Should i tell my family i was molested?

well for the age of 8 to bout 11 my cousin used to come in my room and toch me and then he would clime on the and well you no a lot of the time I would wake up when he was doin it but I wouldnt say any thing I would just pretend I was still asleep only...

my maybe dad and maybe brother knows but they have both said I should tell my mum and dad but dont really got on with them that well they both have said if I dont tell mum and dad they will but I have begged them not to so I dont think they will I have tried to stay away from my cousin but it aint always possable so should I tell my perents or not? please help

yes u should tell ur parents. there not going to be mad at you. you have to understand tht. its not your fault in any way. YOU did nothing wrong...your cousin however did. its your parents right to know. they love you and they would want to protect you. there going to be hurt but your not doing any good keeping it from them. they could help you get through this. just know its NOT your fault.

good luck

Dear woody,
Yes, you should tell your mother right away. You are going to need counselling, your cousins need counselling. Why isn't your father doing something about this? He should be speaking with their parents and to make sure that this doesn't happen to someone else. If you don't tell someone who is going to take the proper actions your cousins will offend again and again. I don't think you want them to offend again knowing you could have stopped them. There are many aspects to something as serious as this...and this is very serious. You need to ASAP tell your mother so at least one responsible adult can take control of this very serious situation.
Sue...good luck

Dear Woody,
for your sake , you need to tell your folks. I would be very disappionted if they don't support you, but I'm sure they will. As a parent and a recipient of sexual abuse at the age of 6, I couldn't think of anything worse to happen to my baby. I would so want to know and help though. If thier first instinct is to recoil, it's not you but what horror has happened to you. When you are ready, confront your cousin and the power this freak has over you will be reduced-YOU have the power!!
God bless you baby and keep you strong

thanks for ur answers i still aint sure sue u said y aint my dad doin something about it well he aint my dad well he could b but that is a long story he and my brother aint doin any thing coz i asked them no to when i first told them they wanted to kill him they went nuts they hav helped me and they r their is i need to talk to them about it but they want me to tell my parents and take it to the police but i dont want to my parents would probly take my cuz side over mine coz he is a lil angle and cant do any thhing rong but thanks for the answers

ohmygosh, YES, you should tell them! if he was doing it to you, there's a chance he may have been (or is) doing it to someone else .. !

yeah your really need to tell your parents. You did nothing wrong they won't be mad at you. If you don't tell them you'll be thinking about it a lot and wondering if anyone else knows or something like that. But take my advice, and the advice from all of these other people and tell your folks!!!

you should kill that mother @@@

YES, you should tell your parents!! you shouldnt even have to ask that. it probably is a little hard but its the best thing for you to do. especially if he could be doing it to someone else also.

He may have everyone thinking that he is an angel, but, in fact, he is just the opposite, and you do not, did not deserve to have to put up with this kind of behavior, How old was he, when this first started? and yes, I agree with everyone else.. A parents responsiblilty is to do everything within their power to protect their children, and most try, but, somehow evil still finds a way to invade the innocent. Please let everyone know what is going on.. Do not be ashamed of this, just call if for what it is... abuse... plain and simple.. and it is wrong... this kid is perverted... and needs help... it will not go away on its own, and may end up costing him a lot more than he wants to pay, he is a perputrator... and needs to be stopped... if for some reason your parents dont' do anything, then talk to the school guidance counselor, a preacher, school principal, nurse, someone that will listen... and let the chips fall where they may, Do not protect his kid...Let him face his consequences...

hey,
I just have to say yes tell!!!You should def say something!!Only b-cuz you'll live with this for the rest of your life.And its not your fault it happened either!Its not healthy to keep this sorta thing in..I learned the hard way!Its happened to me too..But it was by my uncle when i was around that age too.I'm 33 now and i did say something once to my mom when i was younger,but she really didn't listen.So i never told anyone else..now i live with post dramactic stress,anxiety,depression,trust issues,low self esteem.I'm now talking to a therapyst..And in recovery phase they call it!So dont keep it a secret,cuz it will haunt you always if you don't speak up...god bless and take care,

thanks for the replys and this is to silverwings when it first started i aint sure if he woz already 8 or just about to turn 8 yer i no he may of been a bi younger than me but i woz scard and didnt no wot to did he woz a lot bigger than me

If he was about 8, it would seem to me that he may have been interferred with, as I can't see an 8 year old doing this, I guess it could be possible, but, there is a possibility that this has been perpertrated on him, and caused him to become an abuser. I would like to hear from others that may if this can happen with an 8 year old, that has not been abused sexually himself, at a younger age.
Prayer can help you thru this, if you believe in God. Here are some links that you can post a prayer request with.
godswork.org
dailyguidepost.org
wjcr.org
Prayer for him can bring him to a place of deliverance, and can keep this from affecting you whole life, like what happened to Dawn, in the earlier post.

Here are some other links that may be of help.

http://www.coping.org/innerhealing/feelings.htm
http://www.hallvworthington.com/whyjesus.html
Sexual Abuse
Read the novel called, “The Penny” by Joyce Meyer, about abuse
http://www.safehorizon.org/

http://www.walking-wounded.net/html/christians_rape__sexual_abuse__abortion.html

http://www.4hurtingchristians.com/god_help_me_overcome_painful_memories_of_past_sexual_abuse.html

http://www.freedomintruth.org/help.htm

http://www.divinecaroline.com/browse/body-and-soul/emotional_well_being/abuse/?CMP=KNC-DC_GAW_7kw=abusegclid=CJiz3o-5rY8CFRoGQQod1AgXOg

Dr. Libbys advice: Child Advocacy Center is a full-range agency that does everything from investigation to counseling to going to court to support the child. If they live in another area, they should contact the local Social Services agency and report what is happening. Intrafamilial sexual abuse is handled by them while any perpetrator outside the family is dealt with by the state police.

If he was about 8, it would seem to me that he may have been interferred with, as I can't see an 8 year old doing this, I guess it could be possible, but, there is a possibility that this has been perpertrated on him, and caused him to become an abuser. I would like to hear from others that may if this can happen with an 8 year old, that has not been abused sexually himself, at a younger age.
Prayer can help you thru this, if you believe in God. Here are some links that you can post a prayer request with.
godswork.org
dailyguidepost.org
wjcr.org
Prayer for him can bring him to a place of deliverance, and can keep this from affecting you whole life, like what happened to Dawn, in the earlier post.

Here are some other links that may be of help.

http://www.coping.org/innerhealing/feelings.htm
http://www.hallvworthington.com/whyjesus.html
Sexual Abuse
Read the novel called, “The Penny” by Joyce Meyer, about abuse
http://www.safehorizon.org/

http://www.walking-wounded.net/html/christians_rape__sexual_abuse__abortion.html

http://www.4hurtingchristians.com/god_help_me_overcome_painful_memories_of_past_sexual_abuse.html

http://www.freedomintruth.org/help.htm

http://www.divinecaroline.com/browse/body-and-soul/emotional_well_being/abuse/?CMP=KNC-DC_GAW_7kw=abusegclid=CJiz3o-5rY8CFRoGQQod1AgXOg

Dr. Libbys advice: Child Advocacy Center is a full-range agency that does everything from investigation to counseling to going to court to support the child. If they live in another area, they should contact the local Social Services agency and report what is happening. Intrafamilial sexual abuse is handled by them while any perpetrator outside the family is dealt with by the state police.

THE SAME KiND OF THiNG HAPPENED TO ME..BUT HE LiVED iN THE APARTMENT ABOVE ME..YOUR PARENTS WONT GET MAD..iTS JUST THAT PROLLi 1 OF THERE BiGGEST FEAR HAS COME TRUE...WHEN i TOLD MY MOM i WENT THROUGH 5 THERAPSTS ALL THiS SHYT..iT COULD BE FOR THE BEST OR THEYLL BE WAYY MORE PROTECTiVE..iTS YOUR DECiSiON..iT PROLLi iS BETTER BUT iDK..

no i dont think anything happent to him as a young kid his mum wouldnt hurt him for the world and his dad aint always their he is in the navy so he aint thier offter

yes you should sit down and talk with your parents and let them decide what course of actions there is to be taken. just know that they love you. Don't worry about the repercussions, those problems are not yours anymore to deal with or to carry, and it doesn't matter if you didn't like what he was doin or if you did at the time, its still not right.

tell your mom,don;t wait

dear woody, my opion is that you should most definately tell your parents what has happened this is a very serious thing an shud NOT b brushed under the capet, it is very serious an wrong what has happened to you an I know you are frighten of telling your parents an maybe you think ule get in2 trouble or you dont want to get your cousin in2 trouble but its not your fault at all not in the slightest single way dont blame yourself you didnt ask for it 2 happen,your parents will not be angry with you they will want to know an be grateful that you had the confidence 2 tell them wots happening, dear woody your parents will help you though this awful time in your life ,an they will take the appropriet action that needs must, I am shocked at what you said about your (possible father / brother) that you have told them I cant b.leve they havent spoken 2 your mum,dad about it straight away b.because they should of done it is very hard for you I know, but please tell your parents what is happening they can help you it doesnt do you any good at all 2 keep it locked up away inside you to be honest it will just eat away at you,get help IMMEDIATELEY please let me know how you get on fun mail me xx

my mayb bro and dad aint told any one because I asked them no to and they have done what I have asked and I still aint told my perents and I dont think I every will but I have got a bigger think going on in my life atm that I have told my dad and he is helping me get throung it and thank you of all your answers

you need to tell someone cux it will only get worse. if he haesnt tried to rape you he will try. silense is only hurting you and the people who care about you.