Why is it so hard to find someone?

Why is it so hard to come across a nice, fun, down to earth girl??
This sounds desperate haha but seriously I've been keepin my eyes open for someone that just makes me happy cause Im ready to settle down again, but I always find somethin that turns me off. Im not picky, but Im not going to lower my standards just to be in a relationship. Im always gettin told that Id be the perfect boyfriend, even my last two ex's tell me I've been the best boyfriend they could have asked for... hope that doesnt come out cocky but Im trying to make the point that Im a good guy. I miss being in a relationship, but just about every girl that has the personality I like somehow I cant see me being with them.

maybe youre just trying too hard. ull find someone eventually but let the come to you. if youre the great boyfriend you say you are then im sure ull have no problem finding a nice, fun, down to earth girl

o thanx 4 your answer btw

STOP LOOKING
If you stop looking for a girl one will show up take your time and get to know a few girls then the one you like.. do what you got to go to make her like you. I'm sure your not being cocky because I tell my boyfriend he's the best boyfriend I've had and he is. Just because it's their opinion. I'm sorry your having trouble finding a girl but give it time it took my current boyfriend and I to tell eachother we liked eachother for 2 years. All the time we spend trying to make the other say what they felt. It finally happened. Just remember somone is always there your just not seeing them.

I 100% agree with xxlovehurtsbabexx!!!

Thanks, you guys are right. I've told people that same advice before, I guess its just different when your the one looking. Thanks.

I think you should do the same as the other girls said but dont be sooo fast to settle down you still have your whole life ahead of you one lucky girl will find you and ull find that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with... if rush into it you may end up with someone you cant stand and never get along with hope I helped ~kaitlyn~

I am in the same thing. The guys I like never seem to be the right one. I want someone whos funny, doesnt care about looks, and is sweet. I dont really care what they look like, and I dont see why a lot of the girls at my school do.

Slooowww down

It's ok to look, it's natural and you're going to do it anyways.. just don't look so hard. She could be walking past you at any moment but you'd be too busy analyzing every girl that you passed and wouldn't notice. I know once you want a relationship, you want it right then, and don't want to have to be patient. But, she'll come along, I promise. There are tons of down-to-earth girls out there.

And being picky is NOT a bad thing! Of course you shouldn't have to lower your standards just to have a relationship with someone. I used to always get called "prude" and such because I was always SO picky about guys.

But anyways, she'll come along...

stop looking...I can guarantee you that when you "give up" u'll find her

Well I agree to a certian extent about what everyone else said, stop looking, and then you'll find her. But at the same time if your eyes aren't watching, even ever so slightly, then you may literally run right into this girl and not really even give it a second thought. So I'm feeling a bit of both sides here, I don't know, I guess that's just kinda how I handle it. Depending on what kind of relationship you are talking about, I would maybe suggest handling this differently, I mean are you thinking marriage, or just a girlfriend? Both very important, I konw, but I was just thinking that if you were planning on marriage than I would definantly take it slowly, but what do I know, everyone is different. Like someone else said already, there are so many down to earth girls out there, and they'er really not hard to find, all of my friends are down to earth girls, and believe me the best judge for a girl is another girl, so to an extent, I would keep my eyes peeled. Hope this was helpful to you in some form or fashion!

Yea Stop Looking Let Them Come To You. Not You Go To Them. That's What I Did With My Boyfriend And We've Been Together Almost A Year Now.

definantly stop looking baby...let her come to you!!! Sometimes it's better to be single!! But then it just feels so good to have someone...and you dont sound like the cocky type of person...you seem so sweet and loving...someone gurls around here would love to have...you got to find someone that you have a lot in common with and someone who makes you happy...mabey it would just be better being friends with someone for a while first so that you can already see what the relationship is going to turn out to be like...you know what I mean??

Okay you need to stop looking she will come soon enough and when your looking for some one it takes forever trust me you will find some one I promise

I agree with all the advice these people have given you!!! You have to slow down and stop looking, before you get so frustrated and you just give up.

yes it is hard to fine someone you have thing in common.

because it has to be the perfect one and perfection is rare.

I know it's hard when you want a girlfriend, but I also say she'll come to you when you least expect it.
the only way I've found men is by not looking.
it works!
good luck.