Im 14 and really want a baby

hi there my name is katie and im 14 years of age. I know that the user name says mum2be but I am on a friends account thats all. Anyway, for years I have been wanting to have a baby and I know it sounds crazy but I have everything worked out. This might...

sound really pathetic but don't critisise please because its all I ever think about. I have a part time job as a waitress and get paid usually around £20-30 a week depending on how many shifts I do. If I saved up with my partner until around October I can expect to save around £500 as I have other things to buy in that time as well. If we started trying for a baby in October and I did concieve, I could expect to be due in June/July. Because I would have left highschool by this point, I could then care for my child full-time until september. The money saved would buy all the things I need (prams, cots, clothes, nappies etc) I have done some research and found that I could buy everything for approx £400 which I would have saved in a bank account already. I have also researched a company called care2learn which pays for child care for young mums who are in education and it would pay £160 per week for my babies childcare. Now my mum works across the road from a creche, the same one both me and my sister attended when we were young so I know that this £160 would pay for a weeks worth of childcare and I know that its a good nursery. So I was thinking that in the september (I will have turned 16 in the July) I will be attending college. Now my mum could drop my baby at creche when she goes to work at 9am and bring him/her home at 4.40pm. By this time I will be at home therefore I could take over responsibilities which I fully intend to do. Futhermore, if I am in full time education I can recieve EMA of £30 per week due to having a household income of less then £20,000 per year. Therefore I would be able to buy the essentials (nappies, babywipes, nappy bags, sudacrem, formula if I cannot breast feed) and I worked out that this would come to approx £20 per week. I could buyy this out of my EMA leaving me with £10 per week on myself or on extra clothes/toys for my baby. This doesnt sound a lot but I am currently getting just £5 per week for babysitting if I dont work (I know how hard it can be looking after babies) and I dont tend to buy things for myself anyway. Trust me it sounds complicated but I do have everything researched and worked out.
I have been babysittin for an 11 month old for a few months now and this involved bathing, feeding, clothing, getting up in the night etc so I know what to expect however it has just increased the desire to have a baby much more.
Also do not presume that due to my feelings I am some chav who lives on a coucil estate (that is not made to be disrespectful all I mean is that it the stereotypical view on teenage mums when there are thousands of wonderful teenage mums across the country regardless of their living conditions). I am a straight A student predicted to achieve all A grades and one Astar in my GCSE's. Please just comment on my situation but please be polite. Thankyou for reading this and sorry that its so long!
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after I have read all your answers I wud just like to say thankyou for mekin me realise I was being stupid and immature. A baby is not a doll and to have a child would ruin not only my life, but my families, and the childs as I could not offer it what they deserve in life. Thankyou!

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Please don't have a baby yet...I won't even mentioned your age. Please go to college and wait until your older , experience and really ready to dedicate you time.

be carefull about AIDS or something. And this is my opinion but bringing a baby to childcare everyday is not good. your pretty much letting other people raise your(when he gets older) kid. I would not do it but it's your life so yeah. but since it sound like your gona do it than save a lot. I don't know pounds well but I would get some more money before you have a baby.

Don't do it. Your too young.

Dear mum2be,
There are a few things that money can't buy like maturity, common sense and a good example. These are all things that a child will value more than everything you have talked about. A child needs a mature adult to handle all the situations that arise, a parent with common sense who realizes that they must experience life to learn from it and most of all a parent that can teach them to be patient, to be thoughtful (having a child cause you want one if very selfish) to be stable, educated and happy. There are many reasons we wait to have children but you have shown us the most important reason we wait...to be able for our child to look up to us and to be proud of our accomplishments, or knowledge and our lack of selfishness.
Sue...good luck

a bunch of my friends have had kids or are going to and they love their kids, but they also regret it too, because they are tied down, and are always tired, and can't do anything. So wait till you can support a baby. They have trouble doing this even working a bunch of jobs.

I want baby too..but I know that I am too young..I want to be able to go out and have fun with my friends instead of being tied down all the time..babies are cute..but it can wait until you are older I would say

Your really young and I would think about it before you do anything babies are a lot of work and take up most of your time... and very stressful... but if you think you can handle this then good luck cause having a kid young sucks!!! coming from experience.

Just babysit for your friend's baby! That way you get the pleasure of the child AND the pleasure of handing it back!

Look im 14 to and my advice is all you need rite now is to look after the child your babysitting and enjoy the sex. have a baby whn your older maybe about 20

you should wait for sure. it may seem like the right thing to do now, but it will wreck your future. you should wait until you are at least in your twentys. please, dont get pregnant now. if you have a baby now, you will always love the baby, but you will most likely regret it in the future. maybe you should try to get a chance working with kids or babysitting. but dont make this make you want to have a baby even more. it is much harder when you have a baby at home day and night and you have to wake up in the middle of the night tons of times. its not fun.

U are CRAZY!!! you r soo not ready you are mad!!! I have never known someone 2 be soo dumb

ohk this is a very sad story about what heppened in my home town I am a 15 year old boy born and raised in tennesse there was a 14 year old girl who had a baby it semmed 2 be doing fine but then it started getting relly relly sick becous the mom wasent done growing yet becous she was only 14 and the baby died of kawsaki disese 4 weeks after the birth so you need 2 w8 till your about 20 and have a husbend and both have good paying jobs b 4 you ever think about having a baby enjoy going partying and smoking weed and your almost 16 you dont wana haulft 2 haul a baby around in your car with all your friends ad if you where 14 and had a baby think of all the people that would say stufff about you and call you names your just not ready so always use a condom durex is the best they never break

okay you are only 14 but if you really should wait but I know you don't know me personally but call me on my cell don't give it out but everything you say stays between us we need along talk I'm 16 and I want a baby to but I have to wait my boyfriend is only 19 years old and he could get in to big trouble

wow.
you're only 14..
you're still a kid yourself.
you should at least wait until you're out of school, and you know that you'll be with this person for a long time.

well you have a job so if you really want a baby go for it!!! but just make sure you have a man that is guna be there for you and that baby cause its guna hurt if the dad isnt there...GUD LUCK

hi you should not have a baby you know your not ready for one if you have to look up places to help pay for your baby.you will spend over 400 dollor on babys.babys grow fast so you would have to buy new clothes,some babys dont like a certon type of nipple then you have to take them to the dr. for check ups.some have special needs please wait I am 14 and have a baby and it is so hard I cant do want I want anymore for me its nothing but school and work and taking care of my daughter cause I am so young I can only work so many hours and dont get well payed.please wait and dont have a baby your one your self.child hood gose by so fast and you should enjoy it cause once its gone it will never come back

ok I understand you want a baby and I cant judge you because everybody has they on choice.But just make sure that you not just trying to have a baby.You need support from your family cuase no matter what you do or what they say when you are mad they'll be there for you.Im the same age as you and Im trying to have a baby with my boyfriend well my everything. Just make sure that you have the right boyfriend.And that hes going to be there for you always and not leave you.That the important becuase you not going to do it by yourself.You need a lot of support from your babydaddy.okI understand how you feel inside.Trust me.Just be careful and make sure that what you want.And not make a mistake. Well good luck in everything.I really mean it .Peace~1~

look you have your whole life a head f you to av kidz, luk so does eva body else, trust me you couldnt cope wit a kid rite nw, you mite regret it big time nw and you will if you do, it will happen bt don't let it happen nw kk