Should i let him take off my shirt?

okay so I've been talking to this guy for a couple months now. we arent going out but I guess you could say we're friends with benefits. so we text a lot. and every now and then we will kinda start talking dirty. he wants to finger me. and I think im...

going to let him. but he wants me to give him a Hjay or Bjay and I dont really know how. for one thing I dont want to look like a dumb a$$. he reassured me and said that trust me, no matter what you do it will feel amazing. but what if I hurt him or something?? so if I could have a little help on that.

and he said he wants to take off my shirt and feel me up and suck on me...
but theres kinda a problem there too. ummm. my boobs are uneven and im afraid what he will think. and I also think im kinda on the chubby side. im 5'8.5 and I weight about 130 pounds. is that fat??? and yeah so I dont know if I would want to take off my shirt for both those reasons.

and please dont tell me im too young. if youre going to help then please help. feel free to express your concerns but just know that I might not listen to them. I respect you for giving me you full feelings but all I really need is help on what I am asking for.

Shes 14, and obviously has NO morals or self respect! Sorry Hun, but your being alittle on the easy, and naive side here! You are willing to let some boy you ONLY talk to, finger you, and basically USE you? Thats really what friends with benefits is you know. Every boy would love to be able to use a girl for whatever turns him on, and not have the commitment of being in a relationship with them. How can that even make you feel good about yourself, knowing your some guys boy toy? This is why young girls get hurt, because they put themselves in situations that are too advanced for their maturity level to handle! Dont you believe in being boyfriend/girlfriend before even considering getting intimate with someone? Doing all these things with a boy will NOT make them like you, or commit to you. You are only making yourself look cheap, and easy, and you will get NO respect from any boy if you keep allowing them to take advantage of you. He will tell all HIS friends, and they will all want you for your body, and nothing else!
No one can be that desperate for attention!

There are a lot of players out there, and any boy who is willing to use a girl without a commitment, is nothing but a disrespectful jerk!

wait how old are u

honey, pls don't do it. our words won't stop you but I think it would be best if you waited a little bit before going that way

...you're fourteen. You still worry about your uneven boobs and you actually think you could hurt him.

Verdict: You're entirely too young to have friends with benefits.

heyy, well personally I think everyone that is telling you you are too young shouldnt be because its your own business, so if you want to talk fun mail me and ill give you what ever you want to know

Jacobs1, you are the sh*t!!!