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I want an abortion, but he wants the bab

sk8erchick Asked by sk8erchick over 3 years ago, 35 answers.

Ok, my ex, I told him I'm pregnant. I said I don't want to have the baby. I want an abortion. But he wants the baby. He says he wants to raise it with or without me. I'm 3 months pregnant so I think I should decide soon. I'm only 15! I want to graduate...

and go to college and I don't want to have a baby! One- I don't want the whole school to know I'm pregnant and Two-Won't I miss a lot of school? Like morning sickness and then labor and I don't want to do it. But he wants the baby. Does he have any say?

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lyubopitka Answered by lyubopitka on May 01, 2006, 05:12AM
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Whoa, kids, calm down. Summoning God or taking sides won't help. Because yes, you are practically still kids at the age of 15 - how could you possibly be fit for parents, either the mother or the father! You're not even out of high school yet! And if you drop out of school, how are you ever going to finish your education and get a decent job to feed that child? Excuse me, but a child is a ton more than just a blessing - it needs food, clothes, medicine, a home, etc. - *every single day* - which costs a LOT, can you provide that at the age of 15? About placing the blame for the conception - it is unfair to take sides because unless it was rape (and it sounds like it wasn't) then *both* guy and girl share the same responsibility of using protection. The fact that the guy wears the condom doesn't mean his girl is free of blame for not insisting on a condom being used, if she even cared about that. At the end of the day, it's this 15 year old child's body that will be ravaged by the pregnancy and the birth, I think she is right to be afraid and not want to go through with it. You have your life in front of you girl, grow up and get firm on your feet first - you'll have plenty of other blessings to carry through with to the cradle.

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Answered by rt88 on Apr 30, 2006, 05:48AM

please dont have the abortion. I think that at the end you will regret that decision. I don't know how old your ex is but I think if he is old enough to have sex with someone your age and not use any protection. Then he would not be able to raise a child on his own. It would appear to me that he does things without thinking of the consequnces. Therefore he would not be fit to raise a child. As far as you and the baby go I would have the baby and raise the child up and drop out of school if your friends would not be supportive. I would then get my ged. I would still go to college and arrange for someone to take care of my child while I went to school. I would'nt think about my life being over just because I had a child. I would do everything in my power to raise that child the best that I could. I don't know if you know this but that child is a blessing from God. I just know that if God blessed you with life you would not put it to death right? God loves you and that child.you forever feel the pain if you went through with this abortion. Trust me on this one. I would'nt have your ex take care of the child or ever watch him. Not to be cruel but because what he did with you to conceive this child was not right. But that child should not be the one to pay the price. I know it would'nt be easy but at the end you would be gratefull to God for giving you the strength to endure the blessings with that child and the smile and I love you mom coming out of his or her mouth would be well worth it at the end. Remember friends and relationships may come and go but that baby will never leave you or forsake you. If you love that baby with all your heart that baby will be blessed and will love unconditionally. Unlike some friends and boyfriends that will more then likely love you under certain conditions. If their is a conditon in a relationship then it is not true love Whether it be friends or boyfriends. Remember to look up to jesus for answers. Focus on him and you will never go wrong. Don't listen to people that don't know any better. People that don't understand jesus don't understand themselves and cannot fully see the truth that is there before them. Therefore trust in jesus for he is the truth and the light. Don't sacrifice an innocent child that is the life that you have been blessed with. Pray for understanding and that the Lord will give you the strength to do the right thing. Right now its time to stop thinking about your life and start thinking about the babys life.

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Answered by sunflowermom on Apr 30, 2006, 07:48AM
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What do you want to do? While a lot of people are against abortion and are convinced you can do without, it's your choice in the end. But have you looked into the other options? Like adoption? I'm not going to say the usual there are a lot of couples who can't conceive a child who would love to be your babies parents but think about it. Theres also open-adoption? I agree with rt88, I wouldn't let your boyfriend raise the child, unless you really trust him, if you care anything about the little one growing inside of you. If you changed your mind and don't want an abortion, heres a happy thought. 18 years from now your child will be turning into an adult, graduating highschool and leaving you for college. Then you'll be a grandma and you'll have not only one of your babies saying Mom, Thank you and I love you!! but you'll have other babies saying Grandma, I love you!! And as a mother to two, hearing those soft words of appreciation for all you do is the best thing you could ever hear.

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bigboy Answered by bigboy on Apr 30, 2006, 09:24AM
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I'm going to take the side of a guy, because well I am a guy. You weren't the only one having sex. While I get you're the one who's carrying it, I don't get how you could just say no, I'm not having the baby. This is your choice but thats bullshit. Getting an abortion even though your boyfriend doesnt want you to is like someone grabbing your child out of your arms 3 seconds after its born and you not ever seeing him/her again. You're not the only one who made him/her. And what if you were having the baby? Would you let the father see him/her?
rt88, what did he do? He didn't rape her. She consented. So how are you going to say I would'nt have your ex take care of the child or
ever watch him. Not to be cruel but because what he did with you to
conceive this child was not right. She did it too! He has just as much right as she does to seeing this baby.

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Answered by lovers2000 on Jun 05, 2006, 08:30PM
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I understand how you feel me and my bf went though about the same thing we were not that young but I was scared And I was not going to keep my baby either But When I went to my doctor they told me about diffrent things I could do adoption, abortion, But when I heard that heart beat I cryed no longer scared for my self but finding that I wanted this baby so bad. Just try and have the baby Iam not saying it will be easy its not but if your bf will stick around mabey get your mom to keep the baby while going to school or a close friend that can babysit please dont abort the baby he is your Thing really hard mabey talto someone u trust they cant sometimes help let me know by a follow up if you need to talk e-mail me

Answered by dfdfdg on Jun 14, 2006, 08:04AM

omfg. girl do whats best 4 you tel the guy 2 fuk his self and sort out your lyf

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Answered by tara1984 on Jun 14, 2006, 09:50PM
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When it comes down to it it is your body and you have the final decision on what you want to do. But dont feel that having a baby will ruin your life etc it doesnt. I had my son when I was young and I went back to study 3 weeks after I had him and now neally 2 years later im still studying to get what I want. Having a baby doesnt ruin your life. Just dont do something you will regret .. all the best Tara

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steve perry Answered by adriana on Jun 30, 2006, 10:15AM
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if you are three months along,dont you know that your babys heart beat,is beating right now,21 day after,i have study about this in college,i think if you are both 15,how well you take care of the baby?i was 29 when i had my first,and 31 when i had my other,it says in the bible you should not kill,that one of the comanment in the bible,put your baby up to a family who cant have kids.this baby needs a chance,and doing so,the LORD well bless you,because if you take its life away,later on down the rode,you well feel sad wondering,what would your baby look like,how would it act,did the baby look like me or the father,please have your baby,killing is wrong

Answered by chizad on Jul 03, 2006, 02:35AM
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I say have the baby and put it up for adoption, its not worth killing an inncocent child because you dont want it. really you put yourself in this situation, so try talking this out, maybe adoption where you and your ex boyfriend can visit the child and see the miracle that you guys made.

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Answered by juneknight on Jul 09, 2006, 05:25PM
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Hi, I got this question late (JULY) You posted it in April. I am sure you have made your decision and taken action by now if you choses abortion. All I can say is that no one can make the choice for you or tell you how you will feel or how to manage your fears and anxieties. I say Be Strong. You are a Woman and you are responsible for your own decisions. If you have the baby and learn to struggle you are not the first. Most of my mates at school had their first child before they were twenty. Many picked up their lives later and trained and went on to good jobs when they were in their twenties. Whatever, your decision you will manage it. And Don't You Ever Be Ashamed of Yourself or Let Anyone Else Make You Feel Ashamed. You know this is a delicate subject and one which can cause peole to scream Baby Killer at you. Just keep your choice and business to yourself until you know who to trust. Who knows you may not have a good enough relationship with the father to make a good stable home. This cannot be ignored. I wish you luck and hope you make the right decisions for yourself.

steve perry Answered by adriana on Jul 13, 2006, 02:02AM
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yes but killing is wrong and it say so in the bible,you should not kill,but the baby,life up for adoption,that the only way it ,the baby well have a great life,plus there are people out there.who cant have kids,do you know how many women want babys,give the baby a chance at life,and someday he/she,well fine you,and ask why mom?you are so young,plus the child your child ,well thank you for gving it life,think about it.happy

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Ericson Answered by esconsult1 on Jul 13, 2006, 03:01PM
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In the end, its your body, and your decision. What you are going to do depends on your beliefs, not anyone else's here.

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Whiteboard portrate Answered by filletofspam on Mar 24, 2007, 10:18PM
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How old is your exBF? A lot of young guys have no idea how hard being a single parent is. If he doesn't have the maturiity and resources to deal with it he will soon find himself overwelmed and probably give the child up anyway.

Nobody should have to serve as an incubator for 9 months for a child they don't want. You have to do what is best for you. If you think he really is able to care for this child and you want to carry it for another 6 months than have the baby for him.

i was gettin ready to go out to a party Answered by lirec_200 on May 12, 2007, 02:14AM
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sweety i understand that your probably embarrassed about the baby and the fact that your pregnant,being the age that you are,but he wants you to have the baby. I'M not judging you,but whatever you do please don't kill the baby,your gonna hold on to that for the rest of your life. there for when you get older, your gonna think back to when you did that,and you''ll probably never forgive yourself,ok you probably think you made a mistake,but having a baby is not a mistake GOD sent that baby to you for a perfect reason,but it's your choice wether you wanna kill it or not,why don't you just have the baby and give it to the baby's father,and let him take care of it since he want it,then you can go on to school,and do whatever it is you gotta do.but don't kill the baby because yo mother didn't kill you before you were born,yeah i know it can be embarrassing i'm a mother of 1 and another on the way,i got my pregnant at 17. please the baby didn't ask to come into this world,but go to someone find someone that you could trust,an older person who can help you figure out what you wanna do.
talk to that person and they'll help you walk your steps out =, why don't you have the baby and give it up for an adoption or something,but don't kill it pleazeeeeeee, i know how you feel your young but like i said find some one you can talk to or lean on. i hope the best for you i'm 19 going on 20 my name is alonna if you wanna chat,become friends,talk to eachother,pleazeee hit me up feel free to,MAY GOD BLESS!!!!!

lol Answered by harmony on May 16, 2007, 03:04PM
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DONT KILL IT AFTER ALL IT'S YOUR FAULT WHY SHOULD THE BABY HAVE TO DIE!! THAT'S A GIFT FROM GOD YOU KILL IT YOU'LL PAY.

Answered by strawberri on Jun 16, 2007, 01:24AM

Please do not have a baby for a dude! you know deep down inside, that being you are 15 you and him will not be together for the rest of your life. Plus he is young too, what happens when he changes his mind leaves you for a girl with no responsibilities and everything is left up to you? Even if he leaves (better for you and your future) Girl -sometimes us women has to think for ourselves -OK

playing with camra Answered by melissain46176 on Jun 18, 2007, 11:13PM
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Dont kill the baby please! Call an adoption agency just dont murder your baby give it to tha dad! I would do anything for a baby I am 21 trying so hard to have a bay many couples want kids but like me are unable.. Please dont kill it!

playing with camra Answered by melissain46176 on Jun 18, 2007, 11:21PM
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I know you are 15 but listen there are so many people like me out there who will nuture and love your baby please give it a chance to live. look in a phone book 1800 numbers for adoption they will pay for everything and you will be so glad you did once you murder your baby you cant take it back!

playing with camra Answered by melissain46176 on Jun 18, 2007, 11:26PM
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I know that he said with or with out you give it to him please!! please please! I know it will be hard but dont kill it! I am so scared for you I know it will be rough but I know that some where out there is someone who will raise your child.. It will be so much easier on you than living your life after killing it! Please think about it!

True Beauty Answered by zonemaster on Jun 21, 2007, 06:27AM
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You don't need to kill your own baby in order to go to college.

There are several Crisis Pregnancy Centers in Des Moines. http://ww.lifecall.org/cpc/ia.html

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Answered by kaci_tucker on Jun 21, 2007, 06:14PM

Hell Yeah he Has alot to say u have to be fucked up in the head to want to kill a baby u always could put it up for adoption to GOODNESS I cant belive u let that cross ur mind that baby is forming rite now if u dont want it give it to him at the age of 15 u should know how to get pregnat,.. well e-mail me back Fun mail me and let me know if ur months u should b showin a lil bit and who cares what others think if they ae ur real friend they will be there 4 u

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