How to deal with my daughter and her loser boyfriend?

My daughter had everything going for her, career, great life, etc. and then she ended up with a loser boyfriend that I hate and she has given up on all of her goals dreams. How does one deal with that??? It's like your watching from behind glass and...

in the far distance there’s the cute rabbit in the field and in the distance you can see the wolf creeping ever closer and your yelling and yelling but the rabbit can't hear you, all the other ones run except for the one rabbit and steadily the wolf creeps until there is no where for the rabbit to go and then the wolf devours the stupid rabbit, until nothing is left and moves one and just leaves destruction behind! When you can see it coming but nothing you say will change it, how does one get the wolf to leave???

you will need to tell us the real issues here before we can help you. why is this guy a loser? why do you have a problem with him dating your daughter? is your daughter happy with the relationship?

All you can do is voice your concerns - either in a heart-to-heart talk or organize your thoughts/reasons/fears and put them in a letter, but you must ensure she knows - then trust her to use her best judgement...I wish you the best !!

dont call him a loser! hes someones baby too...just because hes different than her doesnt mean hes bad for her. my boyfriend was failing all his classes and had a million issues, but he was so sweet to me. opposites attract. science lesson for ya. just let her do what she wants.

you cant... you can state your case and that's about it...
after that, if you continue to push you will push her away, and then even if she wants to leave him she might not because that would prove you right (yeah kids are weird) or she may want to but not have anyone to turn to...
think about it...

coming from someone who chosed a lot of loser boyfriends when I was younger, if you fight her on this it will only make it worse. The only thing it does is seperate you from her. You should encourage her to keep going with the good things in her life and hopefully she will make the right choice for her self sooner as oppose to later. If they are meant to be together, he will change for the better, or she will leave him and find someone else. If she is young it is not likely she will stay with him forever. I know it is hard to sit back and watch her make the mistake, but keep supporting her and trust she will make the right decision

When I was a senior in high school I was dating a guy that my parents did not approve of. He was horrible to me, but no matter what my parents said I wouldn't break up with him. I just felt I needed a boyfriend. Thank goodness, I went to college and met my now husband and fell head over heels and realized I deserve better. I apoligized to my parents because I really think that parents can see better than anyone who is good for your child. My whole family loves my husband now and while I do regret dating the loser, I know that no matter what my parents said I wouldn't dump him, it was like I was ina trance, as wierd as that sounds.

We are going thru the same situation. This is not an answer , but a cry for help!
Her boyfriend does not work or goes to school, does drugs( we have seen him)is drunk all the time. Has a horrible appearance and gang tatoos everywhere. Calls her names, has cheated on her numerous time and the last we heard he got physical with her.He has also been in jail numerous times. They were broken up for a few months and we were really happy until last week when they got together again. She will not listen to anyone, what do we do???

we also have a similar situation except he is nearly five years older than her.we did not approve of such an age difference so she hid the relationship from her dad and I for over a year until she became pregnant.she had a miscarriage two months along.she is a bright girl and will be going to college soon,at least that is the plan.he on the other hand dropped out in 8th grade,also he can't read very well and therefor doesn't even have his drivers license she drives him everywhere and bends over backwards to make him happy.someone told me he cheated on her a couple months ago.how is a mother to react?she wants to move in with him as it is in the same town as the college and we live more than a half hour away from the college.I have taken to calling him a loser ,I wish she could see she deserves better,but they are in love.any advice out there for me?

This situation is so hard on parents. My daughter's boyfriend was extremely disrepectful to me and she still wants to be with him. The only advice I can give others is that the more you bad mouth him, the better he looks to your daughter. Pointing out things in a respectful, timely manner is a different matter. My Daughter is in college, so I feel fairly confident that she will out-grow him eventually. She is 22 and he is 23 so even if I was crazy about him, the odds of their ending up together is slim. Also keep in mind that they are generally not picking these creeps to hurt you. They are experimenting and growing and they just want to be able to make their own mistakes. It's part of them becoming independent.

blackhorse92 - a mother knows best and coming from a mother having the same issues, when a boyfriend ruins your daughters life, keeps her from her dreams and goals you're damn right a mother has a right to call him a loser!! becasue that's probably what he is!

Like veryone lese said, all we can do is be there for them and hope one day they wake up.

Help I am a mom and love our daughter who is 20 and in college but lives at home still due to this economy. She has been dating a marine off and on and my husband and I really feel he is using her for benefits and because he spends all his money and we provide meals and he will stay over from time to time. He owes us money as well. He tells her things like he still wants to marry her,etc. and we like him mostly but feel when he gets out he is going to go back home and break her heart again. When they first met everything happened so fast,promise rings,etc., then he came back from Iraq and he just wasn't the same.I know parents should stay out of this but he lived with us for awhile before he served in Iraq and we all got very close. His family life wasn't a stable one as ours is so we feel he feels very comfortable with us and confused which way to go...he turned 21 this year. So should I shut up and just hope she eventually breaks away from this crazy relationship and just support her when she wants to talk? Most of the time he wants to be with her but now he is at the Marine Corp Ball in Vegas and hasn't even texted her once. So much more to say but this is enough for now..help..I have been married for 30 years and don't understand why relationships/friendships like this happen? We know she loves him dearly but isn't enough,enough? It's very wierd for us...