What should I do with my sister-in-law??

I’m tired of my sister in law. she is my husband’s sister and I just can’t deal with her anymore. I am a vary patient person, but everything has a limit. She comes over to my house every weekend. I don’t really care about that, what I care about is that people is being telling me that when I am not around she will sit on my husbands lap and she will be hugging him all the time. I am not a jealous person, but it get an upset stomach when I hear that. I have talked to my husband and he doesn’t like what she does neither. but he is afraid of hurting her feelings. there has been a few times where we have tell each other some sort of mean things, (that happens when she drives me crazy). when they are home and my husband starts talking to me, she will start yelling and screaming at him, like a crazy person. Telling him things that we just don’t know where she gets them from. trying to get his attention when he is with me. this girl is 20 years old and she is barely getting out of high school, she doesn’t work, she has a boyfriend that she uses only for his money. (she never invites him to parties with the family) last week she stayed at my house for 4 days. on the forth day I had had it with her. I didn’t see her until the afternoon and all I did, was opened the door for her, (she was outside and rang the bell) took my dogs to the back (cause they can get out) and went into my room becuase we were getting ready (me and husband) to go to the movies. well she made a big scene about it and said that she was leaving, my husband was like ok bye. But before she left she told my husband that I didn’t say hi to her and that she wasn’t going to be standing my attitude. and she left so I didn’t care, to my big surprise she came back 3 days later. Not even asking if she could come over. And she didn’t talk to me ( which I don’t care, I am as happy as I can be when I am not close to her). But I told my husband that I wanted to go to stay at my moms house, while she was there, and I just think that that is sad, me trying to get out of my own house, because of her. this is not the only thing that she has done, she’s done a lot of other stuff. but my questions is what should I do, I have tried everything, and I don’t want to get her out of my house, but if she keeps it up, it may happened soon. Any help willl be apreciated. Thanks

Answer #1

Teach husband to say: “I am not comfortable with you sitting in my lap and the hugging - I’ll hug you when you arrive and leave and that’s all” - in the future, when we have something to discuss, we’ll go to the dining room table and address it like adults - there will be no yelling, understand ? - He should take control.

Answer #2

Pretend she doesn’t exist. I remember once my sister in law said to me that she thinks that I am less than an acquaintance.

Answer #3

I’m only 15 so I wouldn’t know much about it. But what I would seriously do is talk to your husband about it then schdule a meeting with her and your husband. ( make sure you tell your husband all the stuff your going to tell her) At the meeting you should set limits, because you two need time for yourselfs. You can’t always just have her over. Also if your husband hates her behavior too but to “afraid” to tell her tell him to man up and tell her or she will just keep doing it. But yeah seriously set limits and if she can’t follow those limits then tell her she is not welcome over your house untill she can follow those limits :D let me know how it goes

Answer #4

She sounds like the type that doesn’t give a sh*t about what kind of rules you set. If you guys sit down with her and explain new rules she’ll just throw a big baby fit as always. Lock your door when you want privacy. That is YOUR home, not hers. You do not have to answer your door to anyone. Especially if they come unannounced. If your husband is just as bothered by her as you then he will agree with locking her out.

Answer #5

You have to love her, not like her. You need to sit down with your husband and draw the line very clearly for him. Comprimise with him on having her over. Both of you decide when she can come over, for how long, and the rules of being in the house. Write everything down. Make sure you husband understands how important it is for him to be united with you in this. He needs to show his sister that you are number one in his life and that he supports you in all situations before her (within reason of course). Once he thoroughly understand everything and its black and white on paper what the boundaries and consequences of breaking those boundaries, sit down and have a meeting with her. Let her know that it is out of love that you have decided to implement this system, so the household can still work when she wants to visit.

Answer #6

KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY AND HAVE A 3SUM EXPERIENCE.

Answer #7

Yeah Dawnathen is right…draw a line…its your house your rules…tell your husband you dont that if his sister come and throw that can of attitude again .Well tough luck throw her out…do not let her in…Even you sit down and talk to her nothing will happen .She will never ever listen to you.We have the same situation , my partner has a sister from hell .

Again to not let her in or stay in your house again…Tell her Adios your not welcome anymore…

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