What should i say to my mom about this issue?

okay for this question im looking for some advise from parents. I'm 21 years old and a responisble person. I work 40 hrs a week, never miss a day, im a full time college student, I take care of a lot of things around the house. I pay my parents rent and...

never ask for a dime. My mom found a condom wrapper in my trash bag because, well she was probably looking bc theres no reason to look in someones trash. She just came to me saying she was very disappointed in me and didnt want to talk about it bc she didnt want to blow a gasket(and since I was on my way out). Sex is not spoken about in my house. Still never got the birds and the bee talk. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months so its not a random guy. We're both got checked out and we're clean. She should be happy or atleast at ease that her 21 yr old daughter is being safe about sex. What do I say to her about this issue? I have a horrible relationship with her and we hardly ever see eye to eye on anything. Pleaseee help.

No matter how old you are it will still be hard for a parent to find out that their child is having sex. If you were my daughter I would be glad that you're being responsible but I would still find it shocking, especially if I found out the way that she did.

As for what to say to her...just tell her that you're being responsible and careful and let it go, listen to what she has to say but don't argue about it because this will only reinforce her belief that you're too young.

I dont think anyone should go through anyones trash even if they are your parnets

well I dont see ho your mom expect you to tell her any thing aboutur sex life when she as never had the takl with you im in the same boat that your in im 20 the inly thing my mom as said to me and bout sex is dont do it and what happens when you tell some one not to do some thing? there gonna do it. but any way your any adult now and you need to confront your my for crist sake they got you payin rent so technically its not like your disrespectin there house. your just gonna have to talk to her cause I mean whjat dose she want you to do wait until your 50

I agree with Colethky, you should explain what steps you've taken to make sure you're safe and then see what she says. At 21 you are an adult, but still living in your parent's home. Maybe your mum is having trouble letting go of you, many mothers do.
She's probably uptight about sex because that's how she was brought up. You sound to me to be quite mature and sensible. Try to understand and be compassionate to your mum, and maybe she'll soften towards you. Sometimes a nice letter or card can really help break a deadlock.
Hope this helps.
All the best.
Frances

At 21 there isent much she can do..she is going to be upset letting you go...but you have to move on sometime...also..I would consider moveing out maby...not saying you need to..but start looking into your own appartment/condo...its a lot more private..but hope this helps

what the hell.. you're 21 years old. you don't have to explain yourself. just be assertive in what you want, but do it with respect and dignity 'cause she's still your mom, but you're an adult, so act like one. I suggest you say:

Ma, he already tore my a$$ out, it's done, I done f*cked him, that's it. get over it.