What is up with my supposed promise ring?

m going to start by saying -- this has to do with christmas. my boyfriend told me in july he was getting me a promise ring at christmas (we've been together 2 years 2 months) and I've been wondering about it lately bc he hadnt really said anything...

about it. well, he told my friend Miranda that he would have gotten me one, but his dad said he couldnt, that a necklace or bracelet would be better. (more about that later).
well he told her he was getting me a necklace. which I would totally love !! except...I told him to be creative with my present this year, and I was right there when my OTHER friend, Lindsay, said a necklace would be cool bc her boyfriend of 4 months got her one, and she thinks about him every time she wears it. how is that CREATIVE?? so I was like telling Miranda about the whole Lindsay telling him that thing, and she was like OMG, he was going to get you a necklace...and I was like..well thats sweet, except for the 0% creativity part, and then I read a text from him to her and realized they had been talking. and she told him I said that about the necklace, so he was like omg, I think im just going to go talk to my dad about the ring, bc I still really want to get her one !!!

sooo now I better tell you about the dad thing. he won't let my boyfriend get me one (well, I think he still is) but he let philips BROTHER get HIS girlfriend one a YEAR ago. and they've been together only a YEAR AND A HALF to this DAY. what's the deal? I think that's stupid. and his dad likes me, I know he does. plus, all his brother and his girlfriend do is argue, and me and my boyfriend are best friends.

so im kinda pissed and confused.
sorry if that was hard to follow, please help, any questions, just ask!!!

Yeah, that's messed up, he shouldn't really be concerned about what his son is buying you for Christmas... your profile says you're almost 18! He should stand up to his dad and maybe explain to him about why he wants to get it for you! I know girls who have gotten promise rings when they were 13! It is not as big of a deal as he is making it out to be and you two have been together for a while! How old is his brother and why did he let him get a ring for his g/f after only 6 months of dating her?

his brother is a year older than us. and when he got her one, it was about a year ago, so that's pretty stupid in my opinion. I think his brother just didn't TELL his dad that was what he was getting her. but his dad definitely knew right after, and he didn't care. I don't know what the big deal is...really.

Tell him to just get you one anyway if that's the case! What can he do about it after it is already on your hand? YOUR dad should be the one with a problem, if anything!

lol. that's what I think.
I mean, my mom already knows he wanted to get me one.
he told her ! she was fine with it, amazingly. he told her about his dad and all she said was to just wait until his dad felt comfortable with it. which it would be fine with me to wait, if it wasn't for his brother and his girlfriend already passing that step already, and his dad not saying anything.

I completely agree with Heather, You guys are plently old enough to make that decision, and your boyfriends father shouldn't set double standards for the two boys. I would just let your boyfriend know that if thats what he wants to do then thats what he should do. I was around your age when I got my promise ring.

A promise ring should be his own decision.. not his dad.

But I feel bad for your boyfriend because he prob. feels in a bind about what to get you. especially since you said you wanted something creative.. A necklace is a nice gift.. and so is a ring- but neither is exactly creative- its a gift.

Go easy on him if he cant get a ring-- Guys arnt all that great at being creative!!

um well, where the hell is the creativity in giving you a promise ring? you make no sense..

tinatodder4: they were completely different parts of the post, if you didn't understand it, ask about it...don't assume.

the rest of you : haha, i just found out he's getting me one anyways. his dad was like, you can get her a ring, but you cant call it a promise ring. and he told my friend he didnt care what his dad said -- it was a promise ring.

haha.

Yay! You only have 4 more days... how excited are you?!

lol. im prettay excited. he doesnt know i know though...im still gonna be all happy when i get it, thats for sure. and i dont know what it looks like (: