The best way to deal with being disowned for marrying a non-muslim

I am a 28 yr old female, who has recently married a Hindu man. I have always had a tough relationship with my family, due to mental abuse. I was molested by an Uncle and my family chose not to do anything about it. I was never able to deal with that, but...

constantly tried to make them happy...find a good Muslim boy. I had a few relationships with Muslims and each one of them treated me badly, from mental to physical abuse. I'm not saying Muslim men are bad, I just didn't seem to have any luck with them.
I had a significant relationship with a Sikh man, who my family loved. Sadly it did not work out and we went our seperate ways. A few years later a Hindu friend of mine and I decided to try things out and took our friendship to the next level. I can say, hands down he is the man I have dreamt of my whole life.
Dad came to know of this and supported it, only if he converted and forgot everything about being a Hindu. So forget the last 30 years of his life in other words. He was ok with converting, then dad demanded his name be changed to a Muslim name (not mandatory), then he demanded that I keep my Muslim name and not take my husband's last name, which we all know is a man's pride.
I refused to do so, so my family disowned me, now calling me a Hindu. I have not left my religion, I have just found my Love after years of turmoil.
I am extremely happy with my husband and his family, they are very loving and accepting.
I know I made the right choice. The only thing I am upset with is dealing with being disowned. My family has not been there for me many times in my life and I have been mentaly and verbaly abused for the last 13 years. So why am I having a hard time letting go. I have urges to call my dad (I was close with him) but my husband and friends do not think that would be wise. As he did call the police when I tried to go over there. I want nothing more than this pain to go away and to move on with my new beautiful life.

they will realize that you are there family and they will make the first move eventually, it might take a while but they will open there eyes, they'll try and be hard headed for a while but they'll see that your happy and get over it

if you do not want to wait for them to make the first move you can also send them gifts during holidays I guess... but send them through the mail with a card that you sign and leave a message saying how much you love them, do not make it like you are trying to beg for foregiveness, not if you are happy

I think you should try talking to other family members, to get through to other family members..for example..talk to your sister, or brother, or maybe even cousins..just someone else who is in the loop to get another lifestyle or even point across...good luck girl..
xx.
superfresh.

You're 28, try talking to them, but don't give yourself a hard time for the rest of your life.

im hindu..lol I just had to get that out.. But anywaysz compare your old life 2 your new onesz?? why would you want to please someone (your family in dis case) who doesnt want you to b happy? your husband was willing to convert into a muslim that shuldnt been euff 2 convice your dad that he was gudd enough...I think you shuld give your family time if dey luv you dey would cum around...