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How 2 tell mom I want to live with dad?

..I’m trying to figure out how to tell my mom I want to live with my dad…I want to tell her at the end of april..but then mothers day is coming so should I tell her after mothers day so she can have a good mothers day or do it at the end of april? I’m reallly scared to tell her because she hates my dad and my step-dad will just stand up 4 her by making stupid remarks. Ugh. I want to move because I’m going to b a freshman next year and I’ve realized I’ve lived, since the divorce, 5 years with my mom and I would like to spend some time with my dad before I’m out of highschool and an adult. Plus I’ve wanted to move 4 years but I’ve never had the courage to tell my mom. So please help I’m getting tooo stressed out and I just want 2 gt this over with but hurt my mom as little as possible.

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Answer #1

My heart aches! I was researching the web to find a support group for moms. My 14 year old daughter just moved out of my home 2 weeks ago to live with her father. I am devastated as would any mom be. What was the worst part about it was her father hired an attorney and she new I was getting served custody papers and never told me. I felt so betrayed and hurt but ultimately I let her go. He lives two hours away so I really feel distant from her. She wont answer my calls of text most of the time for reasons I really dont know. Her father is a good dad so atleast I know she is in good hands. The advice I would give you is to definately tell your mom you love her dearly and tell her your feelings, Try to work things out in a civil manner. You can also recomend a temporary aggreement for you to live with your dad for so many months and then decide on a permanent move. That is what we are doing. Good luck. You sound like a very caring daughter. nicole

Answer #2

actually that makes no sense aren’t guys better off living with their dads? you know because they are both guys? I think you should still tell your mom NOT ask tell. because it’s your choice not hers. if shes like my mom yep she’ll b angry but if you feel strongly about moving then you should tell her.

Answer #3

I know how you feel I want to live with my da full time but my mom says your a guy so you should live with me but I still do but I have given up on her asking her b/c everytime I do she gets really angry

Answer #4

tayroor28 thanks for answering..it helped..yes I have been thinking about this a lot and have thought over anything that could happen…and what she would say…I see my dad every other weekand so it’ll be that way with my mom too. I totally want 2 spend time with her too you know like going to pick out my homecoming dress..:) so yep I think I’ll tell her after mothers day…sigh…I hate divorces…they cause so much stress. I’m sorry your parents are getting divorced..(((hug))) I’ll be praying 4 ya.

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