place?
What about transportation?
Will you be able to go back to work right away?
Will you have to depend on ONLY His income for a time?
Will you be dependent on your parent's income?
Are your parent's ok with that?
What if the baby is sick, is your job/school going to allow you to be away?

Here's what you should do to get a picture of WHY everyone is telling you the things they are telling you.

Get a recent newspaper and look for a place to rent. Write down how much it would cost to rent a month.

Now figure out your utilities(heat, water, sewage, trash pickup, electric etc) and how much they would cost a month.

Do you want cable tv? internet? add those costs in there too.

Car payments? Add that.

Don't forget about the delivery! It easily costs between $5,000-$8,000 for a normal vaginal delivery, up to $12,000 for a cesarean delivery and much more if there are complications. If you are covered by insurance, it may cover most of the cost.

If you plan to use disposable diapers, plan on spending between $1,600-$2,300 by the time your baby is potty-trained. Expect your baby to go through at least 7-8 diapers a day on average and spending $80-$130 a month on diapers alone (especially in the first few months, when changes are more frequent.)

For formula (up until your baby is one-year-old), expect to spend between $1,000-$2,300- depending on whether you use powder in a can or ready-to-pour liquids. Plan on spending at least $40 a week on infant formula.

Don't forget about food for you, him and baby!

This is a break-down of the average prices for baby items (not all are a necessity.)

Crib with mattress- $160-$750
Crib bedding set- $35-$270
Crib blankets (4-6)- $8-$40 each
Fitted crib sheets (2)- $8-$20 each
Water-proof mattress cover- $10-$20
Bassinet or cradle- $35-$260
Changing table- $70-$600
Changing pad & cover- $25-$50
Dresser- $90-$650
Rocker or glider- $90-$500
Car seat- $35-$280
Stroller or travel system- $30-$300
Playpen or porta-crib- $60-$180
Swing- $45-$130
Play center or walker- $50-$125
Mobile- $25-$70
Baby carrier or sling- $20-$140
Monitor- $20-$230
Baby gate- $35-$250
Bouncer seat- $30-$90
Toy box- $25-$90
Gym or play mat- $25-$90
Doorway jumper- $25-$60
High chair- $45-$240
Diaper bag- $10-$60
Diaper pail- $20-$45 Refills- $15-$20 (3 pack)
Thermometer- $10-$90
First aid supplies (kit)- $20-$30
Humidifier or vaporizer- $15-$130
Bottles 8 oz & 4 oz (8-10)- $10-$20 (3 pack) or $20-$40 (starter set)
Bottle warmer- $18-$35
Sterilizer- $30-$70
Breast pump & accessories- $45-$350
Breastfeeding pillow- $20-$35
Bath tub or seat- $15-$35
Hooded towels (4)- $6-$30 each
Wipes (a lot)- $4-$5 (pack)
Clothes for first year- $500-$1,200

Add all that up.

You're 14 and have your whole life ahead of you. If you're stressed now, think about when you have a baby! To carry a baby you do need to be at a healthy weight. But I definately don't think you should get pregnant right now. I think your desire to have a baby right now is stemming from lonliness.

Why not get a puppy or a kitten?

xox
Sika

I think I could handle one and I know im young but this is what I really want to do...

ummm are u really really sure you want to go through the hard labour or having a baby ITS a lot of work to have a child and your so younge ...im 20 and I person still think im not ready for it :S

yeah I know its going to be hard but I just really think this is good for me...is it possible for me to though?

well nothing is possible ...just your 90 pounds and for certain pple you need to be a certain weight to be able to carry a healthy baby...docters SHOULD help you with this but is your PARENTS allowing you to make this happen ??? and if the father going to be there to help you is he OK with you baring his child...you gotta think of these things not just your self ...its not nice to have a child with out a father and not having the help you need from him

what is the certian weight??
And yeahh I have told my mom and dad I wanted a kid they just dont think im going to do it...But I really want to this is what I really want...=[
And I didnt really think about a father I just want a baby, like this one boy I know he's safe and all he would probably be there for the baby but I don't know...I didnt really think about that.

well I dont noe what weight should be good for you ...ud have to check the docter
but you got be sure with your parents and tell them its what you want ...and I talk about the father because you have to be finacially ready for it ...do you got the money to support this baby and are u willing to give up scool for it ...being finacially ready is IMPORTANT...im 20 im in college right now so as of this moment I dont think its the right time I have no worries about it because if I did decide to have a child my boyfriend would be backing me up a hundred percent but we arent finacially read to have and maintain a kid ...u also got to think is the boy im going to have a kid with healthy ... you gotta thing of STDS...hes gotta check him self as well as you to be able to have a child because not only will you harm your self you will harm the baby

Yeah...thank you a lot for your help, I do need to think a lot of things over, im just so stressed right now. But thanks girl.=]

no problem

Best Plan: education, ring, date, marriage, getting finincially stable, then baby - if you want to be smart.

umm I say dont do it. im 14 and yea, sometimes I wish I had a baby. but I was babysitting my 5month old miece who usually doesnt cry. but she was sick. she screamed sooo freakin loud I didnt knowwat 2 do. after about an hour or so I gave her 2 my mom, and said she had gas. she put up such a figth and shes not even a fussy baby!!! evn before that, I said id wait. but after that, I said that definately.

get a plan. just like amblessed said. ge you education. grow a little gain some weight or somethin but try to lve out yur teenage years to the fullest. a baby would slow a ll that down at this time in your life, and yull never get these years back. so thank about it first PLEEASE!!!

Get into babysitting instead. That way you earn the money instead of spending it, and you get the kids but can hand them back at the end of the evening! I didn't have my first child until I was 28 and I'm really grateful for my freedom up until then.

I'm 17 and pregnant.
but my boyfriend is 18.
and I came from a really bad ho0usehold. so I meant to get pregnant.
I'm not mad at the fact I am.
but it's gunna suck scratchin for money and waking up at night.
get ready hun.
I wouldnt suggest it unless you have a supportive man.

To add to why sikashimmer's comment...don't forget the 200+ diapers a baby goes through. I spend an extra 150 a month on diapers alone. She goes through more than 12 packs of wipes. And don't forget to add the lotion and baby body wash, rash cream, and Tylenol. Believe me, that's not even all of it. Just when you think it's all covered, there's one more thing that they will need! You have to make sure you're ready for all the expenses. Even though people say all a baby really needs is love, bottles, and diapers they are wrong! It's WAY more than that!

Think things over!
Good Luck
Jess

I'm 15 and I wish I had a baby sometimes,
but trust me I's not as easy as you think..
It cost a lot of money, and you have to be in a stable enviroment befor you can bring a baby into the world.
You need a boyfriend that will be there throughout the pregnancy and while the child is growing up.
You need a job for money you cant always rely on you otherhalf for money, or you parents.

Your still young and if you stressed now a baby is going to a lot put more stress on you, you need to be young live life experience things, before you have a baby..

Also you have to think of the child's future when they grow thats when it becomes more expensive.. you dont want to have a child and not be able to give it all the things you've wanted

you should seriously sit down and think if you making the right decision.

Best of Luck
get back to me and tell me how you going
monique.

look, I'm not going to say all the same things all the rest of them said, because you've already heard it(even if it really is true) but..just wait..keep your virginity and your life. children are hard. trust me I have a two year old and I'm 17. My boyfriend cheated on me and was in juovi when I was birthing my child. She's my little angel and I love her with all my heart but the only way I can afford her is to live in a one bedroom apartment and trust highschool dropouts to watch her while I'm at school. They have a program where I live that pay's me for going to school but still, it's not enough and I wish I would've just stuck to babysitting..if I could back I would.

u are too young just think about that...

Do yourself and your baby a big favor finish school go to college get a good job. Don't just have a child because you know you will love one at age 14, you have plenty of time to have a child, it is not fair to your child not give that child all the advantages you can, if you love that child as much as you say you will. Because you won't be taking care of the child , you will either be at work at some low paying job because you didn't finish school with your back and feet killing you, trying to get all the hours you can while your parents take care of your child or you will go on welfare so everybody can take care of your child and still you won't have the money to take care of all the childs needs the way you should. So do it right you will be proud you did and so will your child. Go out and babysit as much as you can to see what it is like. Its not all giving the child a bath smelling of peaches and cream and playing with your smiling child. Its wet messy, stinking diapers that have to be changed, its a bottle like every 4 hours. Its a sick child that needs to be taking care of. Its just when you get in the bed ready to pass out exhausted, the baby cries and needs to be taken care of. Its 4 am feedings. Its taking the child to the doctor for all the shots and medical care he or she is going to need which is not cheap. Its all the toys and things that baby will need. Its all the clothes and shoes the baby will need in just a few short years. Its making sure that child gets the best education so the child can do what they want in life. What about the father? The baby deserves to have a loving father in the home that will also love and take care of that child. You owe it to yourself and your child to be, if you love your child to be so much. Just think about it seriously and truthfully. Because your only 14 and will not only be affecting your life and your babies life you will be affecting a lot of others.

I think you are way too young for a baby , you're only 14 , you have time , you'll throw your life away , you need to ask yourself these questions : will my boyfriend support me ? , will I need to get a job ? , will my parents support me ? , will my parents kick me out ? , you are WAY too young for one , and you should really reconsider it

your crazy I'm 21 and my son is a handfull. just b/c you love something doesn't mean you need it

I think the phrase (in your question) 'want this more than anything right now' gives you a clue. you're 14. hormones, stress, education-mean anything?

you should wait until your older, then you will a job, *maybe* a husband, a house of your own, an education(college), ect. then you know that you will be able to pay and take care of the baby yourself, and the burdon wont fall onto your parents. and you still have to finish school, so who woud take care of it then?

if you want a baby so bad why don't you get a job babystiing or even let your parents know and they could poassible allow you to take care of one for a week. Than you will realize that its not all fun and games

huni I am 23 years old and have a baby and another on the way...my husband is a doctor (officer in the military) and its hard for us financially...think it over

Not to bring too much negetivity to this, but, its unbelieveably selfish. A baby's not a toy its real. When I was 14, 'the only thing I wanted in the whole wide world' was a dog. First week I was on task with taking it outside and feeding it. But after that, I hated waking up early and I hated cleaning up after it. My parents took over. And if you are that spoiled that you believe you can have something like a baby, your parents probably will end up raising it. They're going to pay for the food, the diapers, and clothes. They'd be driving it to the doctor and whatnot. They'd feel the hurt, not you. Your 14 and are still getting taken care of yourself, its selfish and irresponsible to think you can take care of another human being. Ha, tell you parents to have another kid and practice taking care of the few things your are capable of for it and see how it goes.

damn chiick you are way to young... yea ii am 15 and me and my man have been talkiin bout a baby! but we have jobs and stuff. see you are 14 you cant even get a job... wait tiil you get a job. find a boyfriiend fiirst just dont go out and get pregnant by someone!!! wait for the rite guy

Laterz: brina you should honestly wait to have a *baby* yea they are sweet and everything but when you are gettin up all early thin\k bout that you wont be able to go out with *friends* you should wait you are still little your body is still growing.. want to know more funmail me

it's really good that you asked (even if it was online) before you went and had a child at age 14. my answer is NOOO WAY. you are WAY too young. you are in MIDDLE SCHOOL! please tell me you see what is wrong with having a child in middle school. you shouldn't even be having sex at that age. im 17 and trust me having a kid right now would be the worst thing ever. if you have a kid you can't go to school and have to drop out (have fun getting a job without even a high school diploma), you will be up all night with your baby when it screams like its on fire, you will have to change its diapers full of big smelly poops, and all of the other things.

you probably thing of a baby as a little cute thing with a big ol head and baby fuzz hair. you don't think of all the other things that come with it that you should never ever have to experience until you are able to support yourself and the baby. at age 14 you should be worried about going into high school, not whether or not to have a baby. trust me that would be the worst thing you could do

this is less important, but if you start having sex all the time now (even if you don't have a baby) you will be labeled as the town bicycle (everyone gets a ride) for your entire high school life. you do not want that. there is a girl in freshman year who has sex alll the time and she did in middle school and she gets no respect and to be honest no one wants anything to do with her because she has been used so many times. its only the stupid guys who have sex with her.

do. not. have. a. baby. until. you. are. out. of. college. with. a. job. and. a. place. to. live.

please take my advice

just do what you feel is right bbe..x

Okay...do you know what the average cost is to raise a kid these days? It's (at least) $7,000 a year. Can you afford that? At 14, probably not!!! If your family is able to help support you that is always a plus, but NOT fair to them to have to lend out that kind of money. Make a wise deciscion. It's not a doll- it's not someone to dress up, change diapers, and simply love...you have to appropriately take care of them.

90 pounds is all right, if you think it is, lass. You have the right idea; babies are a gift, not a burden, and if you want one, have one. You're too young only in the law, and I'd ignore that, lass. Real moms are rare, in this world, and I see you're a real mom. *smiles a soft Irish smile*

just because you like babies doesnt mean you go and get your own. go volunteer at a day care. you are so young that your hips would not be able to spread far enough out and you would probably need a sea section. think about 16 with a sea section scar. think about what others at your school would say. how does your mother feel about this being that she would be the one supporting it

I had a baby when I was 16

im 18 an pregnant

hi, I am not hear to tell you what to do, but I have a friend who fell pregnant at 14 and had the baby, but when she was pregnant she was teased and called so many names, kicked out of home, and in the end she had to move in with her grand perents across the country and was home schooled, think about how bad it will be on your 21 as well when you have a 7 year old in the room that needs all your attention.