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How can I get my mom to let me see my boyfriend more? Right now I'm only allowed to see him two times a week, and that's with no exception. I saw him Monday, and I'm seeing him Friday, and I asked if we could go to the movies last night, and she's like "no, you're not going that would be 3 times this week, so no". I don't understand her...he is so nice to me, and he treats me so good! I don't know what her problem is. And we're planning on getting married here in the near future, and mom told me last night, that she is most likely not going to the wedding! This hurt so bad just to hear your mom say this:-(...How can I get her to change! Please help me! I don't know what to do.
Hi there, I'm curious how old you are - if you're mom is still able to tell you how often you can see someone, I'm guessing you're still very young, and believe me - I got married when I was 26 years old and it's NOT all it's cracked up to be. You can't truly know what you want in a partner until you know yourself better - and that takes YEARS of experience and soul-searching. Marriage sounds exciting and romantic - but at the end of the day, it's a lot of work and a lot of heartache. There are good times too, but those are sure to be more plentiful if you truly know the person you are with, and are sure they are the one for you. You may think you already "know"...but seeing someone only 2 days a week - I can guarantee, you don't know each other. So...before you even TALK about marriage, take time to know him better. What have you got to lose? Seeing each other only twice a week isn't a bad thing, either. Absense makes the heart grow fonder, and the down time insures you have your own interests and life to foster and nurture. It gives you that time I just talked about, to find out who you are and what you want and need. You can't do that effectively in the vacuum of a relationship where you spend every moment together. Learn to enjoy being with you, as much as you enjoy being with him.
And finally, as a mother I have to tell you (as much as you don't want to hear it) that she has your best interests at heart. Your parents are the ONLY people on the planet who would walk through fire for you without hesitation, and they will always be your parents. Friends and lovers will come and go - and you'll get over it. You wouldn't do as well if you lost your parents. Trust her...she's the only person you truly can.
Meg ;-)
Dear englishmuffin, You may never get her to change...we can only change ourselves not others. It sounds as though she may feel this isn't going to end in marriage...she may feel that you are too young or this is your first love and are planning marriage way too soon. The only way to know is to ask her. If your old enough to get married then your old enough to sit and have a mature conversation with your mother without yelling or getting mad. You may not like what she is saying but you fall under her rules as long as you are living under her roof. Perhaps she is afraid for you moving too fast...what ever her reasons they are probably out of love. Cut her some slack and abide by her rules even if they seem unfair right now. Sue...good luck
Well, If any Holiday comes up, have him buy you mom a gift that she will like. For instance... If she likes owls, get her a unique statue of an owl that she doesnt already have. It can be a cheapo gift as long as it doesnt look cheapo. Go to thrift stores and so on. On the gift don't write a name on it. And after she gives up on who it's from, sit her down, and tell her that you like your boyfriend, and he likes you, but you dont want to date behind her back. And THEN tell her its from your boyfriend. Im in the same exact situation. This is what im doing this Christmas. (-: I hope this helped. ♥Caitie
Greetings englishmuffin, - Well just about the only way to change her mind, is to wait, and wait, and wait, and possibly get grades up, work really hard at everything you do, then wait for the best time to ask, (exp. Not at 9 p.m.) and when you do talk to her, never say "This is all your fault that I only get to see him two times a week!" Use "I" messeges.
Other then that, there may not be much more you can do at the current time. Hope the advice helps = D -Phil2611
Well you can't make you mom change weither you like it or not so jus loose that idea......I am curious how old you r.......mom's CAN be frustrating don't get me wrong but thats how they are sopoused to act. My mom didn't even let me hang out with my bf until she mat him AND his parents........They Both have something in common.....they love to ground their children!!!!! lOl well I hope this works for you
I know this will seem EVIL, but invite her on once of your dates, show her that you want her to understand you and your feeling. Have your boyfriend speek to her about how he respects you, and to respect your mother, but let him make it clear that he is seeking more time with you. Show them you BOTH are mature and being modest. Keep good grades and the family bs at bay and she might consider it...
by the way you ve explned it seems that you are in love with love and so just wait give yourself time. wat u ve to know is that ur mom want u to have only the best trust me she knows wat she is up to. relax girl relax just be cool and wait. that puppy love of urs will fade then u will know intimate love
YOUR MOM will be happy if she see that your happy too!!!
Your boyfriend needs to focus on you and your happiness Love is beautifull
Time will help your mom to really see the real man that you have !!! Trust me i have been there
the best way to do that is at every oppurtunity let him come over to your house to hang out. they get to see how good he is to you and his real personality.
Just tell your mom how you fell.And say i wont to see my boyfriend more.i sad that to my mom
how can I do to see my boyfriend my dont approve to see him ?
