How to deal with this kind of tantrum?

I have a 3 yr old daughter. Just the other day we had to take the lightrail and on our way back to home getting off the lightrail, she was sleeping in my arms, I got her out and stood her up to get her walk home with me. Im trying to lean her off the...

troller because a lot of people tell me she shouldnot need that no more so maybe there are right? She literally was jumping up and down screaming, whining, and crying. Doing this process I trying to get her to tell me what she wants but in the process of trying to get her to use her words she only gets louder.. then she threw herself on the concrete and started kicking with her feet and with me being a lil more smarter I moved back. All I did was yelled at her and put in the troller and told her it was okay and then went home. she was still crying and screaming in the troller almost the whole way home. I wanted to get her in troller without having her force but I was under a timelimit to get home so I had to... what is a better way to handle that? I usually get mad at her and raise my voice and I know thats not the way to do it but else can I do?

Excellent books are out there which would help you in child and family areas - authors such as Dr Phil, Dr Laura, etc - you're right, yelling is not the answer...Take care !!

Many kids are kranky when they wake up.

If you can spare the time let them ride out the tantrum and get over it...they will get bored of it first.

But you were under a time limit so you did what you had to do. No one is going to stop you putting the child in the stroller... it is the safest place for them.

She yelled all the way home because the truth is she really didn't know what she wanted. She will grow out of it and she will respect you if you are true to your word.

Peace.

If you find out a good answer, let me know. My 3 year old daughter does the same thing when she gets woken up early from her nap. The only thing that I have found that works (sort of) is to keep her in her room and let her cry it out. Of course if we're out somewhere this doesn't work. After about 10 minutes she stops crying and then she's all smiles again. I think she does this because her little brain is still in sleepy mode and I'm trying to get her body moving. She doesn't know how to express herself right then because her brain is still sleepy so she starts to cry to let me know she's still tired.

And there is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your child in a stroller, I still do it .

Good luck

I got a whoopin' and I never did things like that again!

She's a child and she's cranky... I never understood people who say the best thing is to reason with your child... she's not an adult in a small body! Reasoning with her is not going to help! Talking to her and trying to deal with her like you would a functioning adult is obviously not going to work! I dont see a problem with pushing a 3 year old in a trolley who is exhausted and tired!

well she just woke up she is going to be mad
I have a lil sister and she is does the same and she is only 4 yearsold
but just ry to explain to her what she wants

I would smack her bottom 2-5 times easy or medium and warn her.

Even adults get a little cranky after naps because of being tired and groggy. Sleeping is comforting and waking up from that isn't too wonderful all the time. Tell her that she will be in the comfort of home soon and she doesn't need to worry about anything. Sometimes it helps to tell young children to cry with their mouths closed. Sometimes it actually works and they stop crying...it's worth a try.
Really, she will grow out of that.
However, if she is having tantrums at other times (not getting what she wants and whining/screaming/crying/throwing things) I suggest to tell her to calm down and explain why she can't have what she wants. If things persist and there is a house rule that there is no whining/back talk/yelling, you might want to take disciplinary action. I suggest a simple timeout in the corner. This gives the child time to cool off.
But really, don't sweat the small stuff like this and I think you acted well given the situation you were in.