Am I a wimp because I don't want to hurt her?

I want to have sex with my girlfriend, and we love each other so very much, we are both virgins, but I know it will hurt her a lot. (physically) does that fear of hurting her make me a wimp?

Answer #1

its ok your not a wimp you just want 2 take care of your girl and use foreplay,lube,condoms and portection like her on the pill or somthing good luck>>

Answer #2

No it doesn’t. Its very natural to afraid the first time. Just make sure that both you and your girlfriend are ready..

Answer #3

That is understandable. Just have a lot of foreplay to make sure that she is very lubricated and relaxed (extra lube like KY is a plus) and remember to take your time. And make sure you use protection.

The more lubricated she is the less pain she will feel.

Answer #4

we are ready and stuff, and I will use protection, but im just afraid of making her go through the pain

Answer #5

thats incredibly sweet of you and you are def not a wimp.

Just some advice… wait for the right moment, take your time with foreplay, pay really close attention to her and her body and do everything to turn her on, then just be gentle (you can even ask if she’s ready/or she’ll tell you) and go slow. Trust me, if you are gentle, careful, and slow the first time it won’t hurt as much as you think… actually she’ll like it :)

Answer #6

NO! I think it is VERY! sweet of you to be afraid tof hurting her that just shows you care about her and her feeling. you are not a wimp for not wanting to her your girlfriend. and it all just depends on if you both are ready or not. YOU ARE SO SWEET I WOULD KILL TO HAVE EVRY BOY ON EARTH TO BE AS SWEET AND SENSITIVE AS YOU!

Answer #7

just wondering no reason:D

Answer #8

ok :)

Answer #9

It’s not being a wimp if you’re worrying about a loved one’s safety.

Answer #10

Yes I am. Me and my boy have been together for over a year now

Answer #11

21 why?

Answer #12

o, um, how old are u saucy? weve been together 1/2 years

Answer #13

ok:D like are u in a relationship saucy?

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