How can I get some self-esteem when my parents say this stuff?

how can I have self-esteem when my mom is always telling me that I'm ugly, fat & that no guys will ever want to date me [she doesnt even approve of me dating im 15]
when I see my friends w/boyfriend not that I feel a need to have one itz just at that moment my mom wordz really gets to me & it hurts real bad. when I do sports she tells me to get home, when I stop I call me "pig", "lazy", "good for nothing"
she makes me feel like a piece a sh!t I feel worth less

what am I suppose to do?
how do I can get my self-esteem & confidance back w/all those insults my mom throwz at me?
how can I be me again?

please help me I really need help.
'because of her I started to think about commiting suicide {no worries I stopped...I guess}

please help
thx you so very much

You can't let someone else decide who you are going to be. You are worth so much more than that. You have sooo much potential. It's also very possible that your mom is saying these things to you because when she was 15, she couldn't get a boyfriend, and maybe she was lazy and felt like she was good for nothing. and she never let go of that, and now she's taking it out on you. And the thing about suicide... I don't think I completely believe you. I've been there, definitely tried that, and trust me, its no way to go. I know your only 15 and you might think something along the lines of, "I can't make it through life like this, I don't know how much more I can take." But when you feel like that...when you feel like you have so far to go, just remember how far you've come. Don't give up. Your an amazing person, I'm sure. && you have so much potential. Just don't listen to your mom. I know that's hard to do, because I know EXACTLY how you feel...but it's possible. And it's the only thing you can do. You need to restore your self confidence. You know, everyone in this world is going to hurt you at some point in your life, you just have to choose who is worth the pain, and what is worth the pain. Don't let this ruin your life, your SOOO much better than that. & I believe in you.

(:

♥ marissa.

thx

Wow.
I really know what you mean.
My mom used to/still does the exact same thing.

I actually tried to kill myself, but I found all I really needed was to block her out, and consentrate on myself.
I mean.. I know she's your mom and all, but don't listen to what she has to say. She shouldn't be saying that stuff to you. That's gay. I just learned that, all I needed was someone who udnerstood me, and someone who won't judge me.

I'm guessing your mom had a rough childhood though? because I think she's just reflecting her hurt feelings on you. Although that's not right, I've seen that happen SO many times before.

So yeah.
We should talk sometime(:

thx you all 4 your help

you need to stop focusing on all the things that your mother says and just worry about what you think. now if you think what your mother tells you than you have to focus on the good aspects in your life instead of the bad crappy ones. and you shouldnt ever think about sucide because think of all the people that love you and how sad and depressed they would beee. (:

Dear lonelyheart,
First of all this is child abuse...you need to seek out a counsellor at school and sit and talk about your options. All of you that have this type of life at home are being abused. Tell an aunt, uncle or trusted adult about what is happening. When a parent is speaking to their child this way it is the adult with the problem...perhaps they have psychological problems, depression, alcoholism, low self-esteem etc. They are the ones who need help. It is not your responsibility to get them the help but it is up to you at this point to get help for yourself. This type of abuse will lead you to many, many problems later on in your life. Your all old enough to do something for yourself by speaking with someone who can give you clear options. Just think you will not only be helping yourself but eventually you will be helping your parents and perhaps any siblings you may have.
Sue...good luck

wow thats bad!
it seems like my dad hates me all the time
and loves my brother. but enougf about me
you should maybe talk to your dad about it
if hes nicer to you or someone close to you
like maybe your aunt or uncle whos been with
your mom all there life! dont listen to what your
mom says to you to (listen to the good, and ignore
the bad) you really need to talk to her or someone
how you fell trust me!!
HOPE I HELPED

insult her back thats what I did and my mom dont callme names anymore cause she knows that it hurts to be insulted now