How to get my parents to allow me to date now?

hey! my parents want me to date at 18…why? Im 16 , I feel im mature now… I have spoken to them about it but they havent given me a straight answer , my mum says your to young and you have your life ahead of you to find someone. My papa wants me to be a young mum , age 21 and 22 meaning he would like me to be married yet they want me 2 start dating @ 18…I want 2 be a young mum well I want 2 b a mum now. If anything comes to your mind with this issue just respond please xoxo

Answer #1

your parents know whats best. if they think your to young try to convince them otherwise by acting mature…but whatever you do dont disobey them…if you get caught they’ll be more strict then be 4

Answer #2

silverwings…how old were u when u had ur 1st bf? xoxo

Answer #3

Congratz Tilt a whirl!

Do you have msn?

So is this your first boyfriend?

xoxo prison101

Answer #4

i sorta went through the same thing. my parents told me i couldnt date until i was 16 but i got more mature and i guess they saw that, so the ended up letting me when i wuz about 13.

Answer #5

I’m 15, Currently In Year Ten (Only For A Couple More Weeks Though ^_^) When I Finish My HSC I Will Be 17. This Means I’ve Got Around Two More Years Of Being “Dateless”. Though I Plan To Talk To My Mother About It Again After My 16th Birthday Next Year. As Far As I Can See It’s No Longer The Age, It’s My Well Doing At School. Which I Can Understand Her Worrying About It, Though I Do Plan To Get A Good Education Either Way.

Oh & We’ve Been Going Out For Around Four Months.

Answer #6

Thank You (:

No I Don’t Have MSN, Sorry.

& No His Not My First, But He Is My Longest & Has Been The Best By Far <3

Answer #7

obviously ‘amblessed’ is a mother and needs to shut up. you dont want motherly advice… dont you date behind their back???i mean geezzz… and you should ask them for straight answers and tell them you are growing up and your smart enough to know not to get attached to jerks who only want sex. you just want to date people before its to late. and its like the 21st century. times have changed since they were kid so tell them not to give you some ‘ well when i was your age..’ answer. i hate those.

Answer #8

sashad, did you bother to check your information before ‘bad-mouthing’ another’s opinion/advice (the purpose of this site) ? - So: 1) I’m a Parent and 2) am entitled to my own personal opinion 3) obviously, you have the right to be wrong - when I’m wrong I admit it, you ?…Take care !!

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Answer #9

You live in their house - their rules - they gave you their reasons for not right now - your parents should be respected - they obviously love you and are looking after your best interests - just have a little patience, time passes quickly and you can move on and take on those large responsibilities…I wish you the best !!

Answer #10

My Mother Also Will Not Allow Me To Date Until I’m Older. She Says That I’m Not To Date Until I’ve Finished My HSC.

While I Can Understand How It Is Annoying Not Being Allowed To Date (Especially When Your Friends Are) Your Parents Probably Have Good Reasons For Not Letting You, They May Be Worried It Will Interfer With Your School Work & Results.

My Mother Also Used The ‘No One Is Good Enough For My Daughter’ Routine.

I Am Currently Using The ‘Dating Behind Their Back’ Option, Which May Not Work With Everyone.

Basically When You Find The Guy You Want To Date Make Sure He Understands The Situation, And Slowly Introduce Him Into Your Family, Make It Clear That You Too Are Close And Hope Your Family Likes Him.

If This Works & They Believe His A Good Guy Then They May Loosen Up On Their Dating Rules.

DO NOT LIE To Your Parents. This Will Only Make It Harder For You In The Future. If You Want To Spend Time With Your Boyfriend Simply Tell Them You A Spending Time With A Guy (You Don’t Have To Say His Your Boyfriend). Telling Them Your Hanging Out With Someone Else Then Going To See Him Is A Bad Idea.

Of Course It’d Be Much Easier To Be Honest. Maybe You Can Come To A Middle Ground With Your Parents. Like At 17?

Answer #11

You can’t possibly believe how much better off you will be to wait.. Right now, is the time you need to be investing in you.. learning how to be the best person that you can be, preparing for your future. You have the rest of your life to live it your way, so do your self a favor, and don’t rush it.. Life is not a bowl of cherries… and you can’t be too prepared for it, the more mature you are, the better off your future will be. They are not keeping you at home for themselves.. they are doing this for you, even though you can’t understand it. When you have a child of your own, and see how precious they are, and how much you love them… then.. you probably won’t want them to date until they are 20..or so.. your prospective changes drastically… when you have a child of your own… God Bless…

Answer #12

dear sashad! yeah well dating benhind there bak in a thing i could but thats when ur going out wif sum1…it cant work wen ur single…lol yeah i have lied 2 bout wear i have gone but i just dont undastand y 18…mi fatha wants me 2 b married @ 21 or 22 n have kids but wont let me d8 until im 18 but mi mum iz more in2 the d8 until ur 18 so mayb if i was gonna go out wif sum1 b4 then , then dere minds mite change…i suppose there just trying 2 lk afta me but pissing me off @ da same time…whats ur advice pplz? xoxo p.s gt a gd way i can meet guyz? p.p.s check out mi photos if u want…lol xoxo

Answer #13

Dear Tilt a whirl ,

How old are you? (It says you 15 , but you mentioned HSC that means when finsihing year 12 so you would be 17 or 18) I have spoken to them about since posting up the question and they say if something comes up we will talk about it.

So how long have you been going out with your boyfriend?

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