What to say to my fiance about adoption?

I personally would love to have this child with her but Im overseas and she's really stressed out without me there. My fiance just got done telling me she's looking into putting our soon to be daughter up for adoption. What do I say to that?

tell her that's it's your child too and would like to have a say in were she goes. I think she's using that as an excuse to say COME HOME. but either way, tell you want to keep the child.

if you love dont let her go look way inside of you will you regreat it in 10 years.my big bro was adopted and every day my mom regreats it

Ask yourself and answer honestly: What would be the best situation for the baby ? - the baby needs a stable (financially and otherwise), loving, family environment to grow up in (no absent father) - Can the 2 of you provide that ?...I wish the baby the best !!

I suggest that you talk to your fiance and let you know exacxtly how you feel. Maybe she just wants to know that you are willing to provide unconditional love and support for the new baby. I couldn't imagine giving up my son. he was the greatest blessing I've ever been given. I never knew I could love something so much. everytime he smiles and laughs at me I just want to melt. you will have that with your daughter too!

Im surprised she would want to do that. You need to make sure she is talking to you about this! She cant give the baby up for adoption with out your consent! Its your baby too. You need to talk to her right away about how important this baby is to you! You need to let her know that she needs to support you and be strong no matter how hard it is for her.. I hope you can find a way to communicate with her! Good Luck

I totally agree with ash23, the comment before me.

You know, I'm a single mother, I get SO stressed out sometimes to the point where I feel like I can't handle it either, I've thought about putting him up for adoption many times, but even the thought scares the HELL out of me!! Now even though the baby hasn't come into this world yet, she already has this STRONG bond with her, I doubt there is NO way she would ever ' honestly ' put the baby up for adoption. She's probably just scared about bringing a life into this world especially with you not being there, talk to her, let her know that you WILL be home, that everything will work out! (= Hope everything turns out okay! Good luck

I completely agree with amblessed regarding this.
having a baby is one of the most selfish acts we can do.
please decide carefully.
any child deserves love and care.
and any young person deserves to enjoy being young.
it is extremely hard to raise a child.
and actually it is not very fun. it is just hard work.

tell her not to do it because it is not only her child and you should be able to say if you want to put your baby up for adoption but im sure that when she has her baby and sees her then I bet that she will be thinking it over

I dont know what to tell you. I have three beautiful boys, and would do anything to have a baby girl. I am unable to have anymore babies, due to medical reasons, and my youngest is 8 weeks old.. I would take in anoter baby in a heartbeat, I have soo much love to give, and I is so unfair to not be able to have anymore babies. have you talked to an adoption agency yet, or you going to just find a couple to give your baby to? My huband is a wonderful father, and wanted a baby girl badly also. I just want to share my mommy love to lots of babies. I have 3 biological babies, under the age of 3, and want many more babies to give the world to. it is the hardest thing to know that you are unable to give life to something so precious to your heart.