Abuse or discipline??

What is considered to be abuse? Is [slapping],[hitting with belt, or telephone cord or etc. ], leaving harsh painful marks and bruises abuse

Yes, that's abuse.

the minute you get to leaving marks, you're in abuse territory...

agreed with above. Marks are not a good sign.

We got beaten with a belt...but it was never the intention to hurt us...and it never left marks...

According to law...children can be spanked. Only on the bottom, 3 swat maximum, and can not leave a mark.
Hitting a child/anyone under 18 who is in your guardianship with anything other than your hand, leaving red marks, whelps, or bruises---all constitute abuse and are reportable to your local or state Dept of Childrens Services.

I spanked my 4 year old daughter with a plastic spoon (like the cheap spoons you would get in a set to stir soups and such)I spanked her twice once hard and second not as hard. I left two snall marks on her bottom. I am not against spanking but I am sorry that I did it too hard. My husband and I both grew up getting spanked with spoons or belts and I remember having marks of the belt on my butt. I did not feel like I was being abused nor did I hate my parents for it. Like I mentioned, I wish I had never spanked her that hard but do I deserve to be called a child abuser for one time mistake? The biological father of my two kids called Social Services and now I have not seen or talked to my children in over 2 weeks!!! I am devasted! He is angry for losing custody a month before this incident and now he is lying and making everything sound worst than it really is. I am waiting on the DA to see if they will press charge either way I will not be allowed to get my children back until I take some classes. Also, they have granted my ex temporary full custody. I just want my children back more than anything. They have a good home and I am involved in their lives completely. Their father has not once been to my son's school, he is 6 years old and school is almost out now.

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In my opinion, hitting with any objects is going too far. If you absolutely have to spank, use your god-given hands! If you are hitting with a belt or spoon, I think the intention to hurt, to cause deliberate pain, is definitely there, whereas with your hands, pain is just one of the many factors of the punishment. Using belts and spoons in my opinion is ridiculous.