Are these real friends?

ok so for the last year I have been made fun of by my friends, and I would make fun of them back,it was a "norm" for our group, but then I stopped calling them Phaggs and such because we are almost adults and I do not see people doing the normally, I got mad at my best friend for just making me feel stupid. My friends make jokes about my boyfriend, knowing it annoys me....and she keeps on bringing up my ex boyfriend, I still love him and she tells me how much he's over me, and I mean I love Dustin I just am attached to my last ex because he was my first ...... and he had a new girlfriend fast.......

Also,
Is this a" Friend"? ok I use to do amtgard, and now the leader wants me to give him stuff so he can do stuff, problem is if I step in the PUBLICPARK the group will ignore me, I am banned from ever showing my face there and he completely blows me off all the damn time. He is an jerk to me. and then he yells at me and then asks why I hate the game so much. I got my ex, the one I love, into it and because he dumps me and the guy is his friend too I am banned.... then people ask why I am so mad all the time, do I have the right?

Regarding the first problem, you are maturing and your friend isn't. From age 18-25, you will find you are spending most of your social activities ending friendships that aren't maturing, and seeking out more mature friends. That is, if you are maturing yourself. So if you want to try to get your friend with the program, tell her you don't appreciate hearing how much a boy is over you and to keep any jokes or opinions about your current boyfriend to herself. If she can't hang with it, phase her out.

Regarding your second problem, I really don't understand what it is you're talking about so I can't help you there.

You really should pay attention to your education