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Should i become more religious for our relationship?

Asked by rbru22 about 1 month ago, 5 answers.

So I have a girlfriend that I've been dating her for 13 months now, and I thought she was perfect in every way. We seemed to share all common interests and everything was going great. Then, she expressed to me how she felt that I was a non-believer in...

God( which is not true) and that I didn't share the same ideas about religion as she did. She told me that she planned on being abstinent of everything sexual until she was married. Right now, we are both just starting college, so anything like marriage would be a long way off in the future anyway. She told me that she wanted the relationship to stay strong and keep going because she loved me a lot, but she didn't know how it would work if I was different than her. I also love her so much and care about her, but I dont know if this strong relationship that we have is worth such bold commitments? She said that God had finally shown her the path for her to live. The problem is that we've both done things sexually before, so its very hard for me to understand why she is like this all of a sudden. She wants me to get in touch with God like she is for the relationships sake and my own sake. But, I dont really know if it really is worth waiting for her through all of this. So my question is, Should I do something like this by becoming more religious to help myself and our relationship to keep it going, or should I just let it go?

kitty Answered by ty on Sep 26, 2009, 07:37PM
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What if you asked her to become less religious for you? Would that be alright? Why not? Using the same logic of a person should do anything if they're truly in love, perhaps she should become less religious to prove her love to you... Why do you need to be something you're not?
Personally, I think if you want to become more religious (not even sure how you go about doing that), it should be up to you. It shouldnt be, and cannot be, a decision you make based on someone else. Because if you dont feel it, then you'd be lying. And then your relationship is based on a lie. Which seems pretty pointless.

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flower Answered by sunshinee on Sep 26, 2009, 03:50PM
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in my opinion I think you should become releigous for her and just trust what she says. if you really love her you would do anything for her and you have nothing too lose..becoming religous and giving your life too God and beleiveing is such an amazing feeling and it will only make your relationship stronger and longer. I know that I would only date a religous person and someone who has the same beleifs as me otherwise there would be something missing and it would be too hard..soo all in all you should ask her for gidence and go for it.

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cogito ergo sum Answered by marianna86 on Sep 30, 2009, 12:16AM
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I don't think you should become religious for anyone but yourself.

True change always begins in the inside anyways...all it will ever be is good intentions that fails if you try otherwise (:-)

lens flare Answered by captainassassin on Sep 30, 2009, 08:42AM
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Changing your religious practices just to save a relationship... is the WRONG reason.

Answered by elynnky on Oct 03, 2009, 06:54AM
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If she loved you the way you are she would not expect you to change. If you try to become religious just to please her then you become a phony. Then the relationship would also be phony. That seems pretty obvious to me.

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