How can I deal with my teenage daughter?

how can I deal with my teenage daughter

A teenage daughter should be treated as your friend. Be patient and calm while talking to her. Before you could speak, let her speak. Give her a chance to come out. If you are friendly and close to her, the more you can learn and know about her...

I don't have a teenager yet, (5 months before the dreaded 13) and I don't have daughters, BUT, I want to say one thing, While being her friend, don't forget to still be the parent.

Wish I could help more, but my oldest is 12.

give her space.

im a teenage daughter, 16 turning 17 in 2 months. I would suggest letting her do her own thing. dont try to be her best friend, becuase when I just turned 13, all I wanted was to be away from my mom. when you ask her how her day was and she says 'fine.' and nothing more, leave it be. if she wanted to tell you how her day actually went, she would. give her space. if she wants to talk, shell do it on her own. =) good luck, were fisty at times.

ps. remember that your daughters hormones are raging right now, so she WILL be very moody at times.

ok I m 13 and often dont get along with my mom ok we dont get along at all but thats because she never lets me talk when we have an agurment she just says I did something and im in trouble no room for me to explian so let your daugter say wut she's got on her mind also we like space and love to get to do lots we hate rules we rebel when restriced you need to still give rules but talk about them with her let her make her mistakes and learn from them and we will be in bad moods from time to time the best you could do is leave us alone
good luck

ok im 13 and I get really annoyed with all the stigma that comes along if someone mentions the word *teenager*
we are normal people with feelings and personalities
if someone is walking down the road and they see a gang of teenagers on the side walk they immediatly think that they are doing something wrong when they are probably just talking and sending songs and stuff off there phone. your daughter probably just needs some space. Maybe shes feeling confused over something.
Dont pester her because that would really tick me off. Let her be and she will come to you when the time is right.
hope this hasnt caused offense to anybody!
good lucj
x

What kind of troubles are you having? I have a 17 year-old daughter as well. Luckily, most of the time she's terrific! However, she is still a teenager with her own set of problems. I do try to listen and be open and available for her; I think that has helped out relationship stay so great. If you want to talk more, write back! We can 'complain' together. haha

there are three things to give when raisning a teenager: SPACE. BE FLEXIBLE. PAITENCE. let her come 2 u. dont forget to give her love. they secretly crave it.

-a teenage daughter.

ok, im 13 fixin to be 14 and I think I could be of some help. Act like her friend and be there for her, try stepping away from the mom role and act like a friend, my mother acts like my friend and talks to me about anything I want, recently I told her I had a boyfriend in another state and she wasnt ok with it at first but then we takled about it and she was ok with it, let your daughter express herself and dress as she wants, dont try and pick out her clothes still like shes 3. give her her space and let her hang out with her friends and dont call her every 10mins to check on her. trust her and dont try and find out everything shes doing, be involved but give her a chance to show responsibility, the more you tell her not to do something or try to stop her, the more she will want to do it. I hope I was of some help to you , hope all goes well ;] x

Yeah well all these kids answering this questiion cracks me up. My 15 year old daughter is a product of all this giving space crap. I gave her all the space she wanted because I couldn't stand her creating chaos all the time over everything. She hated me no matter what. Real selfish, snotty and thought she honestly ruled the house. Now, she's decided she's grown and moved out. LOL My house is calm again. Now, she comes back and is a helluva lot more respectful. Especially when they are starving or the lights have been turned off. She really thinks 'she's handling it'. She hasn't got a clue. But...she won't listen to a thing I say or suggest...so, let her learn the hard way. She's making it hard for herself because she is not grown! She went and jumped in water way over her head and here she is just barely able to dog paddle. But the world according to her? She knows it all!

I have had some success sending text messages to my son. I send him lots of positive, encouraging words and quotes from famous people from my PC using http://www.textyourteen.com. I think it gets through to him because I am not lecturing him. When I want to suggest that something he said or did was wrong, I try to find a positive way to say what the right way was. That way I am never sending negative messages to him.

I do not believe in just letting them have there own space. I believe in rules, and guide lines to follow. My daughter met an older guy over My Space, and was dating him! She didn't know any better. She was doing this behind my back. I thought it was okay to drop her off at the mall, and hang with her friends. little did I know she was meeting up with this guy she met on my space. She is 13, and he is soon to be 17.He was calling her at 2:00 in the morning on school nights to talk to her. He was telling her he wanted to marry her! I finally got wise to it all when I saw the cell phone bill with his number on it, and the calls at 2:00 in the am.I called him and told him to stay away from my 13 yr. old, or I was going to call the police. I finally got him to leave her alone. I believe you need to pry into a few things, or you don't know what your teenagers are getting them selves into. She now knows it was wrong. I believe in letting them know right from wrong, and following rules in my household.

I wish I knew.. I'm having so many problems with my teenage daughter. she moved out and won't talk to me ..

whenever she talks back to her take ALL of her clothes out of her room and make her wear the same outfit to school for 4 days in a row, this will knock some sence into the little rat. if that doesnt do it, then remove the door from her room so she has no privacy and play the theme to BARNEY on a loop for a few hours at 10 volume while she copies pages out of the dictionary, make her do the WHOLE THING over if you find any errors

I'm a teenager (14), and I'd say that the best way to deal with your daughter is to allow her to leave her to her own devices, with in reason. Let her wear what clothes she wants, what makeup she wants (obviously, if you think she looks like a slut, point this out and make her change) as if you insist on her NOT doing something then it will become a novelty to do it. Remember that she is a teenager, not a child, and can think for herself. It will have a completely undesired effect for you to tell her not to do something, and, should she ask why, for you to say 'because I say so' - give her a reason, and this will give her a lot more incentive to do as you say. Remember that she can think for herself, so allow her to make some of her own decisions. Don't insist on 'bonding time'. If she doesn't appear to want to spend time with you then leave her alone. If she wants to be with you, she will be. Don't treat as an inferior and don't be sarcastic when telling her off. Keep to your own rules, and treat her as you'd like her to treat you.

I am a teenager and I love my mom even though she gets on my nerves a lot when I was little she told me about things I should face when I would become older so if I were you I would just try to be open with your daughter and tell her that you are here when she needs you.
I am not sure if this will work with your teenager if she/he is into things you aren't but my mom likes some of the stuff I do and some of the stuff I don't.
And when you talk to her/him don't fake it like in those cheesy commercials and/or movies/TV shows.
I hope this helps!

Let me know if it does or doesn't

I have a 17 year old who thinks that I don't love her. She has hurt me a lot, moving back and forth from her Dad's house to my house when she gets fed up at either place. I told her the last time that I won't accept her back, but eventually I did. I am having a hard time opeing to her now or telling her that I love her because I am afraid that she will leave again. My heart seem to just close up from all the hurt. Help!!!

if you have been her friend and not a parent for so many years there is no way to deal with them. what you have to do is be her parent let her understand that your her parent not her friend give freedom but not too much and not to little

give her room and a lot of space to rethink about what she did and what you said

Listen to h er. Make her know her opinion matters.