What to do when my boyfriend is tearing my family apart?

After being divorced with two children for the past 5 years, and dating numerous, numerous, people, I think I have finally found the one that I want to be wtih for the rest of my life. Although he can be controlling and jealous, I love the relationship that we have. He doesnt drink and party (like most my ex's and friends do) and I admire him for that. We get up early in the mornings and have coffee at the picnic table. We enjoy going out dancing on occassion. Back in December he asked my daughter permission to marry me. She said yes. I asked my children if they approved of him living with us and they both said yes. Once he moved in and started being a part of the raising of the children, my daughter (15 years old), now decides she doesnt like him. She said he changed me and I am more strict. That is true only because I am not out partying and drinking all the time. None of my friends like him either for the same reasons ~ even my best friend wont come over to the house anymore. My daughter is now living with her dad (and gets to stay out all night if she wants because he doesnt care) and she says she wont move back unless I make my fiance move out. Half the time I think that I should just kick him out so I can have my daughter and my friends back, but the other half of me says forget what they all think and I need to make myself happy. I forgot to mention that my son who is 10 has a great relationship with this man (better than with his own father). My fiance built him a treehouse and now helps coach his football team. I am so confused ~~~ Any suggestions ? (P.S. my daughter and I are currently going through counseling to see if we can all eventually have a workable family relationship)..

Your daughter is going through a great deal of change in her life and finding things difficult. It is natural for teen girls and their mothers to fall out to some extent.

You only get one chance at life. It's what makes you happy that is important. If you think this guy is the one you want to be with then stick with him. It would be such a shame to break something special.

If things do go wrong with the relationship then your real friends will still be there for you. If they are not then they weren't worth knowing anyway.

Your daughter will probably start to settle in 5 years or so whatever the issues.

I say stick with it and I wish you all the best of luck

This guy is tearing your family and friends apart.

He sounds like a great guy and if you really love him go for it don't listen to your friends and if they aren't there for you now then were they really your friends to being with... later on your daughter will find out what she is doing isn't right and that the only reason why she acting this way is because you aren't as strict as you once were and she really hates that special now that she is in a stage that she wants to hang out with her friends all night and you don't let it .. but its going to pass as she gets older and more mature... I know that for a fact and you should be like that since teen party are very crazy and lots of things can happen .. so make sure you take care of her as well as your boy.. well good luck and hope that helps... o by the way ... no one like my b/f either but I am still with him since I know how much he is worth and how much I can lose( trust me that is something you don't want to reget later in life like some girls do b/c they listen to their friends or family) ..since I know if I do ever want to leave him is b/c I wanted to and fall out of love with him and not because people told me to break up with him and that he is not good for me..

If your friends and daughter really cared about you they would let him live with you and not give you a hard time about it.