How to get your parents to back off

Argh! I'm sick of my dad (and my mum at times.) yes every parent is contorling over there chilreden (I understand!) but they take it to far, always calling me when ever I'm out, even if they know where I am with who. And they want let me be friends with...

some people, which is so anyyoing because I believe everyone is the same. My dad gets really broed at times and shows to much intrest in my life, which I can't handle having no speace to my self, they read though my books which I write about my self. It drives me crazy! Argh!

What can I do to get them off of my back? (I'm only 15.)

You are wrong if you EVERYONE is the same - dangerous thinking which could get you very hurt or worse ! - Realize parents are doing their job when they - look after your best interests - Love you enough to ensure you're safe - CARE ! - be Thankful - many, many, many, don't - make them proud !!

Hey sis! Wow that's so hard!! I think that your parents worried about you. Because you are their daughter... I had same situation like you..maybe it can help you too..
When I was in high school, I felt it too. My mom came to my room and then read my diary. I was angry much to my mom. And my dad did it too. He always calls me when I was out and having fun with friends. He wanted to know who is my friend. But I told them that I feel not comfort about their attitude. I explained that I want to some space for my privacy. At the first time, my parents didnt want to listen my explanations. But after that day, they can understand me.
Dont worry sis! Just tell your parents but be clam down (talk heart to heart)!! They will know what you want it.

I am pyscholog, if you want to share with me

Goodluck sis!!! You can do it!!!

It sounds as though you are an only child and many parents get over protective if they only have 1 child my mums an only child an she was overprotected when she moved out my nan and grandad backed of abit

My parents did the same
Now I just go out with my friends

they call but if its a bad time I don't answer
and call them back at a good time saying I didn't feel it viberate

works for me

hey parents, why not just call them ANNOYING

Waoh! This is interesting,do you why? May be is because they wanted you to have this sense of belonging to them.But don't be angry them and even though if you could be angry,please don't show it off to them do you why? Because they are your parents and be of little patient with very soon you ripe the benefits.Just obeyed them on whatever they commanded you to do.You are a daughter to themwhile they are your parents.

Ok the reading of the diary part is a little overboard. I suggest you tell them that it is off limits, they need to respect your privacy...
The rest, well they're just worried. How about you text them, every once in a while? If you're going to the movies, when you get out just text them saying you're done with the movies and you'll be home in __ hours... if you contact them maybe they wont feel the need to call...

First...have you done anything in the recent past that may have bruised their trust in you? Said you were going one place, and going somewhere else instead? The little lies that can make even the most innocent outing become a suspicious one?

Parents and teenagers have been battling the privacy and independence vs. protection and guidence, since the beginning of time. You didn't say one thing in your post, that I didn't say when I was 15...nor have your parents done a single thing different than MY parents did, when I was your age...and that 42 years ago!! LOL...

All I can tell you is this...it's not forever...and there will come a time, when you are on the other side of line...the parent side...they've been there, they remember their own stuff...and impossible tho it may be to prevent...they don't want you to make the same mistakes.

grannie phrannie

As a parent, it is hard not to be too into your child's life. but reading your journal is too much. hide the journal and wait for the day when you are on your own...college, job, or both.
but I promise, you will be just as much of a jerk when you are a parent...maybe in a different way, but just as much of a jerk...

Someday you will all be very close and all this forgotten.

haha. Im in college and still when I come home my parents control me like I am their 13 year old son. Just last night I was with my girlfriend and this whole weekend my parents have been bugging me about not wanting to see them. I went to a football game with my dad and chilled with my mom(peacefuly). I consider that bonding time. I love them so much. but...

Because they think im not spending time with them they blame others. They told my girlfriend that she is too possive. that hurt her. she only wants to show them shes a good person and and that she suports my higher education. my parents always talk about school. nothing else. So I enjoy spending time with someone who doesnt talk about school all the time, I.e my girlfriend.

As for the snooping in private things, you'll never get around that. They will ask you for your journal and if you dont give it to them they'll ground you or send you on a guilt trip.

I dont know. We all have problems the same and different.

Its hard, I know. People like us just need to power through these things and pray they (our parents) dont treat us this way when we are on our own for good.

Good luck and best wishes.