Thanksgiving dinners?

I have two Thanksgiving parties one from my parents and one from his parents in another state. Who gets to decide where we go or is there some sort of edicate involved? We would honestly rather stay home then go to either place.

Why not skip both dinners then and stay at home? Tell the parents that this year your having your own thanks-giving. You can either invite them or say that you've decided to rejoice thanks-giving together (or with lonely friends). Fallow it up by promising to visit soon when you have more time (or money, or whatever), insist that this is really important to you and want to be together in your home. They'll get over it as long as they know you care and will visit eventualy.
As for taking a decision, I think you both have to take it together depending on your energy levels, financial situation and time off. Afterall, you have a life time ahead of negociating through christmas, easter and other holidays that both parents will be wanting you to attend. Happy thanks-giving!

Tell them you really appreciate the invitation, but we've decided to celebrate this Thanksgiving at home, together....one of the many things we have to be thankful for is your love and all you do for us....thanks for understanding

I agree with the above two answers....stay home and create your own Thanksgiving memories, but acknowledge both invitations gracefully. Good luck and Happy Holidays!